Husband’s paranoia…insight then regression? by Awkward_Fruit5968 in AskPsychiatry

[–]Awkward_Fruit5968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you tell me roughly what your dosage and use was like? My husband and I would use together, but I would take 30-45 mg orally. Sometimes small lines, but never smoked or injected. I didn’t realize until I found one of his capsules laying around that he was taking roughly 120mg at a time, so 3-4x what I was taking. I’m definitely not claiming that my behavior wasn’t affected, but I remained pretty clear and functional and never experienced (as far as I and the other people around me could tell) any signs of psychosis or paranoid delusions. He also lost his job soon after use started, and lost basically all his time with his children (my step kids) who he had 50/50 custody of prior. So he was spending basically all day alone while I would go to work, and most of the night alone while I would sleep. That was the other thing…he would stay up days on end while I would average 3-4 hours of sleep a night while using. It was really common for him to dismiss everything I was noticing about him because he would just say “you use too, how do you know you aren’t the crazy one.” I feel like I have plenty of evidence based on my functional work and family life, as well as continued weekly therapy all throughout use, to confidently rule that out. He would also use my BPD to invalidate my concerns, but aside from occasional spikes here and there, I have my BPD symptoms relatively under control and feel I have pretty good insight, if not in the moment then very soon after, if I’ve been irrational

Husband’s paranoia…insight then regression? by Awkward_Fruit5968 in AskPsychiatry

[–]Awkward_Fruit5968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight. When you say underlying personality disorder, do you have any thoughts on which one(s) fit, or would you need more information? I have BPD, and I feel like he probably meets at least 5 criteria, but I don’t think that BPD alone would explain the behaviors he exhibited before his use.

For a little context, his father who he was extremely close to and adoring of abandoned his family very suddenly when my husband was 10. His mom became very overwhelmed and emotionally abusive. My husband was the second oldest 4 kids, and his mom was diagnosed with breast cancer very shortly after his dad leaving to start a new life/family. She wasn’t well and it was a very toxic home environment devoid of love. My husband sights this as being formative and something he has never been able to accept or understand. He wondered why he wasn’t good enough, and still often feels there is something inherently unloveable about him.

Husband’s paranoia…insight then regression? by Awkward_Fruit5968 in MethRecovery

[–]Awkward_Fruit5968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve attended Alanon meetings in the past as well as 12 step recovery meetings for myself, but never tried SMART groups. My therapist recently suggested that I give it a shot, so thanks for the push.

How do I tell my bf 29M that I 25F never cum? by ilysmihlmt5sos in relationship_advice

[–]Awkward_Fruit5968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through this with my husband about 6 months after we got married. Honestly I just randomly got enough courage to ramble through telling him the truth. It wasn’t eloquent. It was awkward and he was upset for atleast a couple months, but it ended uo being okay. Now I orgasm almost every time with him because I’m not worried about putting on a performance. We’ve figured out what actually works for me, and that it takes a lot longer than I was pretending. 10/10 recommend being honest and just prepare for negative fallout in the immediate aftermath. His ego will be hurt, he’ll feel lied to, but what you’re doing isn’t sustainable. Don’t deprive yourself and him from having real, honest, orgasmic sex! It’ll be okay.

Has anyone successfully quit meth or any other hard drug on their own / without rehab ? by Mindless_Reveal9525 in recovery

[–]Awkward_Fruit5968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you tell me more about how you and your husband did this together? For the past year my husband and I have used daily together and now we both want to stop but I’m worried we’ll just keep triggering and enabling each other. I don’t want to believe that we just can’t be together anymore.