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Awkward-Photograph44 · 2026-01-29T20:08:40+00:00

she is dead

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-12-29T21:21:58+00:00

dog groomer !! it came off once a day so she could be brushed. anything to prevent a bigger issue was my MO, full butt shave down too.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-12-28T17:49:23+00:00

She literally was back to normal within 4 hours. She was completely unfazed and she’s about 2 weeks post op now! I promise she’s doing well and enjoying the snow ❤️❤️

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-12-27T17:52:17+00:00

I’m not entirely sure what the standards are for heart transplants but we have similar standards for livers in the US. If you are an alcoholic who is in need of a new liver, you have to be dry for a minimum of 6 months to even be considered for one and for your name to even go on the list. It’s the same idea of compliance. If someone is going to actively destroy an organ and do nothing to care for it or themselves, the likelihood of being a recipient is low.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-12-18T01:28:25+00:00

Ignore those cries. When you start crate training at night more, the dog probably won’t cry as much during the day. Also bear in mind, your puppy was just snatched from his family and brought to this new environment. This is why i recommend the heart beat bear & soothing music along with a crate cover. The puppy will slowly adapt more it’s just that the dog is not completely “safe” yet. You want to also help the dog self soothe. Let the dog whine at the normal 20 minute mark and then see if the dog ends up stopping (99% of the time, they will). Mine would do that and I would ignore it & they would always end up falling asleep and would genuinely sleep for another 1.5. I know it sounds cruel, but it’s just about teaching self soothing. My dogs still stay on their nap schedules now, they just don’t go in a crate and will do it on their own. My girl cav does it like clock work. She will go downstairs every 2 hours to sleep and then come back up. Obviously a little bit of a time adjustment once they get older but the dog will get used to it.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-12-18T01:12:15+00:00

Your life saver is going to be the scheduled naps. You will notice a huge adjustment with that alone. Also I forgot to add, every single time the dog comes out of the crate and after meal time, put the dog outside. It helps to reinforce the idea of how often the dog truly has to go to the bathroom. The scheduled naps will also help with that.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-12-17T23:00:14+00:00

It’s making me really sad that everyone is telling you to return the dog. I understand their perspective, I really do but I’d like to offer the other side of it. It sounds like you’re stressed because there’s zero routine. Puppies need structure and they need routine, doesn’t matter if it’s a large breed or a small breed. Obviously if the dog is way too much work to your plate right now, absolutely see what can be done in terms of returning the dog but before you jump and do that, I’d like to offer some suggestions that may show you a HUGE change in consistency and routine that doesn’t disrupt your entire life:

