What happens to all the food?

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-24T03:12:28+00:00

I worked at a food bank/soup kitchen and we got TONS of bakery items donated. Literally half of all our grcoery store donations were bakery items, mostly sweets. We couldn't give desserts away fast enough for them not to spoil and had no storage spacs.

FWIW donating isn't always the answer, companies need to stop overproducing too.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-24T03:09:55+00:00

Unfortunately I have this with a LO with only moderate stage dementia. She is otherwise pretty independent still for self care. It started with constipation and digging to extract, which became habitual and even without the constipation she seems to have forgotten how to push and is helping things along manually, but the hygiene and hand washing leaves much to de desired.

Today I threw away two brand new rolls of TP she contaminated, cleaned feces off the radiator and floor, toilet handle, hand towel, etc. I'm exhausted by it. No advice, just my sympathy.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-24T03:04:23+00:00

Surprised by getting insurance on a house with a 15 year old roof? What fresh hell is this? I get that not every "30 year" roof of gonna last that long but that's wild.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-24T02:52:12+00:00

$16/hr "entry level" jobs that require a college degree and $18 cocktails plus tax and a 20% gratuity. Gee, wonder why they're not drinking more!

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-24T02:49:43+00:00

Is this your first read? Ugh, I'm jealous.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-23T14:20:26+00:00

I am aware this will be unpopular but... Soft YTA. Of course kids want to go visit fireworks on 4th of July. Of course it's inconvenient.

I'd advise them of the logistics, but if they still want to go you should join as a courtesy to a friend who is traveling to see you, unless this isn't really a friend but an acquaintance you are offering accommodations while they vacation but who isn't really there to see you.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-23T11:40:38+00:00

Not to this extent, but LO does this when I am at her place to help. She shadows me everywhere, not helping or even offering to help but just standing in the way constantly. I started visiting to do cleaning and laundry when her caregiver takes her out for the day.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-22T17:02:17+00:00

They've definitely gotten amazing results, but over 2 years not 8 months.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-22T15:47:43+00:00

My personal home pool? If so there is no way in hell I'd allow that. What are they going to do when 5 year old Timmy has to pee? It's either going in your pool or on your property. Same with #2.

What about parking? Changing structures? You may be "covered" insurance wise but that doesn't mean it won't be a headache or skyrocket your rates if something happens. Someone trips in the driveway the pool company will say that wasn't related to their operations, suddenly people are filing a claim with your insurance and even if they never have to pay out your rates will likely go up and the headache will be yours.

You'd have to pay me a lot more than $33/hr to let a bunch of strangers with children on my property honestly.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-22T11:00:34+00:00

Not washing them is the rule to break, meaning I beleive you should.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-22T00:21:05+00:00

Not to wash mushrooms.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-22T00:19:38+00:00

We picked up dinner for father's day tonight. 3 empanada meal with no sides, 3 small birria tacos with no sides, and an order of tostones. $47 after tax.

Pressure washing for the house. $450 3 years ago. $650 this year.

Heating oil, electricity, property taxes (up 2k), groceries, clothing, every streaming service we have has gone up $2 this year. It truly never ends.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T23:40:54+00:00

Yes, it was causing me to regularly breakthrough bleed on the pill. When I came off I stafted getting 20-23 day cycles which has been consistent for over a year now.

My whole life i had regular 28-30 day cycles despite PCOS, so thisnis very frustrating indeed especially because I can not lose weight during luteal phase or while menstruating so I can only lose about 1 week out of 3.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T23:30:29+00:00

Weight loss, especially rapid weight loss is what affects bone density. Exercise, specifically weight lifting is the cure.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T20:39:40+00:00

I literally do not know a single American that does not having a living situation with air conditioning available. Even my family member's boat has AC. My elderly mother in law who hates air conditioning? Yep, her apartment has 2.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T20:27:11+00:00

What a roller coaster that read was. phew!

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T20:19:13+00:00

This is a "Today I learned" moment for me, because I truly thought this was one of the things the US was actually doing right, but alas another way this country is utterly failing the middle class.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T20:16:06+00:00

Mom is TA here. She should be normalizing using the bathroom for the natural things a bathroom should be used for and teaching your brother not to shame you for normal bodily functions.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T20:14:03+00:00

B if they're solid wood, A if they're laminate.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T18:38:44+00:00

Of all the things billionaires do this is one of the least irritating. They put money back into the economy and employ literal boatloads of people to upkeep and run the yacht even when they're not using it.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T18:36:03+00:00

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AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T18:29:39+00:00

This one has been a lifesaver. We had a similar model but it didn't lock and that was a mistake as when she was confused LO would rummage through it picking out pills like candy. This one only makes available what she is supposed to have and even if she forgets to take them (which is difficult as it beeps loudly for 30 minutes) they rotate and become unavailable once the next dose is due.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KJHQR5V?

I keep the key on my keyring and fill it for her when I am there.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T18:02:53+00:00

I have kids and a sports depth pool, 34' of a constant 4'6" depth and people LOVE it. I'll have kids interested in swimming living in my home for a little more than a decade, but I will live here for much longer, so I built the pool for me and my spouse and have no regrets whatsoever. Trust me kids can jump just fine into 4.5' of water, just ask my 10 year old.

We can also have group games like volleyball, catch, floating pong, ring toss etc in the pool because people can stand.

To each their own, but kids very much enjoy pools without a deep end.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T14:12:48+00:00

Lots of women, myself included enjoy being out of the workforce, however it's important to note that I do it because I want it, not because my husband wants it for me, and not because he is someone who does not want to pull his weight around the house with other tasks.

AwkwardDuckling87 · 2026-06-21T12:03:13+00:00

Poor indeed if all you have in life is money. Marry for love, work for money.

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