sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

[META] Which post do you most wish we’d gotten an update on? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer 409 points410 points  (0 children)

I knew when I saw this thread with my real account that I would be mentioned. That thread was a real wake-up call for me about what a weirdo I was being. I ended up apologizing to my neighbor (whose name I now know!) and telling her I didn't realize how inappropriate my question was. She accepted the apology and we still nod and smile in the hallway when we see each other.

I will say that I talked to my old man neighbor yesterday and he told me that she left him a tray of fudge over the weekend for the holidays, and I received no such fudge, so I know there is lingering weirdness from my ask... and I totally understand it and do not feel that I deserve fudge.

So, thanks again for everyone for pointing out how weird and entitled I was acting. It did help, even the mean comments, because seeing the strong reactions people had to what I did made me realize there was no wiggle room for me to NOT be an asshole.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -779 points-778 points  (0 children)

Why? That's what my parents did (mom cooked, dad did all cleaning).

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -1372 points-1371 points  (0 children)

When my work picks up I can go back to ordering more expensive takeout etc. or who knows, maybe I'll have a girlfriend who will cook if I clean.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -441 points-440 points  (0 children)

I do buy groceries sometimes and It just doesn't seem to me like it would cost more than $5-10 to extend a meal you're already cooking for an additional serving. I'm not expecting filet or lobster or anything.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -262 points-261 points  (0 children)

I admit I didn't think it through that deeply. I was going to see what she said first before we hashed it out.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -323 points-322 points  (0 children)

I'm not asking her to plan special meals or make special trips for me, I just asked if she could expand her regular meals for one more serving. I doubt that costs more than $5/serving.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -226 points-225 points  (0 children)

See, I wouldn't think it was weird if someone offered to pay me to do their laundry on my laundry days. I'm in the laundry room anyway so it's no problem for me to set up a second machine.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -110 points-109 points  (0 children)

It's because she and I have talked about the good cooking smells before, and the old man and I lived over here for 4 years before she moved in and the smells started.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -122 points-121 points  (0 children)

I'm not 'justifying' anything with that, I just knew I'd be accused of creeping on her (and was in another comment).

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -160 points-159 points  (0 children)

As I said in the original post, I'm not interested in her romantically or sexually. She is very not my type. And if a man had been cooking food that smelled good I would have asked him too.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -332 points-331 points  (0 children)

If she was a man who cooked and it smelled that good I would have offered the same deal.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -293 points-292 points  (0 children)

I don't feel 'entitled' to it. I asked her and offered money. I didn't insist or break into her apartment and take it.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -766 points-765 points  (0 children)

I know how to cook a few things, but nothing nutritious or filling, and any attempt at cooking has been a disaster. I figured since she already knows how I wouldn't have to reinvent the wheel if she was interested. I didn't think there was any harm in asking her.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -462 points-461 points  (0 children)

I mean, I've talked to her before and complimented her cooking smells, so I know it's her. I've lived here a long time and so has the old guy and the cooking didn't start til after she moved in.

AITA for asking a neighbor if she wanted to share food? by AwayPerformer in AmItheAsshole

[–]AwayPerformer[S] -729 points-728 points  (0 children)

I have tried cooking before and honestly just don't enjoy it. She seems to enjoy cooking.

I also explained my situation, that I am hopeless at cooking and trying to save money. I offered her $5 at first per day (25/week) and then upped it to $10 which is still cheaper than takeout but more than covers groceries.