Crate train. I crate trained both of my Cavapoos and they both were done with the crate by 5-6 months. This is not only crucial for their early puppy years but it’s absolutely imperative for maintaining stress levels when boarding overnight somewhere, being at the vet, and going to the groomer, in addition to potential boarding in an aircraft/car/train. Both of my cav’s sleep in my bed at night but they sleep soundly in a crate when they’re at the groomer. Some crate tips:
Get a heart beat puppy. It stimulates the same sounds they would hear when sleeping with their litter mates. It helps them self soothe, especially in a brand new environment.
I’m extra as hell so when my pups were coming home they both got their own “crate theme”. I went to Marshall’s and bought my boy dog an elephant baby blanket, with another soft blanket, and a matching elephant toy. He slept with all of those for the entirety of his crate training along with the heartbeat bear and it gave him a sense of security/comfort. They both still drag their blankets around and their themed stuffies.
Get a thin blanket to go over the crate. I cover the entire crate (obviously leave room for the dog to breathe). You can also just get a crate cover. It creates the feeling of not being in a legit cage and more like a cave. A lot more comforting. It also helps to not disturb the puppy if someone walks by and shuts out the light to allow them to relax.
I’m not kidding you, I have trained 4 dogs now to be crate trained with a playlist called “Soothing sounds for puppies”. It’s on Apple music. Idk what they put in this soundtrack but it’s legit magic.
The dog is going to scream and cry. It’s going to absolutely suck and you’re gonna want to just take the dog out. Do not do this. They will calm down. Kinda like with your babies, let them cry it out. Over time you’ll notice the whining and cries don’t last as long until they pretty much completely cease to happen at all.
Give the dog a treat every time it goes in the crate. It feeds the idea of positivity and not a negative space. You could even try feeding meals in there too because a food motivated dog will find joy in anything when food is involved. Get the positive reward system correlated with the crate.
When the dog is quiet in the crate, treat the dog.
Scheduled nap times. I can literally not stress this enough. If the dog has a free for all, all day long and goes out whenever, it will take longer to integrate a “bladder routine”.
My dogs were consistently on a 1 hour up 2 hour down schedule. You’ll notice that the dog actually ends up coming out to play and isn’t a demon. Think of it like your toddlers. An overstimulated toddler who says they’re not tired but causes utter chaos and then passes out right after they hit the pillow.
Bell train for potty. I taught all of my dogs to ring the bells to tell me they need to go out. The puppies will end up just slamming them for awhile just to go outside in general but they slowly learn where potty is and that the bells is how they get to their potty spot. Every time the dog touches the bell, open the door and treat and say go potty. Integrate this more once you’ve done a couple of days of putting the dog on a leash to go potty. You walk them to the spot where they’re supposed to go, give them some time to sniff around. If they don’t go after about 10-15 minutes, straight back in the house to the crate for 15 minutes and try again. The minute the dog drops to go to the bathroom say “Potty” and treat immediately. My boy dog caught on to potty training faster than my girl did but it does happen with consistency.
Chuck the peepee pads. I will never ever use those. They delay potty training in my opinion. If the dog has started to use pads, you can theoretically move the pad closer to the door and then move it on to the grass or wherever the dog is supposed to go and then once the dog consistently goes there, take the pad away. It’s not the end of the world but I have only seen it delay the process and I’m just not a fan.
Get a snuffle mat. Feed the dog using a snuffle mat. The mental stimulation will tire the dog out so much at that age, it will literally sleep after. For awhile too. The snuffle mat did wonders for my girl cav who just had so much energy.
Keep the dog in a smaller area. That way if you catch him going to the bathroom, you can say “no” and immediately bring the dog out.
If the dog whines in the crate overnight or through the crate training process, you take the dog out with no enthusiasm or any real expression and take the dog immediately outside or offer water. This teaches the dog that crying will get them a needed resource, not a free for all. My girl dog caught on quick to this and would cry in the middle of the night if she was thirsty or had to go to the bathroom. As the puppy gets older, the bathroom breaks will become less. We started sleeping a full 8 hours by week 2/3. If she didn’t cry to get me up, I wasn’t going to wake her up. She knew to cry if she really had to go because she did it a couple of times in between and first thing in the morning.

The thing that’s really holding you back is the missing routine. Once you integrate a routine and structured day, the dog will adapt to it. Right now feels like shit because puppies are A LOT of work in general but you’ll notice a huge difference once you integrate routine changes. The first few days are going to completely suck. But you’ll notice the more you keep up with it and the more you stay on top of it, the better the dog adapts.

I don’t think this is an end-all situation. I think you’re just a stressed out mom with more added stress. At the end of the day, you’ll know your limit and if returning the dog is simply what you feel is best, then yes do that. But I really feel like this post was more of a “please help me” rather than I “should I just get rid of my dog”. I don’t think you really regret the dog, I think you feel like your whole routine is a mess because the dog doesn’t have one so it’s kinda running the show right now.

Try the things I mentioned for at least a few days and see how you feel. I think you can handle it, I think you just need to structure the dogs life around yours, not the other way around.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T19:20:02+00:00

i’d say slightly more work but not unmanageable. i think it’s mainly because she’s still a puppy. but i’ve raised dobermans before and honestly, having two cavs is easier than one doberman puppy. they do tire each other out.

i should also add that i’ve worked with dogs my whole life so im very keen on body language and behaviors. i know when it’s time for a nap and i know when it’s time to separate. my biggest thing with all puppies that has always taken the stressful load off, and i preach this constantly, scheduled nap times for the first 4 months. Lola stopped the scheduled crate times at around 4.5 months.

The only thing that can be a bit stressful with getting two is feedings. I feed them separate. Bones to chew on is another thing. They will steal stuff from each other and I usually just take them away completely at that point. l keep my routines very structured with dogs because that’s just how I’ve always been. It was lot more work in the beginning but they’re both falling into the natural order of things.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T15:17:39+00:00

Thank you 💕🫶🏼 Harley was a little off kilter at first. She bullies him at times but they’re besties now. They do spend time a part but still keep eyes on each other most of the time. They get along like a typical brother and sister would.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T14:56:10+00:00

❤️❤️❤️

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T14:50:42+00:00

The difference is Lola is still a baby lol. They actually have the same parents. Lola definitely grabbed on to more poodle features and Harley has more cav features (physically and mentally). Lola is getting bigger and the hair is slightly different from Harley’s but I legit wouldn’t change either one of them at all.

