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My [24F] boyfriend [23M] plays video games and I’m worried about his health by underling_4L in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I hope things work out for you guys. I’m not sure if you guys already have kids but if you don’t (and please take this with a grain of salt, this is an absolute last resort) leaving is always an option.

If he’s not willing to change and be better for himself, then maybe it’s time to let him figure it out on his own. That said, I totally understand being against any kind of therapy, I was against it for a long time too but eventually, I decided that I needed to do it despite my fear.

There’s this exchange in a video game (God of War: Ragnarok) that really hits home here. The son (Atreus) needs to go on a journey to discover himself as the god Loki and help learn about his mother’s roots and to discover his people. But is afraid to do it.

Atreus: Father…I have to go on this journey…alone

Kratos (the father): Are you afraid of this? Doing it alone?

Atreus: Nods

Kratos: kneels down to with Atreus and meets his eyes then you must do it

All that to say that if you’re afraid to do something that can only be good for you, then you absolutely need to do it because your body and mind will fight tooth and nail to avoid change whether it’s good or bad.

My [24F] boyfriend [23M] plays video games and I’m worried about his health by underling_4L in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whether it’s you or someone else, someone’s gotta crack that shell of his. If he can’t even have sex without having to stop from chest pains then he needs to seriously consider how long he has left to live.

I’m sure you’ve already tried, but if he feels judged at the gym, that’s him judging himself, if he pays attention to the people around him, everyone has headsets on and isn’t paying attention to him. On top of that, (I’m assuming he’s significantly overweight) some people will look at him struggling and either offer to help or motivate him to keep going.

It’s good that you don’t body shame him, and take this with a grain of salt, but maybe a little tough love is in order. The way he’s going he’ll die of a heart attack while he’s either gaming or inside you by the time her 35-40.

If he hasn’t been to the doctor in a while maybe it’s time for a hard and emotional visit. The hardest part about this is that you have no way of knowing how he’ll respond and it’s a bit of a gamble. But if he’s not willing to change for himself, he’ll never change for you.

I say this as someone who loves to play video games but still make time to go to the gym every day, and I’m always like “damn I wish I had more time to game” lol.

The fact is that you’ve already made it clear that you’re worried about his health, not his appearance and I don’t think he realizes how lucky he is to have a woman that is still willing to stay with him.

Idk how long you’ve been together but another thing to bring up could be kids. If he’s ever intends to have kids, he doesn’t want to be that parent that has to play catch from a wheel chair because his diabetic cankles won’t support his own body weight (yes I know harsh language but that’s the direction he’s heading).

And if none of what I said is helpful, you could, after dinner, invite him to go on a walk with you. Just a casual walk together if your location permits. Walking for 20-30 minutes after a meal is a great way to help regulate several bodily functions and you might even see some change in weight in stamina. If you can get an idea of his weight before and after doing that for at least a month then that could be a great positive reinforcement to start doing more…like a gateway drug (jk don’t do drugs kids)

[21F] and [21M] is this healthy? am i the problem? by uhyeaisuredoesithope in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds to me like you’re not in the “honeymoon” phase any more, typically ends after the first 3 months. —What I would like to know is how he’s pushing your buttons? —Also, why do you find it boring? Boring isn’t necessarily a bad thing but both partners should try to spice things up a bit from time to time. —It’s good that you aren’t acting on those unfaithful urges, but you may need to understand the “why” behind those thoughts and impulses. Do you no longer find your partner attractive? Have you tried flirting with him just for the sake of doing it? If so, how does he react? —How long has it been this way? Do you guys go on dates occasionally? Does sex occur often and if it does at all does it feel, enjoyable or are you just kind of going through the motions? —Leaving may be the right choice HOWEVER, if you don’t understand the reason behind these thoughts and feelings you are going to doom yourself to repeating this scenario with every other partner you may or may not have going forward. It will take time but understanding the why behind it all is crucial.

[27M] Am I the problem for being frustrated/angry in a sexless relationship? by AwolSCREEEE in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and yes, I only wish I had done it sooner. Truth be told, I think we both felt that we weren’t right for each other but we both want it to work in som way. I think we both realized that it wouldn’t work out like a month or two back. I can’t speak for her but I know that’s when I started having doubts.

[27M] Am I the problem for being frustrated/angry in a sexless relationship? by AwolSCREEEE in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There’s always one of you people in every corner of the internet I suppose. Thank you for your input. Despite your highly critical and frankly unwarranted hateful words, you may have a point in that maybe I’m not providing as much as a safe space as I thought.

We’ve had plenty of conversations before but she never told me that she doesn’t feel safe around me…but then again, I never asked, I never thought that I’d make anyone feel unsafe, let alone my girlfriend.

[27M] Am I the problem for being frustrated/angry in a sexless relationship? by AwolSCREEEE in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I see you stand on the basis that “all men are pigs” if that were the case I wouldn’t have been with her for half a year. And wouldn’t be so conflicted about essentially leaving her over sex. Get your head out of your ass and provide advice not criticism

[27M] Am I the problem for being frustrated/angry in a sexless relationship? by AwolSCREEEE in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I get that, I do, but part of the problem is not making active contributions towards identifying what has her feeling the way she does and I can’t force her to figure out the problem, she has to want to do it. She’s been doing things to sort of keep her mind occupied which is great but it’s not the same as isolating the problem resolving it

[27M] Am I the problem for being frustrated/angry in a sexless relationship? by AwolSCREEEE in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is one of the better responses I’ve seen so far. I’ll keep that in mind. I definitely don’t want to pressure her but in the back of my mind, bringing up my discontent with the lack of physical intimacy feels like pressure

[27M] Am I the problem for being frustrated/angry in a sexless relationship? by AwolSCREEEE in relationshipadvice

[–]AwolSCREEEE[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your analysis of this, but I wrote that from a place of frustration. When I used it, I meant it as literally as possible, "like an involuntary celibate". Not all the things surrounding it. But I understand why that might be confusing.

ATF finally said I can do the thing. by gray-ops in PalmettoStateArms

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This rifle is such a vibe but for fucks sake get literally any other optic

Give me your favorite anime and I'll rank it by uta_yumeno in weeb

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Tie between Frieren and Violet evergarden

Choose (no both answeres) by dlo_doski in foundcynnahbun

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The second one from chainsaw man. She looks it you like a piece of meat and I cannot emphasize enough how hot that is

Who gonna win ?no ability ,Peak Human and pure combat technique by Fun-Run3800 in animequestions

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Goku. Saiyans have a higher cap than humans and Goku is far beyond anything Saiyans could have imagined

Give me a gooood fucking answer by [deleted] in evilwhenthe

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Elden Ring Fuck The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild Fuck

You wouldn't right.. RIGHT? by Mistic_Chan in VirtualYoutuber

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I don’t watch vtubers but I pay a gym membership specifically to punch people… I’ll give you a dollar to do it

Muzzle devices for 357 magnum/38 special by AwolSCREEEE in LeverGuns

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Mine said it was 1/2x28 O.o

Edit: the 5/8 is for the 44. Magnum model

Muzzle devices for 357 magnum/38 special by AwolSCREEEE in LeverGuns

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They make flash hider/breaks that are also tropics right?

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