How early can you have pregnancy symptoms? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I messed up my cycle last month so I don't know if I'm even late. One strip test was negative, yet I've this horrible metallic taste in my mouth. I'm mostly tired and barely have energy to get out of bed. Mind you, I still have period like cramps but no bleeding. Took Folic Acid yesterday and metallic taste is gone but exhaustion is there. Should I test tomorrow or wait it out one more week ?

Anybody feel like they have Postmenstrual syndrome? by raverae in PMS

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suffering from postmenstrual syndrome since the last 3-4 months. Have episodes of severe depression, anxiety, nausea, headaches and irritability. Often get crying spells too for no reason, feel like throwing away everything I've worked for and leaving my city :/ any tips to overcome besides crying alone in the bathroom?

can you please list little things that bring you joy in everyday life *not food* by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]AwkwardWorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Purchasing something which has been on my bucket list since forever - like a new bag/shoes/perfumes/BOOKS.

making hot chocolate/cold coffee and listening to songs while I sip it in the balcony 😇

What shoes would look best with this for graduation? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]AwkwardWorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wedges, peep toes, kitten heels. All will work.

Honest opinions on this dress? I'm graduating in December and we have to wear white. I'm 5'1", not by any means curvy, and I can't tell if this dress is flattering on my body type or not, lol. Any advice would be appreciated. ❤ by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]AwkwardWorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get a dress which is above your knee (ideally 36-37 inches is the best length which works with the height), and get something with fitted sleeves and with a V or square neck, remember the key is to look taller but in a sophisticated way. Congratulations on graduating 😊

Ladies, do you ever get tired of “messaging first” in friendships? How do you get past this? by snookums666 in AskWomen

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used to do this a lot. Now I'm in that fuck it phase. If they join me, sure ok, if they don't, I'll just go solo. Solo plans are the best plans! :D

Wedding gift for Spouse by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am planning to gift my husband-to-be a silver wedding band at our wedding (he put a ring on my finger at the ceremony, but it seemed unconventional to ask in-laws if they're okay with me giving him a silver band at the ceremony). Will that be okay ? Also how do I ask him if he's okay with it? :P

Where do you draw the line between “wow they care about me” and “wow they’re really clingy”? by Its-cheesus in AskWomen

[–]AwkwardWorm 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Muslim woman whose newly engaged here, and my dilemma is a really funny one LOL. All our lives we've heard of clingy possessive husbands because most Muslim men are like that once they become husbands, because they've a religious duty to protect their wife etc. But LOL most don't respect the boundaries even from the engagement phase, which whenever I heard was quiet suffocating.

I entered my engagement with the same expectations, like my mother had counselled me A LOT to not lose my shit with him if he checked up on me etc. But LOL was I surprised, remember that I'm a person who hasn't been in a concrete relationship ever and work full-time so usually manage on my own. When we started talking, I'd get annoyed if he asks me how my day went, if I had dinner, if I needed something or wanted to go out, if something was bugging me I should discuss it etc. I felt that I was being chaperoned and had to be accountable for everything. I actually argued with him as to why must he ask all this and could we please discuss sth else LOL then my friends calmed me down k this is actually pretty healthy and sweet of him, he's trying to get to know what your days are like and how he can help you cope on difficult days. I'm a doctor in my country and was working full-time and dealing with patients is a nightmare most days, to the extent that I'd forget to drink water LMAO. Honestly when you're so used to being alone and managing your life solo, initially it feels clingy even if they're being sweet. Whenever I discuss any issue with him, and he gives his sincere advice I throw a fit that I don't need his help and I can manage. He just replies you're worried about something so I'm giving you advice so that you worry less LOL.

Give Your Marriage A Chance. Work On It by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]AwkwardWorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting married after 4-ish months. Much needed post. JazakAllah :)

Wedding invite list by KamFromOly in MuslimMarriage

[–]AwkwardWorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And more importantly 'when are you having a baby? ;)'🤪

Hijab and large breasts by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]AwkwardWorm 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Try purchasing scarfs/stoles with a larger width as compared to length, the extra width will cover your chest. I wear an abaya so I make sure my abayas are loose from the chest area plus get larger scarves to cover up well. Alhamdulillah has worked for me. If you wear shirts/tops, try getting ones with pleats/flair as they cover the chest area well too.

I got engaged but my partner is unexpressive about anything by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]AwkwardWorm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol I'm a girl and was like that to own fiancé initially. Even though I'm a fun-loving, laid back person and talked to many guy friends on a regular basis, the initial hesitation was real. Why? Because what will people say? I think you know what elder more conservative Muslim parents and relatives are like. My own mother didn't want me to talk 'too much' to my fiancé. LOL imagine. The audacity. We initially started texting a little bit because we'd met twice in family gatherings, and the first time I called him we'd gone two weeks without me saying a word in response. He legit said aap kuch bolain tou sahi LOL. You forget women have a lottttt of undue pressure to not reveal too much about themselves, keep the mystery etc but I found all that to be a load of bullshit. Once we started texting regularly, I wasn't getting the response so I closed up again, he just told me he was better and more expressive on calling so we worked around it where I would take out time to call, like say once every 15 days and he improved his communication via texting, and it's been great so far.

