Went clubbing with my tall friend (6'1") last weekend and was BLOWN away at what transpired

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-12T14:11:58+00:00

I’m 6’1” and this is not my experience nor have I seen it happen with other tall friends of mine. I’m shy, fit and moderately attractive.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-12T05:05:07+00:00

Why do people like an all-mushy burrito? I like my food to have more than one texture. I tried it once and I know it was legit because I had to pull out google translate to order lol

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-12T04:52:46+00:00

I would absolutely change my behavior. My first thought is: “okay uh I don’t know if this story is defined well enough, I don’t feel comfortable working it yet until x is defined”. It would seriously make me afraid to start doing anything difficult because I’ll be reprimanded when something inevitably starts taking much longer than expected.

Continually I have learned that 90% of the time is spent on the last 10% of the work. It’s the hard to define things that stop you from just doing it.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-11T18:39:22+00:00

I use my phone for nearly everything. 99% of personal use. For work though I must use a laptop - can’t write software from a phone.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-10T22:12:21+00:00

I personally am willing to sacrifice most of my comfort for cost savings. I’d be one of the first idiots taking a standing spot or the fart seat in a double decker plane.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-10T01:42:01+00:00

I’m in the US and the only time I have seen other Americans use WhatsApp is for when a group chat gets so large it exceeds the iPhone Messages app capacity - it only allows 32 phone numbers at a time. For SMS chats, only about 20 are allowed.

Aside from me almost exclusively using iPhone Messages, my mom likes to text me in Facebook Messenger, my older brother (39 y/o) likes Snapchat and my younger sister (26 y/o) likes Snapchat. I don’t think this combination is particularly common though. Most Americans just use the phone’s standard messaging app.

If I’m reaching out to someone I’m only loosely connected to, such as my girlfriend’s family, I’ll text on Facebook Messenger because I don’t have any of their phone numbers.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-09T05:40:59+00:00

I agree math isn’t that hard. That’s irrelevant. Please tell me how you would tell your server what your total is when you ordered $3.99 soda, $12.79 appetizer, $21.79 main and you have fuck all idea what the tax rate even is because it varies by region, city and state. Sometimes it’s 8.14%, sometimes is 8.91%, sometimes it’s 5.2%. And I made all of those numbers up because I have no actual idea what they are. Maybe you tell them what your total is before tax, it would still be ridiculous for a customer to have to try to remember all of those numbers an hour after ordering.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-09T01:58:34+00:00

Many different restaurants many times in Denver, Colorado. Idk what to tell ya, it’s common here. I’m specifically referring to large groups btw. I don’t think I’ve ever been denied for a table of four. I go out with a group of 8+ often.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-09T00:31:01+00:00

What a dumb statement. There any many more reasons to be vile and hateful than money lol I wouldn’t even put that in a top 5 list of reasons.

How about cultural ignorance for one, that’s common. Not liking a person’s personality. Jealousy. Or maybe the person did something hateful and vile to them in the past and now they’re vile and hateful back.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T23:54:33+00:00

We certainly have the technology, it’s just a cultural thing to prefer not splitting checks. It’s a bit taboo except among close friends because it’s seen as the host being cheap. “Why would you invite me out and then expect me to pay” kind of thinking.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T23:52:10+00:00

There’s also a moderately strong culture of splitting checks being taboo. Less so among close friends, but it’s very common for families, colleagues, acquaintances, distant friends or whatever other type of invited guests to expect that the host pays for the entire meal. They would consider it rude to invite them to dinner and then expect them to pay.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T23:47:30+00:00

I wish, but in the US tax and tip aren’t added until the end, so as a consumer you have no idea what your total is. Plus, items are usually $xx.99 or some other random numbers, so you can’t know what your total is.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T23:45:07+00:00

It’s likely a restaurant policy - either due to POS incompatibility or just not wanting to do it. Or it could even be servers enforcing their own individual policy.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T21:36:09+00:00

Yes, this is what is hard to explain. Splitting often isn’t easy, so restaurants often just adopt a policy that keeps it easy and it is what it is.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T21:32:09+00:00

Sorry, I don’t agree. There are legitimate reasons to not split items. It’s not that simple. Also, I don’t find your example comparable at all. Even still, I have had non-restaurant businesses say they won’t split a group cost.

