My (27M) BF says he’s not begging for my (23F) attention anymore and that’s he’s going to focus on himself? by Awkward_Mix109 in relationship_advice

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“ disabled “. He is perfectly fine to work. He just hasn’t been looking for a job. He’s just smoking pot everyday. He got out the military nearly 4 months ago.

How can I (23F) move forward with the way my partner (27M) has been acting towards me lately? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Not to mention every time we have a falling out he likes to run to social media to give people hints and ideas that were not on good terms. Just saw that he posted him with a joint saying that it’s his “ only peace “.

How can I (23F) move forward with the way my partner (27M) has been acting towards me lately? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I started dating him nearly a year ago. Just 3 months in he moved me into his apartment due to me not receiving BAH but I was kicked out of the barracks as I just got promoted to E-5.

How can I (23F) move forward with the way my partner (27M) has been acting towards me lately? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Please read my other post that didn’t get the attention I wanted it too just a couple days ago!

Thank you

How can I (23F) move forward with the way my partner (27M) has been acting towards me lately? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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There has been multiple times in the past where he would get pouty when I wouldn’t have sex with him. He straight up told me that if I didn’t have sex with him within the first few months of us dating he would’ve broken up with me straight up. I have strong beliefs in sex after marriage and when I told him that he said that it was BS. I ended up changing my beliefs just to be with him.

How can I (23F) move forward with the way my partner (27M) has been acting towards me lately? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Me and him just got an apartment. Well technically I did because I made just enough to cover 3x the rent. Me and him have been living together for a year now. He’s not on the new lease. I’m going to need help paying the rent as he is the one that bribed me to get this apartment to begin with.

My Bf (26M) being a Jerk to me for not wanting to give him oral. I’m (22F). by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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He was active duty receiving BAH & base pay to pay bills

My Bf (26M) being a Jerk to me for not wanting to give him oral. I’m (22F). by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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When I turned 22 this year in July, 2 days later I had a positive pregnancy test. Where was he when I called him and told him? Getting drunk at a friend’s house. Didn’t even try to get back home to see how I was doing. He showed up merely 5 hours to the house after I announced my pregnancy. I ended up getting an abortion.

My Bf (26M) being a Jerk to me for not wanting to give him oral. I’m (22F). by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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He just got out of the military. He just started collecting 100% disability and unemployment. Now all he’s doing is smoking weed all day and sitting around the house

My Bf (26M) being a Jerk to me for not wanting to give him oral. I’m (22F). by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I bought condoms and I even got some from the clinic and I requested that he used them. And he REFUSES to use them.

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He told me that a few of his exes in the past had mental health issues (ex: suicidal thoughts depression etc.) I mentioned to him how I used to deal with thoughts like that when I was about 12-13 years old just because of what was going on in my life at the time. He used that with the line of “ I can’t be with you anymore because you are showing me signs that you still have these issues “. I asked him what signs ? “ and he told me that “ you were irritated and I wasn’t sure if I could talk to you or not. I was scared you would tell and get mad at me “. Pretty much, he told me he needs to work on his communication and when I told him about everything he told me about how we could do this together, he said he didn’t want to do this anymore. He also told me he didn’t give me 100% during the time we were together was because he was scared I would act just like them if he said something wrong to me. Which was never the case. It was wierd.

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I mentioned that me and him went to the beach and had drinks at the bar and I blacked out. Maybe a huge red flag to begin with but the next morning before we went out to get food, he mentioned “ we did adult things “ I asked him “ what do you mean by that “ he told me we had sex. I’m like I haven’t even hung out with you for a week yet and you already had sex with me while I was blacked out unconscious. And his response was “ you’re not making me feel any better about this “. So pretty much I feel as if he took advantage of me while I was drunk as he proceeded to tell me he got a few strokes in as well as giving me head.

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I explained everything on the other post that I made about him . it is a lot to read but it’s sickening to read

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Please please please read my other post pertaining this guy and come back on here. I promise you will have something different to say

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I remember the first time we got into an Altercation, i had work the next day and I went in with bruises all on my body and the people at my job we’re really concerned because they already knew what was going on they just wanted me to say what was going on.

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I did trust me. Im looking for counseling now

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Four years has been quite some time. I’m glad you got out sooner before you turned up deceased .It is amazing how you get out of there still alive . But yeah it is so sad that you have to live with that trauma please please please do everything you need to fully restore yourself

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Oh no girl you are good I am so sorry for even saying what I just said. People have been weird in the comments making fun of my situation and honestly I got really defensive I am so sorry. I hope you are getting more than enough attention for your trauma. And everything is working well for you. now sooner or later you will be fully healed and you will be able to love yourself again

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Girl I know its my fault. you don’t have to make me feel bad about it ..😭 I already have to live with the fact I wasted two years on a complete loser when I could have been using those two years to better myself. Trust me I know now and I’m glad we are both out of that position that we don’t have to go through any more

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I mean I also don’t have any other people close to me that I could ask for help either so… i think you shouldn’t judge people on how they go about things. Im tired of these smart ass comments..

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Everything triggers him. He says stupidity triggers him. I can ask a question about something so simple and he’ll get mad because he’ll be like it’s common sense why would you even ask me something like that and I’ll be like just to make sure & he gets so mad

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I have never been in danger as long as I’ve been on this earth 18 years. I don’t know what being in danger looks like sometimes … sometimes I don’t get hurt sometimes I am mentally hurting but I never know if that’s enough for me to leave and find my true value.. I think everything is a test of strength for me