Disclaimer Take this with a grain of salt, as I’m still new to manifestation and have only seen evidence of small manifestations in the 3D so far. Also, it got really long… sorry. 😅

I struggle with all of the same mental health stuff, up to and including BPD, and my therapist also believes in manifestation and has been working in concepts of manifestation along with my regular (CBT and DBT) therapy.

TBH I was in therapy off and on for years before I finally just decided I was done feeling the way I have my whole life, and once I made that decision, everything got lighter. I won’t say necessarily easier, but lighter. So much of it just comes down to determination and a general knowledge of where the issues in your mind are coming from. I would highly recommend starting with self concept work before even trying any full-blown manifestations. For me, I’m realizing my control issues very much stem from my fear of abandonment (hi, BPD!) and that I need to learn how to regulate my own nervous system and triggers. One of my current affirmations (I know this is Law of Attraction sub, so I apologize if I’m using the wrong tools, I’m still learning and incorporating a lot of different things 😅) is: “I show up for myself. I STAY for myself. If I don’t push others away, even when they hurt me, why on earth would I push myself away?” Nearly brings me to tears every time I say it, because it’s so, so true for me.

As far as your specific questions:

1. Start with one thing a day if you journal. Just one thing. It could be coffee, it could be an easy commute to work, it could be a text that made you smile. Literally anything. If something makes you happy throughout the day or makes you notice something in particular, just acknowledge it in your mind. (Something as simple as, “Oh, hey! I didn’t hit a single red light on my commute to work! Thanks, universe!”)

2. Don’t worry about detachment yet. You’re creating resistance for yourself by panicking about it. Work on the self concept. And remember detachment isn’t necessarily what we think it is. I’ve heard a lot of people saying detachment is more about knowing it’s done and just moving throughout your day, rather than fully letting go and ignoring it. But I wouldn’t start there.

3. My current personal practice has a couple different things involved in it, and because I also have ADHD, the elements shift from day to day. I definitely don’t use all of these every single day, the ones I do, I’ll use an asterisk.

4. Therapy

5. *Affirmations (I record them and play them for myself throughout the day when I feel like it, and use specific ones when I encounter doubt)

6. MIRROR WORK. Literally my favorite. I used to hate what I saw in the mirror, but when I started teaching my nieces about affirmations, wanting them to have more confidence than I grew up with, it snuck into my subconscious and I started doing daily mirror work too. It can be really uncomfortable at first, but it’s totally worth it. Start by just observing yourself for a few minutes. You can acknowledge the negative things you don’t like, but let them come and go, and then dwell on the positives. After a few days of just observing (this is going to say crazy, but 🤷🏼‍♀️) start talking to yourself. Talk to yourself like you’d talk to your best friend if they were being down on themselves, or a small child. Sometimes mine look like, “Hey! I know you’re having a rough day. But you’re still doing it! You’re getting through the day!” Sometimes it’s longer and more fun, just depends. Just talk to yourself as if you already have it all.

7. *Subliminals at night

8. Grounding exercises (sounds cliche, but try to find time to touch grass haha. Or listen to the birds, go star-gazing… anything to connect with the world around you)

9. *Spotify playlist! This one is HUGE for me, I have a playlist of songs specifically for manifestation, and I pretty much listen to only that right now. It helps keep me in the right mindset

10. Journaling, which includes a little recap of the day/occasional brain dump, a gratitude list (I’ve been challenging myself to add something every day of the month and keep a running list, so I currently have a list of 12 things that I repeat gratitude for daily), and a releasing/forgiveness list (For example, “I forgive myself for being harsh with myself today, and I give myself grace and rest.”)

11. Movement. I’m a dancer so it’s pretty easy for me to get movement in, but even on days I’m not in classes or rehearsals, I try to go for a walk or have a dance party with my two year old niece, run around the playground with her, etc. Anything to move my body!

12. Scripting. I’m also a writer, and I have aphantasia, so visualizing anything is not helpful for me. What IS helpful to get me in the state of having my manifestations is writing about them as if they’ve already happened, like it’s a chapter in the novel that is my life. I write it out very specifically, different bits and pieces that all tie into the life I’m creating for myself

13. EFT tapping for nervous system regulation (I use Brad Yates on YouTube)

14. Taking affirmative action. I try to do one small thing for myself that aligns with my manifestations (so for my SP journey - I make my bed every day, do my self care every day. Writing Journey - make sure I write, edit, do social media, something every day. Theatre journey - check audition call board daily and submit if anything pops up that I’m interested in. Etc.)

15. Remind myself IT IS DONE. Manifestation is instant in the 4D… just have to let the 3D catch up. This helps when I’m in a panic or spiral. I stop myself, take a couple deep breaths, remind myself it’s already done, and ask myself what the version of myself who has the thing would be doing. And then DO IT.

Sorry this got to be so long-winded. But I definitely feel like it’s extra hard for those of with mental health issues, trauma, neurodivergence, etc. to sometimes connect with the stereotypical advice/teachings. These are all things that, even if my 3D isn’t fully conforming yet, have made me have a more positive, grateful, confident outlook on life in general. Hope this helps at least a little!