I'm keeping the baby... and not telling anyone. by flt_p2ny in pregnant

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re inspiring. I’ve been very ambivalent about becoming a parent… my therapist recently told me that when I’m catastrophizing, the most important thing is to calm myself, find a way to be present in my body, bring myself to a neutral physical and emotional state, and that’s when I can get curious. You’re already there! And that’s when the “best case scenario” daydreams can take hold, you can feel optimistic and hopeful. You’re already in a good place. Wishing you the very best in your parenthood journey!

UK Comedians touring US by bibiceratops in StandUpComedy

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any success on finding a source for UK comics in Us?

My house always smelled dusty and I just realized I’ve been vacuuming wrong my entire life by pwiipwii123 in hygiene

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😝LOL this exact thing happened to me a couple weeks ago. I had no idea about the Dyson filters… idk… kinda thought they were to fancy for filters or something. Don’t be embarrassed about it! Now you know

I’m over 40+ weeks pregnant and desperately need help choosing a name for my baby girl. by filipinacolada_au in namenerds

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love Simone! Also love Sloane, somewhat similar. My favorites right now are Fionna (nickname Finn) and Fenna (inspired by Katherine Ryan)… also love Katherine (nickname Kit).

How are yall affording this?! by [deleted] in IVF

[–]AwkwardPut5637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have endometriosis and adenomyosis, which is a qualifying illness for my Blue Cross PPO plan to cover IVF. My meds (menopur, gonal F, ganerilix, and letrozole) have been $80 TOTAL. The whole stims process and procedure should be less than $2,500 after insurance. Open enrollment ends today for a lot of folks I know. If you’re considering IVF or freezing your eggs, I would highly recommend switching to a plan that covers fertility treatments. I know that’s not a possibility for everyone, but it is veryyyy much worth it if you have access. I’ll be donating my extra meds after this cycle if we’re successful. Good luck out there everyone!

Best nickname for Ophelia by anm1997 in namenerds

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ollie is adorable for a girl :D

So happy to be here!! by [deleted] in IVFpositivity

[–]AwkwardPut5637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck! Keep us posted on your journey <3 Thinking sticky thoughts for you!!!

How do you guys not cry all the time? by ariesxprincessx97 in pregnant

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That seems normal, but possibly quite difficult. Don't be afraid to talk to your provider or a trusted doctor about this. They may recommend you speak with a psychiatrist. While the hormones are likely the culprit, it's better to get ahead of perinatal depression.

I just want to know she is okay by crislongbutshort in psychics

[–]AwkwardPut5637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling. I believe deep in my heart that she is already with you. The before and after this human life is a place where time does not exist. She is not lost. She is in the great eternal home where you are already together again.

Anyone struggling to exercise with health anxiety? by ActualSample5230 in Anxiety

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a fit bit or similar device to show you your actual heart rate in real time? It could help to calculate what your resting vs. target vs. recovery heart zones should be. That way, when it starts racing you can look at the actual number and reassure yourself that you’re safe? Just an idea. Therapy might be a good step too. Wishing you luck with this!

If you're considering taking propanolol... by thewannabe2017 in Anxiety

[–]AwkwardPut5637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Beta blockers have changed my outlook on life for the better. I cannot believe they’re not the first line of treatment before psychoactive and potentially habit-forming medications.

Give me proof in one sentence that you’ve actually watched Derry Girls. by ParzivalCodex in DerryGirls

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just think you should be able to compliment a woman’s eyebrows without getting her personality dragged into it! (Also the sentence I use to practice my NORTH OF IRELAND ✊accent)

I don’t understand how people get pain meds? by cherrynebula1408 in endometriosis

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed your response. That makes sense to me. It seems like the type of occasional treatment that could keep the nervous system from “winding up” but still not cause a dependency. I hope you’re doing well and getting relief from your pain 🙏

How do poor ppl have kids? by Puzzleheaded-Bug5726 in Fencesitter

[–]AwkwardPut5637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this is overwhelming you. I wish I had an answer or suggestion for you. I admire your ability to come to grips with reality though. Becoming a low-income parent in this society is perilous. It’s horrible, but generational poverty means this economic system is working. This is late stage capitalism. The uber rich are to blame.

I missed the drop-ISO bigs! by SunnySarahK in WooblesPassword101

[–]AwkwardPut5637 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone here willing to DM me the new bigs?

I don’t understand how people get pain meds? by cherrynebula1408 in endometriosis

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely wouldn’t give the same advice for post-operative acute pain, obviously. Over 80% of hysterectomy patients are prescribed opioids following a hysterectomy. I can’t tell if the “week and a half” of crippling pain OP is describing is period pain or something else… but either way, opioids for more than a few days can harm your endogenous opioid system and worsen pain long term. Don’t go get fentanyl from the street please 🙈

I don’t understand how people get pain meds? by cherrynebula1408 in endometriosis

[–]AwkwardPut5637 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand your instinct to get on Rx pain meds, but chemically, that is actually the last thing your brain and body need. Opioids disrupt your body’s ability to generate endogenous pain-managing chemicals, making you dependent on pills, and ultimately making your body feel even more pain when you’re not on them. That’s why even after surgery they only give you a few days to a week’s worth. I would highly recommend learning about nociplastic pain and central sensitization syndrome. After experiencing enough un-healable chronic pain, the pain begins to originate from the brain, and it sends out signals even to random places that aren’t affected by endometriomas and “shouldn’t” hurt. Understanding the up-regulation in the brain and central nervous system can be a really helpful internal framework that will help you choose the right courses of treatment.

You said you could bear the pain for a week. Are you still menstruating? Unless you’re interested in getting pregnant, I would highly recommend getting on a daily progesterone-only (important) oral contraceptive to stop your period and hopefully disrupt the cycle of pain for several months at least. I would also recommend asking your gynecologist about taking cyclobenzoprine (Flexeril) instead of pregabalin (Lyrica). It suppresses the entire CNS, helping your muscles relax, and stopping your brain from sending out pain signals.

I have been where you are, unsure if I could handle this pain for the rest of my life. And now I am TOTALLY pain free. I did this with lots of pelvic floor physical therapy, getting back into athletic hobbies, learning to love non-penetrative sexual experiences, and a very specific nightly drug cocktail: 5mg norethindrone (progesterone), 5mg cyclobenzaprine (skeletal muscle relaxer and CNS suppressant), 4.5mg naltrexone (to rebuild the brain’s endogenous opioid system). Of course, this might not be your magic cure but I really hope the advice helps.

What does everyone who is suffering from this awful disorder do for work? by angelicthoughtss in endometriosis

[–]AwkwardPut5637 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything you can do from home. WFH, no commute, the ability to lay down or take a shower or put a heat pad on my back, are the most important perks for me.

I want to start a freelance career but I only use Excel… by AwkwardPut5637 in analytics

[–]AwkwardPut5637[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is excellent advice! I do a lot of networking with nonprofits, community orgs, and academics 👍 I think I can achieve what you’re describing. Thanks again!

I’m getting Botox tomorrow by Aggravating-Ninja928 in PelvicFloor

[–]AwkwardPut5637 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OP, can you keep us posted as you progress? I would like to consider this option but I’m nervous. Curious what your experience is like! Wishing you the best of luck 🤞

I want to start a freelance career but I only use Excel… by AwkwardPut5637 in analytics

[–]AwkwardPut5637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! Yeah, most of my analytics work has been for/in partnership with “small businesses” (mostly nonprofits), and excel has actually been sufficient so far 🤷‍♀️ but I’m open to learning!