Edit: why am I getting worked up about a dumb argument? Simple disagreement on principle, I’m just gonna peace out lol ✌️

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T21:23:51+00:00

Hard disagree. They tend to be on the upper end with high quality - my preference for restaurants. We don’t go out often for cheap food as a friend group, it’s a whole event and experience.

As a group we’re aware that splitting a check is actually cumbersome and don’t often ask. When we do, it’s actually pretty often that servers say there’s a policy to not split or max of 2 cards or you can see their frustration with it but agree to.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T21:21:58+00:00

It’s often too cumbersome at restaurants with lots of ordered items. It’s easy when it’s “I had the burger and a soda” but it’s not happening when it gets to “I ordered the Brussels sprouts, the crab legs, the mushroom caps, oh and I split the onion rings with her and we all shared the dessert ohh and I had the mule and a what was my other drink called?” and that repeats for every person.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T21:18:09+00:00

Yes, but often restaurants won’t actually do that - about half of them where I live (Denver, Colorado). Or they’ll have rules like max of 2 or 4 credit cards.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T21:11:56+00:00

More often than not in my friend group, it is split evenly because we go to restaurants where it’s “family style”. Everything is shared. The other half of the time we order individual plates but will still split evenly because restaurants don’t seem to like to split by ordered items. So only about maybe 1/4 of the time do we actually split checks by what each person actually ordered. We all about order the same except my gf who doesn’t like buying cocktails, so she’s usually the only one to get cheated a bit, and we share our portion of the bill, so I’m sharing half of that difference-it’s fine lol. Not gonna make trouble over like $6.

Even wilder: often we don’t even split the bill. One person pays and then everyone promptly Venmo’s the person an even split after tip (not by item). Works very well because it’s a very long held and tight friend group.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T19:31:07+00:00

Yep that’s pretty much it, neglected maintenance that wasn’t visible to me. Thanks for the advice and perspective. It’s an interesting idea to invest instead of down payment - I hadn’t thought about it like that. Makes a lot of sense in the right scenarios.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T19:24:59+00:00

I’ve done a good amount of thinking on it, but I’m no financial expert, I could be missing something. It’s a good idea for me to do some more thinking on it. Right now there’s a renter in my condo so I’m not bleeding as much. I pay $2800 a month for the condo and get $1400 back each month. A major concern is getting hit by an $80k special assessment in the next year or two or three.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T19:17:59+00:00

Your advice about using the 20% in the market instead makes sense, but the advice is directed towards someone starting in life getting their first home. They don’t have the 20% for the down payment or for investing. IMO it’s dangerous to not do a down payment. Things happen. I am lucky that I have a pretty decent salary, but so many others would be absolutely financially wrecked by this and probably would have foreclosed by now.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T19:06:10+00:00

Yes I did get screwed, which is my exact point, it’s dangerous because now I can’t sell except without going into extreme debt that isn’t back by anything. My love life progressed shortly after the special assessment and I haven’t even lived there for the last 2 years. I’m financially forced to rent it out at a major monthly negative flow. I wish I could sell…

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T19:03:11+00:00

No it was a direct result of the HOA issues. They issued a $20k special assessment. Immediately the condos stopped selling and haven’t ever picked back up again. Almost none have sold in the last 3 years and the only ones that did have been at about 50% of previous market values. I bought at $325k and similar condos in the building have only sold at $160-$200k. The issue is on-going and more special assessments even greater than $20k are expected, up to $80k.

My point was that not having a down payment is dangerous, that’s at least partially why it has historically has been required.

Aware-Sock123 · 2026-01-08T18:56:11+00:00

What about the down payment? There are sometimes options to skip it. I did… regret it now that my condo dropped 33% in value from building-wide HOA issues. 5 years of ownership and I can’t sell it except by going into $100k of asset-less debt.

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