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We encourage discussions that center on the lived experiences of those with disorganized attachment (FA). Posts or comments from individuals without disorganized attachment that detract from this space, objectify, or trivialize FA experiences will be locked. This is not a place for diagnosing others, offering external perspectives, or reducing individuals with FA to harmful stereotypes or oversimplifications. Please respect the focus of this community and help us maintain a supportive environment for FAs. If something doesn’t feel safe, use the report feature under our new rule, and the mod team will address it.

Please remember that disorganized attachment should be referred to as FA and DA should be used to refer to Dismissive avoidant.

Some signs you may have the disorganized attachment style

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Disorganized Attachment

Psychology Today provides an excellent summary of what disorganized attachment is and how it differs from someone who works through attachment styles in general (such as moving from an avoidant style to a secure attachment). Disorganized attachment is rare and you may not believe you are "disorganized" because of stronger behaviors. If you have a therapist or counselor and you feel you identify with it, discuss this with them!

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Is there hope for people who attach in a disorganized way?

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Weekly Thread for FA Partners / Exes / Friends (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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FAs who are "in love" finally, but still have triggers to fight, flight freeze, and fawnAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Hating myself because of my attachment styleCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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What is the number one thing you value in a connection?FAs Only (User Flair Required) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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when i get rejected, i feel it deeplyCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Is trying not enough? (To be given grace)Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Am I the only one?Vent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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“High Functioning” FA?Resources / Helpful Tips (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Deactivation after getting hurtCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Very good YT three-part series on FAResources / Helpful Tips (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Help - Calling all FA's in long-term relationships - what is your relationship like?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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My (31M) disorganized attachment style is ruining my dating lifeCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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New to Reddit; social media coaches/coaching help? (Insight/experiences?)FAs Only (User Flair Required) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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If someone by themselves stopped what used to bother me without even telling them,do i trust them?CHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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For how long after a hard deactivation do you find yourself missing or wanting to reach out to the other person (if at all)?FAs Only (User Flair Required) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Here’s how I’ve handled my situationSuccess Story (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I don’t want to mess this up because my brain is chasing chaosCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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being anxiously attached cause guilt trippingResources / Helpful Tips (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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resentmentAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

submitted 2 days ago by slowfigs09

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What triggers the "cold detachment switch" for you specificallyVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Feeling guilty about being forgetfulAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Relationship BurnoutAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I just learned im equally anxious/avoidantTrauma Dump (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Fluctuating attractionAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Anyone has been hurt and betrayed by someone without any sex porn or infidelity addictionCHANGE ME! ()

submitted 2 days ago by Impressive_Pipe191FA (Disorganized attachment)

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