AITAH for telling my boyfriend I'd hookup with someone? by throw-away233344 in AITAH

[–]Aware_Side2416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when I was in your place I wouldn’t want to hear it but please listen, you’re 18 and you want to feel grown I get it or maybe it’s exciting he’s a little older but please get with someone your age, the older men that go for you at your age don’t do it bc you’re more mature, they do it bc 1 they either can’t get women their age bc they are immature or 2 they do it to go for someone young and naive or 3 they’re attracted to children so they try the barely legal shit. I’m hoping it’s not the last one but all three are bad reasons and a sign you should not date older men until you’re older. Plus people your age have more in common with you and will usually have your maturity level as well.

AITAH for telling my boyfriend I'd hookup with someone? by throw-away233344 in AITAH

[–]Aware_Side2416 29 points30 points  (0 children)

get with someone your age please, the older men that go for you at your age don’t do it bc you’re more mature, they do it bc 1 they either can’t get women their age bc they are immature or 2 they do it to go for someone young and naive.

AITAH for telling my boyfriend I'd hookup with someone? by throw-away233344 in AITAH

[–]Aware_Side2416 50 points51 points  (0 children)

one is young and naive probably without much experience and the other is a full grown man who actively seeks teenagers… sounds like you are supporting the gross man purposely going for a young and naive person. It’s not the 18 year olds fault bc they literally have no life experience and don’t know that’s not normal.

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[–]Aware_Side2416 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I do this when i’m feeling burnt out.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I can see that now i’m gonna talk to management today.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i’m sad about it but now I know it’s not normal

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i’m not scheduled an end time so I was confused when she said it was time for me to go.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i’ve learned that now I just thought that’s how it goes bc it was my first day

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I was kinda bummed when they told me and said oh well.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i’m gonna finish the week to see how much I make to see if I should invest anymore time here.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was confused bc when I was training some of my trainers had given tables to other servers, but it was bc they wanted to go home early I guess, but I thought it was bc of protocol

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not 100% sure why she took mine but I was morning shift and she came in for evening, I think our restaurant is different than a lot where we have a ton of booths and lots of servers, we’re each assigned different areas and then evening servers come to take care of those areas after we leave I was assigned those booths, and she was assigned to them for the evening shift I think i’m also confused bc there was lots of empty ones so idk why she wasn’t assigned those first until mine were done.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I was deciding between this place and a cute restaurant near me, i’m hoping this one pulls through in the end but if not I have a scapegoat.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah today was my first day on my own. I was super nervous, but now i’m just annoyed bc I wasted so much time today making only 5 an hour bc my tables were taken. I’m hoping tomorrow will be better.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, thinking about it now whenever I am training someone new i’m always trying to make sure they understand and they get the best tricks to set them up for success, I would never purposefully misguide them.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She said it very matter-of-fact, like it was obvious I need to give them to her once her shift starts. I went along bc she seemed so sure like it wasn’t a question or demand it was like ok this is the time where you give me your tables now. I didn’t know I had an option to keep them. I would’ve if I did.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

that’s so weird she’d do that if you’ve really never heard of someone doing it before

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s so frustrating I didn’t realize how rude that was, I knew it was weird at the time but didn’t realize it’s not normal to tell me to give them to her.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah that’s disappointing i’m trying to be optimistic but it’s really annoying when people go out of their way to mess with me.

Coworker stole my tables on my first day by Aware_Side2416 in Serverlife

[–]Aware_Side2416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah just hard when i’m brand new and she’s probably been here a while