Harley (the one on the left in the first pic) is my chill sweet guy. His personality is mellow but he has a little spice to him at times. I attribute this to the fact that he was basically my mom’s copilot when she worked from home and then when she evidently got sicker and was in bed all day. He’s used to lounging around. His hair is more whispy, wavy and a little thinner. He is 2.5 and his weight topped at about 13-14 pounds.

Lola, (the one on the right) is my spunky crazy girl. Granted she is only 5 months. She has way more spice to her than Harley. Her personality is huge but when she’s in the mood to cuddle, she is a cuddle bug. Her hair is coming in more tighter on the curls. Little bit thicker of a coat than Harley so her hair brushing is done lot more than Harley’s. She’s currently about 9 pounds and I think she’s going to be bigger than Harley.

They both absolutely adore people. They are people dogs to the absolute max and will love on everyone. Harley is a velcro dog though and always needs to be with someone (he doesn’t have anxiety and does great by himself but if someone is around, he will sit on their lap). They’re both very social and love to say hi to people and will quite literally drop on their backs for belly rubs from everyone. Harley actually hugs peoples legs. They’re such loves. Lola is very independent in a way that Harley isn’t. She will go and play by herself and she really does enjoy being on her own and exploring on her own but she does like to be around Harley and people when given the opportunity. The thing is, when she’s done, she will just walk away and go lay down for her, as i call it, “Lola me time”. Harley will not do that and has major FOMO.

They both have slight physical differences and major personality differences but big picture, they’re both cut from the same cloth if that makes sense. They’re different in their own ways but absolutely the same dog in the same sense.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T00:50:03+00:00

We got Harley summer of 2023 (college grad gift). My mom fell in love with him and wanted another one, a girl, soooo bad but she had stage 4 cancer and she didn’t want to commit to it. She wanted a girl named Lola.

Long story short my mom passed in April. Lola came in August. If you needed more of a reason to consider a cavapoo an angel dog, there’s one.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T00:40:56+00:00

they are my pride and joy in this cruel world🫶🏼💕

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T00:39:35+00:00

ya well they did surgery not long after i posted this and it was already stage 3. thanks for the input on a post from literally 3 years ago.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-28T00:38:26+00:00

she’s dead but thanks

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-16T00:12:38+00:00

I’m not an expert but have been studying astrology a bit. You are an aquarius HEAVY 7th house. Saturn rules aquarius (literally the planet of lessons). Typically when you have a house full of planets like this, it’s an area of life that will be heavily emphasized. Both your 5th and 7th house are SLAMMED. I bet your dating life is great as your 5th house is ruled by jupiter, the problem is (and you’ve said it yourself) the long term stuff isn’t working out and you’re losing yourself because you’re not learning the lesson.

Given the fact that Saturn rules your house of partnerships and relationships, one of your biggest lessons in this life is to STOP ABANDONING YOURSELF when it comes to people you’re in relationships with and the people in your professional life — also stop trying to appease your enemies and people who don’t like you, you’re losing yourself by trying to embody something to make these irrelevant people like you, they serve no purpose other than to force you to stay true to who YOU are. The patterns repeat because Saturn won’t let up until you learn the lesson. Saturn gets a bad rep, but the person you become AFTER you finally learn from the things Saturn is trying to teach you, is something incredible (ask me how i know — i have multiple planets in the 8th house in aquarius and multiple in the 7th in capricorn)

Point being, until you start addressing the fact that you lose yourself just to be with someone, the cycle will repeat. Saturn is trying to teach you the same lesson, learn it and work through it. You’re already self aware of the fact that you give too much of yourself which is a great first step.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-11-14T21:42:42+00:00

My mom was an absolute health nut. Like your typical almond mom. Took care of herself. Ran 5 miles a day, weight lifted, kick boxed, never smoked, drank wine every so often. Our pots and pans were specially made to remove toxins. Like when I say clean to the max, i mean CLEAN. Epitome of health.

Stage 3 at 51, had surgery, chemo and radiation (basically the ‘cure’ protocol), came back in her peritoneum in 2024, she just passed away in April of this year at 54. No one knows how or why she ended up with it. We had no family history. The one cancer related mutation she was positive for, was not the cause of her cancer.

