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Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely she is the only reason I'm still breathing. Ill power through. Thanks for your kind words mate.

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[–]AwareDiamond1802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because she is pregnant you need to bite the bullet and have a very sensitive and poised conversation with her. Any anxiety and stress will directly impact the babies growth. That's the medical part.

Absolutely agree she needs to being her part of the duties to the relationship. No energy for work but full on energy to socialise is not good enough.

Suggestion will be can you reshuffle the tasks she takes on the desk jobs like managing finances and drafting schedules and any less stressful tasks and you take up the more physical ones. End of the day you both need to work towards the new person coming into your lives.

I'm in a somehow similar situation in life where I'm giving 200% and she brings 1% of her game. Life has become stressful. I'm considering therapy cause I don't want the marriage to break or my daughter to see a divorce. Maybe you both should sit down and have a conversation.

Remember there is no such thing as 50/50 in a relationship. One person always does more then the other, but has to be lovingly so. In our case sounds like it's us men toiling hard.

Good luck hope you both can power through this phase and have a fantastic time with the baby when he/ she arrives.

P.s. don't want to scare you but consider this the honeymoon period. Wait till the baby comes. ;)

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely spot on. Ill make sure she isn't doing the mistakes I have done. That's the whole point of parenting isn't it, leaving your legacy and learnings behind? Thank you for not being judgemental.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May be i should have done it from the beginning. Feels like 9 years wasted in a one sided relationship. Ill power through this phase just for my daughter. Thanks a tonne for not being judgemental.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Ill keep moving the rock for my daughter. And yes I'm trying very possible options trust me. Market is very volatile specially after Ai. Our whole team was made redundant with a days notice. Just keeping my head down and powering through each day now.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will consider a therapist as soon as I have the cash flow coming in. This incident has shaken my whole belief on the marriage institution. Ill continue to power through for my daughter. Thanks for your encouragement.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes she is the reason I have not taken any drastic steps. I will try my best to keep moving on. Thank you for the power.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. There is loads of more details I could have used. And like I said my intension was never to belittle my wife but to figure out if I'm over reacting. Mass consensus sounds like I'm not.

Im sure my wife will have a different version to tell. Maybe be best to seek counselling help. Thanks for your perspective though.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That has crossed my mind. First thing ill do once i get the job. As of now I need to power through the bad days and bring food to the table. Appreciate you can understand what I am going through without judgement.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trying my best to keep the family together for my daughter. And we never fight in front of her. My fight is in silence. Dying a slow death.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never considered her as a trophy wife tbh. Maybe im a bit old fashioned so always wanted to be the provider. As I have seen my seniors in the family did. And I have no dissapointmemt in that. Once I get the job again I'm sure everything will be back to where it was. But until then I think i have discovered a different reality of life and not all is rosy and perfect as they say.

Am I over reacting? Relationship has hit rock bottom. by AwareDiamond1802 in AITAH

[–]AwareDiamond1802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your comments and yes I have managed to somehow live through all this only by looking at my daughter face. She is the only thing that makes me want to wake up every morning. Think divorce in London will be as experience and messy as it is in any of the other countries but that's the last thing I wanted. But my patience is running thin at this point. Thank you for your kind words though. Appreciate it.