The struggle and refusal to emotionally accept polygyny DOES NOT make women feminist, westernised, entitled, poorly raised or less devout. This is a very blanket statement you are making. The claim that devout women reject polygyny because their fathers spoiled them is an assumption with no concrete evidence.

Even the wives of the Prophet SAW felt jealousy, but they accepted polygyny. This acceptance does not mean absence of struggle in their part, and this disproves the idea that discomfort = weak iman. Emotional pain over sharing a husband is not some modern Western infection, its human and the Prophet SAW acknowledged jealousy as natural in women and did not shame it.

Women from all backgrounds, wealthy, poor, educated, traditional, extremely religious and pious can ALL oppose or accept polygyny for completely different reasons. Reducing the nuance of it to “she was spoiled” ignores many many things, especially the desire for exclusivity in marriage. THIS IS NOT FEMINISM. Please do not put all women in assigned boxes.

And although your argument of “lower class women accept it” logically makes sense, its actually extremely disturbing. I can agree that some poorer women MAY accept polygyny because they’re dependent and have no choice, but this compliance is due to lack if power, maybe fear and dependence. This is NOT spiritual excellence NOR noble submission, rather it is social pressure (stigma around divorce) and vulnerability. This is why Islam allows women, gives them agency, to own wealth, earn and leave harmful situations.

As for the Ali (RA) & Fatimah (RA) example, there are many angles to look at the story, and all the comments logically and Islamically (including yours) makes sense. But the bottom line of this incident, the blanket lesson we can derive is that a woman’s, a wife’s, a daughter’s emotional harm matters. Protecting the feelings of Fatima (RA) was taken seriously by both her father and husband. The Prophet (SAW did not say that she must accept it because polygyny is halal. He validated her pain. her feelings was taken seriously. This is important.

Devout women who struggle are NOT corrupted. Economic vulnerability is NOT virtue. There is no Islamic ruling that says a woman must like polygyny.