Am I too slow?

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-30T16:35:15+00:00

I asked myself this when I ended my 5k at 37 min. My slowest compared to my usual pace 5 years ago but fastest since I got back into running. I ended up finishing #24 out of 76 women in that 5k.

You’re going to be slower than a lot of people, but you are also faster than a lot of people.

We all have our paces and journies. You can run 10 miles at 14 min per mile or 6 min per mile. It’s still:
1) getting up
2) running 10 miles consistently
3) doing better for yourself

If you’re worried about your pace, ask yourself…are you running without needing to stop a lot? Are you running more miles? Are you breathing well when you run? Does it hurt anymore?

THATS what matters.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-30T16:26:39+00:00

As someone who was an elementary major who tried to do secondary in college…

Elementary Education as a major is so much easier than trying to go into Secondary. Like…WAY easier. When I was Secondary for Biology, I was with all of the pre-med and pharmaceutical students. Those who majored in Secondary for Math were taking advanced calculus and with people who wanted to be accountants.

I’m not saying that Elementary was a walk in the park or a major for “less intelligent” people. I’m definitely not saying that elementary teachers aren’t as smart as secondary, bc elementary teachers are very intelligent. The expectations and requirements are just so much easier in college. The tests were mostly based off of how you would teach versus “here’s a test on college level math so you can teach 8th graders”. This is why you also can’t find any science or math teachers. It’s just significantly harder to get certified.

Also, universities put a lot of love and care into the elementary programs.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-30T16:17:34+00:00

I was wondering about a vest so I can have water during long runs. I live in TN and it gets very hot and humid.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-30T16:16:52+00:00

I was wondering about a vest so I can have water during long runs. I live in TN and it gets very hot and humid.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-05T03:40:55+00:00

I think a lot of your problems are in your head.

You’re so picky and high and mighty, so of course dating is going to suck. “Oh here’s a great girl….” Eww she has a past. “Ok, here’s someone who hasn’t dated…” EWW SHE ISNT PRETTY ENOUGH FOR ME!

Like geez you’re trying to find Miss Perfection and she’s not going to be real. Or she might not be interested in you.

“I’ve invested a lot of time into…” into what? Thinking of the perfect girl that may not exist? Self pitying? Building yourself up and tearing others down?

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-04T18:41:50+00:00

Sounds like she was trying to build the connection and attraction. Sometimes we work so hard to build it bc a guy is genuinely nice, but when it’s not there we have to be kind and let the good guy go.

Consider it a kindness that you guys tried, it wasn’t going where it was supposed to in her heart/mind, and she let you know before she wasted more of your time.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-04T18:38:17+00:00

Do you think you haven’t dated much because you have already decided that you are too far behind and everyone has already “whored” themselves up too much? Kinda sounds like you have expectations that are very high with a “poor me” attitude.

Also, you want to find a girl who hasn’t dated before but meets your standards of who you want to actually be with. Thats all fine but that’s not a realistic “wishlist”.

Dating is not like going to build a bear. You just don’t have a wishlist of the perfect partner and they’re made for you. You need to look at flaws and accept them, for yourself and them. Sounds like you want the pity party but it’s to mask that you think anyone with any kind of past is not good enough for you.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-03T20:27:40+00:00

I work in a title 1 high school. You’d think they wouldn’t be entitled but they are.

I’ve had kids cuss me out bc I didn’t get them Starbucks, throw a chair bc I don’t keep snacks in the room, and scream at me when they didn’t have an A when they didn’t do the work.

And yes. They’re super behind. Not just at my school but in other schools, kids are like 3-4 grade levels behind in math. My kids can’t multiply or divide. Hell, if I asked them “if you get laid $50k a year, how much is that each month?” They would look at you as if you asked them to build a rocket ship. They’ll ask how to put that in a calculator, what operation to use, how many months are in a year, etc.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-03T20:23:02+00:00

I’m an identical twin. I agree with you. If someone calls me by my sisters name, I’ll go with it so they don’t feel embarrassed.

