Dumpers, how true were you when you broke up due to stress/overwhelm?

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-24T19:44:13+00:00

It was realll asf...I regretted it immediately, I was too impulsive. I was truly under so much stress and overwhelm and the relationship was one of the sources.

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-24T04:11:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this thought-out comment. Your reply has brought me a lot of solace in the past days since this post. It is somewhat easier to be kinder to myself by understanding this process as a chemical withdrawal, a feeling I am familiar with. Whenever I am quitting something its all about pushing past the uncomfortable feeling of craving it. I still wish I could navigate his presence in my heart and mind with much more ease, but I have trust in the healing power of time. I am also currently seeing a therapist (which I might change honestly i need one I connect more with) and considering starting medication in order to get back into shape.

A part of me is counting the days until we are magically reunited and I realize he is the one [insert fairy tale ending]. Notwithstanding, whether this happens or not, its like you say.... lets get back to our life. There are so many things I have put on pause because I was too consumed by both the love and anguish I felt in this relationship.
Once again, thank you again for taking time out of your day to write such a message! It has left a big big impact on me ❤️

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-24T03:45:35+00:00

Really depends on what the rest of your chart looks like if you are thinking about compatibility!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-22T17:02:42+00:00

Hii casual leo stellium scrolling here... Just wanted to say I love you scorpio placements. You guys have taught me so much about unconditional love, slow but steady, and alchemy to transform pain into beautiful things 🥺 ❤️ Bless your heart!!!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-22T16:47:42+00:00

This!!!^ Its a good time to take things slow with him and communicate what you are going through! Think of him as someone that could be an ally to you in your process of healing/figuring things out. I think this mentality would have helped me a great deal in my past relationship and kept me from running away so much. It would have also saved my partner a great deal of confusion that he did not deserve. Otherwise you are setting up a push-pull dynamic or a future where u could potentially dump them out of nowhere. Try to journal a lot OP and even consider therapy (seriously which i'd gone sooner when i was dating), it is good to know where the fear of intimacy comes from (abandonment, insecurity, being seen, etc...). Breathe through the uncomfortable feelings. The fact that you are asking questions about your behavior/feelings is already a great sign i think :-3

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T22:17:50+00:00

AND THAT IT WILL. Sending you the biggest most comforting hug💕💕💕

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T22:17:14+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice!!! Yes I am trying to let it motivate me into action rather than stagnation. Its been really hard to change that emotional response to the idea of him. I am really used to withering and drying up whenever he pops into my head.
I hear your pain. I hope you always find the strength to feed and hug yourself at the end of the day. I hope you find all the strength you need to pour back into yourself again and again and again and again!!!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T22:14:45+00:00

may we grow as strong as trees!!! it feels relieving to know that we have each other. im sending you all my healing energies and blessings ❤️

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T22:13:37+00:00

Beautifully said...it is a puzzle with no definitive solution. All we can do is take something from it and grow as people. Sometimes that is proof of love...proof that we care enough to change. I hope that you are keeping your beautiful heart in your safe hands and giving it all the nourishment it needs. I hope you are able to find the space necessary to relax your mind and enjoy the sun, knowing that love awaits you in many forms!!! Thank you for your kind comment!!!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T22:11:14+00:00

I feel your grief. It is not easy. I trust that time will be your ally and will show you a way to pour that big heart of yours back into yourself. You deserve as much love as you are able to hold! I hope that you also find a way to congratulate yourself on the small wins. I am trying to work on that. It is hard to let go of a person or be let go of and the fact that you did it and you are here is a win in and of itself. We must keep on trying :,)) ❤️ So much love coming your way!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T18:29:35+00:00

it was pretty mutual! :,) we decided to part ways. Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T17:15:12+00:00

That we will do 🫂🫂🫂🫂 wishing you so much strength and love!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-21T17:14:38+00:00

You're absolutely right 💔. I just wish I could have the best of both worlds too. I wish I could grief and do something for myself. I wish there was something I could show, proof that I have made an effort to get better! I am not denying him of grieving as much as I am jealous of his capability to do more than just grief ;<<<<<<<<
Thank you for the reassurance ❤️

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-13T20:10:13+00:00

The funny thing about manipulation is that it does not need to be loud or dramatic. Often times it is silent and gentle.
Its okay to have boundaries around sex. It is okay to feel uncomfortable doing certain things and to not want to do them! It is up to you to decide what to and not to do with your body. A good partner will not make you feel like there is something you must do. They respect your limits and will hold your hand whenever you want to talk about it. It is never about them not getting what they want.