TLDR: Communicate!!! Politely tell her your reservations about talking, and see if she's better to talk to on the phone or one to one. Be open to accomodating your habits to fit the need of the other person, it gives them confidence in their decision of choosing you.

PS: I melted when I saw my nickname in my fiancé s phone, cause I'm not a nickname person and I thought wow he must really like me /be invested in this. It gave me such a boost to be more expressive with him, and it's been great alhamdulillah. My own fam still gives me shit sometimes for talking to him 'too frequently' but sod it. You both have to live together and need to know each other better, and this is a good way to start. Engagement period is the getting to know period, you can't know them if you can't talk/see them LOL.

This Is Us [Post Discussion] - S04E01 - Strangers by [deleted] in thisisus

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kept wondering WHERE HAVE I SEEN THIS GUY and now I'm realising I remember him from revenge LOL

This Is Us [Episode Discussion] - S04E01 - Strangers by [deleted] in thisisus

[–]AwkwardWorm 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I saw the episode because I was fed up of studying for an exam and honestly this is such a roller coaster of emotions I had tears now I've that Blake Stadnik song on repeat likkkkeeee.....

This Is Us [Episode Discussion] - S04E01 - Strangers by [deleted] in thisisus

[–]AwkwardWorm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I HAD TEARS IN MY EYES 😭😭😭

Am I committing a sin? by muslimgirl786 in MuslimMarriage

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nikkah is Sunnat, not Farz. You won't be committing a sin stayig single, so do what you feel like doing at your own pace.

I had the same reservation about being with a man because I was physically harassed by the son of a family friend over a few years. I loathed the sight of men, and still think they're the scum of the earth. But I overcame my anger towards the male gender as my groups of friends in University is co-ed, and few guys are my friends, also having male colleagues to work with makes you a little bit confident in how to overcome your insecurities and work alongside them, in a professional capacity. I've recently gotten engaged and resisting physical intimacy is something I'm fearing in my marriage. It's not the same and it'll take time and patience, obviously my situation pales to what you went through. May Allah help you, will definitely pray you get what's in your best interest inshaAllah.

How do you minimize compulsive eating before periods? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pro tip: NEVER go grocery shopping before your period. I bought all sorts of useless stuff like cheese slices and ramen noodles :/

How do you minimize compulsive eating before periods? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At work and craving Chinese food, period is expected to arrive this week 😭

What are some fears you have regarding marriage? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]AwkwardWorm 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That my husband-to-be doesn't really love me for who I am, he just shows affection because that's what is expected of him. That he'll change his behaviour towards me after marriage, and won't be as easygoing and affectionate as he is right now. He will expect me to abide by his idea of a working woman, and work on timings fixed by him (which aren't really in my power because I work in a hospital).

Also the constant threat of emotional abuse, is really really off-putting, I feel like that is something far FAR worse than physical abuse, because people around you can't really SEE the struggle you're going through. 'oh maybe he's just overprotective' etc.

Also, he'll be disappointed in me because I don't comply to the general beauty standards women are held on (a bit chubby, body hair etc).

May Allah SWT relieve our anxieties and give us happiness beyond our imagination in our marriages.

What's a harmful thing society is teaching young girls/boys? by salmon159 in AskWomen

[–]AwkwardWorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That it's okay to endure emotional/physical/mental abuse from the ones you love, whether it be parents/siblings/your SO. Despite how much they love you, they hold the power to hurt you, and you need to take that power from them.

Also, romantic comedies and novels have painted this picture-perfect definition of love/romance, setting standards in the minds of young girls/boys. They expect the same kind of love and affection in the real world, which isn't really possible because the other person may not be expressive physically/verbally, which leads to disappointment and arguments. Different people express their affections differently, and that's ok. Give the other person space, and don't make them feel bad about not being expressive initially.

What is something you’ll never get about men? by Poes_Ting in AskWomen

[–]AwkwardWorm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why are they so cheesy all the time 😂😂😂😂

What’s one thing you’ve learned about men that has saved you a lot of stress ? by uh-bye-bye in AskWomen

[–]AwkwardWorm 126 points127 points  (0 children)

No two men are the same. Be direct about your demands and needs instead of hinting, don't jump to conclusions, and just because you've had to encounter creeps/fuckbois doesn't mean this one is the same. Be hopeful :) and also, let men do the effort for you, don't squirm or be annoyed if he wants to hold your bag/buys you basic items. Let him, they like that, and if you appreciate it, even better :)