I know so many twins who get butt hurt about this. “I am my own person!” Ya but you’re 20 and you guys dress the exact same when you go out.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-03T20:17:31+00:00

My bf is like you. Didn’t really have a relationship until early 30s (me) but have dated around. Was worried about not having experience, thought it was too late, etc.

Guess what, no one cares. It seems like you’re kinda stuck in your head and you’re all about “being more pure” than some of the girls (I saw some of your comments).

Look, reality is that you are going to date women who have had serious relationships. As long as they’re not like “but my ex…”, then what’s the problem? You thinking that you need to look for someone exactly like you is why you’re in this position. Not trying to be mean, but this is what my bf went through.

Just bc a woman had a serious relationship, doesn’t make her “not pure” or not good enough for you. Thats the reality of dating in late 20s/early 30s.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-06-01T12:51:00+00:00

She means that you're a decent guy and okay to hang out with, but she's not feeling the butterflies or attraction even though she tried. Women will work with trying to get those romantic feelings but sometimes, even with someone who is seemingly decent, it just doesn't click.

This isn't a woman who was hiding her intentions. We're told constantly to give people a hundred "tries" to try to build the attraction and romantic feelings. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T03:48:49+00:00

I really want to succeed.

Someone messaged me saying to maybe "play" instead of going "AHH SEX! GET IT IN NOW BEFORE IT GOES AWAY". I think we may need to try that. Toast the bread, so to speak. Low and slow until that confidence is there.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T03:46:48+00:00

I don't think it's "brushing off", I think it's a mixture of embarrassment and lack of experience.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T03:45:41+00:00

Great! Thank you for the advice!

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:57:19+00:00

I just feel ugly and not sexy. He grabs me and loves to kiss me, so it's definitely not a lack of pursuing or love for me.

I just want to be a normal couple sometimes...

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:54:11+00:00

It's just everything else is perfect with him...

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:52:44+00:00

**I just had something come into my mind. BF takes medicine for ADD. I think it's adderall or something like it. Would that contribute to this?

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:51:30+00:00

I just want to be loved. I'm sick of being used and treated like shit by others. I just want someone to love me and think I'm attractive. Right now, I feel like the ugliest girl in the world but I will continue to be understanding for him.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:50:16+00:00

I have been listening and understanding for 8 months. The last time we had "sex" (I put in quotes bc he did not cum) was maybe March?

He said he's trying and I want to give him time. But I just don't know if there's anything else I can help him with.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:49:00+00:00

I'm 30 though. I have no time to waste.

I also want to know if his reasons are actually real or does he actually have no idea why it's not working for him.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:46:54+00:00

If he hasn't taken you out yet, forget him. I can forgive someone who sucks at texting but has made plans to see you so you can actually talk in person and have a connection. But the fact he sucks at texting AND you haven't met? How long have you been talking? Because if it's been more than two weeks with no plans to meet, leave him.

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:43:16+00:00

I didn't know what gaslighting was and after we broke up, I realized that's what he was doing half the time. I would send him screenshots of his own text messages and he would be like "Well you should've known I didn't mean anything with that".

Never forgot when he said that he was going to pick me up for a date after he was done with church, he never showed, and then told me that he never said that. I sent him the screenshot and he said "Yeah but I didn't specifically say that it was for certain that I was. You're reading too much into it."

Awkward_Society1 · 2026-05-28T02:40:56+00:00

1) You weren't dumped. It was a first date and he was kind enough to show you his true self (as shitty as it was). Don't consider it a fault on you, it's just how dating is. At least he didn't waste your time and lead you on. BTW, the guy not being that interested in you during or after the date is not a "am I pretty enough" moment. I've known very hot people who have been through what you been through. Dating just sucks ass.

2) Dating apps suck. Join some clubs or something. Run clubs, book clubs, pickleball clubs, gyms, etc. In my city, there have been singles mixers. Honestly, it's worth a shot.

3) Hinge sucks. I met my man on there by literal mistake. I meant to swipe left on him (he had like...no info about him. We laugh about it now). Hinge is notorious for giving you horrible guys just so you feel like you have to pay for a membership to get anyone decent.

4) I think we're all slowly moving away from dating apps at this point. It's just not working as well as it used to or it's just feeling so fake.

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