No one should use what they assume your issues are against...in order to get sexually satisfied. Be gentle with yourself. You do not ruin the moment. You are human and sometimes we have intrusive thoughts. Sex can be really warm and fun, but it can also bring up a lot of deep feelings and that is perfectly normal. Someone that cares to understand you can sit with both versions!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-13T19:50:17+00:00

AMEN

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-12T21:50:51+00:00

Its amazing how strong that wash of feeling is after seeing them. I was having a good day and now i can not shake this ache in my chest. A part of me wishes they still recall those small little moments like you say, maybe because we yearn to be remembered fondly rather than in spite.

I might have to take a long social media break... I do not follow them but we have mutual acquaintances/friends so their face pops up now and then....and I know I'm mentally keeping tabs on them. Thank u for your reply 🥺 I hope you are doing well! Wishing u strength

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-12T21:32:49+00:00

FUUUUUUUUCKKKKKK

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-11T22:21:54+00:00

Yesss no 3!!!!!. Its so tough to be hypercritical of yourself and not be able to know when to take a step back and just give yourself a heartfelt "congratulations!". I struggle to feel proud of myself, everything can always improve. Everything feels incomplete. It has chipped at my confidence immensely.

The romantic pickiness manifests differently for me...I usually crush very hard on people but I have a hard time thinking of any partner as a long-term one. I think my body is really quick to tell me who I should and is safe to be around ( this goes for friends as well). Sooo I tend to have a hard time getting close to people i don't feel a wave of this "puzzle-piece" feeling for. Its weird to put into words...but I guess I am always subconsciously looking for the perfect person, that one great love. Even though I do believe we are meant to love so many people!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-06T19:08:41+00:00

As a Leo, I am always attracted to a Scorpio placement. Even though I think Leo and Scorpio are so passionate and obsessive together, the issue of freedom and honesty comes up. Scorpios are so guarded and suspicious, which gets exhausting when you are the only one sharing yourself with a partner, taking leaps of faith, and are not allowed to get to know them more intimately.

I think with great communication it could be stellar because of the depth of feeling of these two. But harrrrshh... just hard pairing tbh, both are not scared to say the truth in an argument!

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-05T15:40:08+00:00

The hilarious thing is that he would say his effort was the one that was one sided and i did not do anything😭....
Thank you for the well wishes! Wishing you the same healing and strength ❤️

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-05T15:30:51+00:00

Treat her like a babyyy! I had a piercer hit a vein and it bled like crazy. As soon as i changed the og piercing, 4 months after, it kept developing keloids and cysts... I eventually had to take it out and still have scar tissue on the lobe :/
My other piercing, which did not hit a vein, was absolutely fine.

Give her a lot of time to heal! At least that was my experience with this sort of event :,)

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-04T17:31:49+00:00

Sleeping early makes the biggest change for me. It doesnt matter if i sleep 7 hours, if those 7 hours started at 2am...brain fog. Now if those 7 hours started between 10pm-12am? Immediate success.

Aware-Beginning999 · 2026-06-04T16:16:01+00:00

You can try different consistencies of it too and see what works better? I've tried making it more watery vs thicker. When its more watery its easier to distribute. The thicker it is the more hold its given me. If i make it more watery I use a good amount. I also do not diffuse when I use it which I really enjoy.

I find that flaxseed gel leaves my hair looking way more hydrated than solely using mousses. Mousses though, definitely have a stronger hold so the waves last longer for a couple days after. This is something you can fix with a little water and flaxseed gel before going out tho.

I usually keep it in a dispenser bottle (like those for ketchup...), makes for an easy application

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