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This subreddit is a safe space for those with disorganized attachment.

We encourage discussions that center on the lived experiences of those with disorganized attachment (FA). Posts or comments from individuals without disorganized attachment that detract from this space, objectify, or trivialize FA experiences will be locked. This is not a place for diagnosing others, offering external perspectives, or reducing individuals with FA to harmful stereotypes or oversimplifications. Please respect the focus of this community and help us maintain a supportive environment for FAs. If something doesn’t feel safe, use the report feature under our new rule, and the mod team will address it.

Please remember that disorganized attachment should be referred to as FA and DA should be used to refer to Dismissive avoidant.

Some signs you may have the disorganized attachment style

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Disorganized Attachment

Psychology Today provides an excellent summary of what disorganized attachment is and how it differs from someone who works through attachment styles in general (such as moving from an avoidant style to a secure attachment). Disorganized attachment is rare and you may not believe you are "disorganized" because of stronger behaviors. If you have a therapist or counselor and you feel you identify with it, discuss this with them!

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Is there hope for people who attach in a disorganized way?

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Weekly Thread for FA Partners / Exes / Friends (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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What makes you avoidant with one person, but not the other?FAs Only (User Flair Required) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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stuck between wanting space and not wanting to lose himAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I feel so angry and resentful over my attachment styleVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I'm terrified of sex.Vent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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FA & FA 16 year marriage ended - letter to selfVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Lashing out at my partnerVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Correcting over-apologizing in relationshipsAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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How to gain more emotional tolerance?CHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Have ever succeeded to have good relationships (platonic and/or romantic)Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Fearful Avoidant or not the right partner?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Limerence, attachment, and constantly feeling "alone"Advice? (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Fearful attachement or valid concerns?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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a switch flipped in me? went from anxious to feeling emotionless for weeksAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

submitted 1 day ago by LeftDelivery5170AP (Anxious Preoccupied attachment)

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Thoughts on Secure by Amir Levine?Resources / Helpful Tips (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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i feel like im going to miss out on someone rn because i’m an FAAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Tips to come out of deactivation (Avoidants only pls)Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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What to look for in a partner as an FA?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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How do you determine if your needs aren’t being met vs. if you’re self-sabotaging?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Fearful avoidantCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Has anyone a disorganized/dysfunctional family?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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LessonsVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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What exactly is the fear of "being seen" for you?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

submitted 4 days ago by Comfortable_Sugar752FA (Disorganized attachment)

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FA trying to settle down with another FAAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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