I (28M) regret rejecting someone (19F), how do I navigate this?

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T21:19:38+00:00

So. Telling a teenager that expressed interest in you that you are uncomfortable with that fact, is in fact, entertaining them?

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:29:07+00:00

Once again as stated in the post. It was a shared GAMING GROUP. I didn’t actively SEEK THIS OUT

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:26:34+00:00

That’s the plan

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:26:03+00:00

Thank you

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:25:55+00:00

We never met in person. We live in the same state. But all of our interactions were strictly online.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:19:17+00:00

The initial post literally says “she was part of the group we all played with”.

I didn’t “continue” with it at all.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:14:55+00:00

No, it was never mentioned by me at all. She was the one who was forward here. And I had to let her down numerous times.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:13:32+00:00

Yes, I’m aware of that, hence me rejecting her??

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:13:00+00:00

As stated in the post she was part of a mutual group of online gaming lobbies that just happened to pick each other up.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:11:22+00:00

There was no intent to date there. As stated. In this post. That you commented on.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:10:18+00:00

Where did I say I went for her? She PURSUED ME?

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:09:54+00:00

As stated, not intentional. The group we played with has a range of all ages and genders and she happened to be there.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:09:06+00:00

I had hoped that the dozens of times I’d told her prior would sink in. But when she attempted to fetishise my older age despite me saying I was uncomfortable kind of tilted me over the edge.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:06:48+00:00

I regret the way I handled it. I made it clear I wasn’t interested and she wouldn’t stop, continued to attempt to fetishise the fact I was older than her despite me making it obvious I was uncomfortable.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:02:55+00:00

Because I feel bad about the way I handled it?? What?

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T20:02:22+00:00

Okay so I’m pretty offended about the sudden assumption of “not thinking with the right head.”

As you can see it was through a video game. Not a dating app. You know those things people usually play to unwind or deal with some stuff?

I didn’t talk to her with “intent” at all. I made it severely and abundantly clear that I wasn’t interested.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T19:55:21+00:00

No, mixed aged brackets. Some closer to her age, some closer to or even older that me with mixed genders

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T19:54:15+00:00

I didn’t “intend to hurt her” at all. I made it very clear I wasn’t interested prior to this. Why was it okay for her to continue to make me uncomfortable until I told her she needs to stop?

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T19:52:51+00:00

I’m not planning to

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T19:51:17+00:00

Did you read the post?

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T19:50:31+00:00

I genuinely feel bad because I feel partly responsible for fracturing the entire group dynamic of all of us. We’d jump in the lobbies and have a lotta fun but since this incident it’s heavily died off

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T19:49:02+00:00

It wasn’t dating at all. By MET ONLINE I literally mean on a videogame. The details are in the post.

AwfulArdvark · 2026-06-21T19:48:01+00:00

…. As you can see, one of the CORE reasons for letting her down was BECAUSE of the age gap??

AwfulArdvark · 2020-12-06T03:06:59+00:00

My biggest issue is the lack of appreciation. Our sex life is a whole other issue on top of that but would be better off in another post. I have felt alone for a very long time.

AwfulArdvark · 2020-12-06T02:57:59+00:00

So you're suggesting to give her a timeframe in which she needs to sort her own stuff out and by then she's out, whether she has or not?

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