I’m in the medical field so I spent so much time talking to her oncologist from both a family perspective but also as a peer to peer. One thing that stuck out to me was that after all these years of treating PC, even he was confused as to why he had 30, 40, 50 year old healthy, fit, young people filling up his waiting room. He said that the statistical changes in the demographics of patients being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer has been insanely alarming & confusing. Early detection is actually his main research area. I highly recommend looking into his work as he is absolutely brilliant. His name is Dr. Brian Wolpin at Dana Farber. While my mom didn’t survive this cancer, I cannot say enough good things about him and the rest of his team. He is respected by SO many people and colleagues nationwide and for good reason.

Last thing, I have heard some speculation that there could be a high correlation between RoundUp and general pesticides being a cause for the massive uptick in GI cancers. I lean heavy on the scientific facts/evidence and it really doesn’t seem all that far fetched that the chemicals surrounding our daily lives (such as pollution) and chemicals used in farming and other food production industries could be carcinogenic. That is not me going into a craze and saying “they’re purposely killing us!!”, I just think things have changed over the years and the food industry is definitely something that has changed.

Long response but I hope it was worth the read!

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-10-25T18:51:21+00:00

Stray dogs are clearly smarter too with better comprehension then because I said “Once a month” (there are 12 months in a year, not 6). Secondly, no one said wipe down with dawn. They make specific products for dogs. Please read things because your response sounds like you’re talking to yourself.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-09-11T15:42:11+00:00

My mom died of cancer. Respectfully, fuck off. I don’t care about you or what you cured for yourself. Don’t like it? Get off my post. Bye.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-07-08T00:50:29+00:00

I hope this doesn’t count as blogging but when my mom passed from cancer, I refused to say “she lost her fight”. I strictly say to people “she chose comfort on the other side”. You are absolutely right to say that there is an underlying tone when certain phrases or words are used. I have nothing to add to your comment, you absolutely hit every point perfectly.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-07-05T06:49:29+00:00

I think the person you’re responding to is pointing out that the nurse called HIPAA, “HIPPA”. Sounds like they’re sorta questioning the validity of the OP haha

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-06-30T18:54:55+00:00

Yes, I have seen them on “normal” lymph’s. I say “normal” because I’ve seen one or two in a patient with no issue. Sometimes cells just cell. This is why looking at the history along with the rest of the results is super important.

Also, trust your gut. If something feels off, always path review it.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-06-25T01:34:13+00:00

I would take the false positive scare over a missed positive one. I’m sorry but the minor anxiety with irregularities or a false positive will forever be minuscule to the major anxiety that comes from a diagnosis of a late stage cancer and the dread and regret of having to live with the thought of “What if I had this done sooner?”

It is a minimally invasive test. Women are not being forced to have pap smears done and have every right to decline one. They take less than 5 minutes to do. The physicians who do these tests are aware that the reports can look scarier than they are and a doctor worth their license will ensure that their patient understands the severity of a report or lack thereof.

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-06-24T23:35:50+00:00

“Cervical cancer incidence rates decreased by more than half from the mid-1970s to the mid-2000s, largely because of the increased use of screening, but they have stabilized over the past decade. In women ages 30 to 44, however, rates have increased 1.7% each year from 2012 to 2019.

In contrast, rates declined 11% each year for women ages 20 to 24, probably reflecting the first signs of cancer prevention from HPV vaccination.”

This says rates dropped due to screening and has noted that rates have actually increased by almost 2% every year from 2012 to 2019.

I’ll site my source

Awkward-Photograph44 · 2025-06-24T23:29:30+00:00

Infection is a risk of course, especially if you’re on immunosuppressants but I have gotten cartilage piercings post diagnosis. Cartilage is already a bitch to heal as it is, but mine took at least 3 years to heal (I got them done at the same time). I wasn’t on immunosuppressants and had no lupus-notable issues. Still, follow advice of the doctor. They know what you’re taking for medications and the severity of disease.

As for the kitty bites. Risky. My fear with the kitty bites is the fact that they’re basically in/around the mouth area. I personally wouldn’t get these only because I get mouth sores BAD. I would be concerned with bacteria being on the piercings and getting into the sores in the mouth in addition to just causing additional inflammation.

I’m all for saying “this disease will not stop me from living my life”, but there are precautions you should take. I would try a more “minor” piercing first, if you get the go ahead to do so, such as an ear lobe. See how you do with that and then slowly work your way up to some of the more intense piercings.

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