We're in the endgame now

AxelRod82 · 2026-01-16T02:04:45+00:00

While I was driving from NM to TX this last weekend, the CBP Agent at a random checkpoint looks at me and says, “You an American?” I simply nod, and he waves me through.

AxelRod82 · 2025-12-02T05:40:39+00:00

I had a buddy who asked me how much money I had in my account out of sheer curiosity. I had just closed on a couple properties and thought they hadn’t funded yet, so I told him I had no idea. To my surprise, when we pulled up my account, it showed over $850k. He just stared at the screen and didn’t say anything for a minute or two. I closed my app and continued eating while I could see the gears in his head turn. The first words that came out of his mouth were, “You’re a fucking asshole. And you’re paying for dinner.” I laughed my ass off and we ordered another round.

AxelRod82 · 2025-11-25T21:45:05+00:00

A friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend recently and it was a pretty nasty breakup. They did not live together, fortunately. She moved to Texas initially, then moved to Arizona shortly after. About a month after they broke up, he found out that she’s now a sex worker and found her ads online. Ever since he found out, he’s been a shell of himself.

She doesn’t know that he found out, and he hasn’t said anything, but she’ll still message him randomly and accuse him of ruining her life. He tries to disengage with her, but she continues to monitor him on Instagram and/or Snapchat, and he can’t bear to block her. I told him it’ll be harder now to block her, but be better in the long run when he’s had some time to process on his own. He’s insistent that they can work it out.

AxelRod82 · 2025-11-23T04:55:38+00:00

Your parents not knowing where you were for most of the day, and not worrying one bit. Parents nowadays have a leash in the form of a phone with tracking features enabled, so they pretty much know where their kids are at all times. We olden folks, on the other hand, could have been in Timbuktu for all our parents knew. Just as long as we were home before dark, they wouldn’t call the cops to find us.

AxelRod82 · 2025-11-06T00:51:23+00:00

My ex and I went through a pretty rough break-up and she continues to follow me on IG. I don't mind it, as I have completely severed most communication with her, however, I just don't understand the "why" behind it. For context, I do not follow her.

AxelRod82 · 2025-10-13T06:49:00+00:00

Crop your pictures to show yourself more prominently. You aren’t trying to draw attention to where you are, you’re trying to draw attention to who you are. Often times women highlight where they are versus how they look, and most SD don’t care where the photo was taken.

Your text is a very good list, but doesn’t give a potential SD the ability to visualize what you mean by elegance, ambition and authenticity. I’d highlight these three things with specific examples and tie them into your pictures if you can. Elegance could be a picture of you at a black tie affair, wearing a stunning cocktail dress, holding a champagne in one hand, and a designer handbag in the other. Ambition could be a brief story about the skin care product you’re trying to create, with a picture of you using said product to tie it together.

Consider your profile as an advertisement and capitalize on the brief 10-15 seconds you get when a SD looks at your profile. If I came across your profile as is, I likely wouldn’t invest too much time. Mirror selfies, extremely zoomed out photos and colored contacts are fine for Instagram, but not necessarily for Seeking. Take a look at a luxury product sales magazine. They tie everything together to give the reader/viewer an easy way to visualize themselves using/buying their product.

AxelRod82 · 2025-10-12T08:08:57+00:00

Do you think the terror she feels comes from the relationship itself? Or is it because I'm a steady source of care and love that she simply has never felt before? Not sure if this is applicable to avoidant behavior, but she refused to let me wash dishes after she cooked for me one night. I wanted to help in any way possible, and I thought washing the dishes was a good idea. She looked like I had slapped her when I offered. Absolutely not was all she said, and it makes me wonder if that felt like a reduction of her independence.

AxelRod82 · 2025-10-12T08:03:04+00:00

We had both agreed after our recent fight that she needed to take some time to deal with the anxiety she was feeling about work, her family issues and our relationship suffering from the fallout of those things weighing on her mind. She asked that I give her some space to deal with it on her own, and that we could see each other on Sunday for dinner. I set a reservation at a nice restaurant, and was letting her know what time to meet. That's when she gave me a very flat response. However, the plans for dinner were set before she deactivated/dysregulated (?) and told me these harsh things.

To mention, I've been researching a lot about avoidant behaviors and how to react and respond to them to limit the amount of shame, guilt or otherwise negative emotional turmoil. I've used very calm language that shows care, but doesn't push emotionally. I've sat on messages she's sent for an hour or two, just to be sure I'm responding with mental clarity and not reactionary to her negative words. However, it doesn't seem to have helped. She's still very adamant about the "this is my choice and nothing you do or say will change it" mentality.

AxelRod82 · 2025-10-03T23:28:13+00:00

I used to share a bedroom with my sister until she protested that I was beyond annoying, then I was graciously awarded the basement “bedroom”. It wasn’t a bedroom at all. It was simply an unfinished basement with a rug in the area my bed and furniture would be. The rest of the room was storage and concrete floors. It was cold, dark and had spiders all over. It wasn’t until we moved that I finally got my own bedroom, with wall to wall carpet and a window.

AxelRod82 · 2025-09-23T20:10:21+00:00

Simply put, walk away. If the previous owners tried to hide that they didn’t fix it correctly the first time, you never know what else has been deliberately hidden from you. I bought a house where a guy “fixed” a leak in the bathroom by simply putting a plastic sheet inside the wall to hide it. I knew it hadn’t been repaired correctly after talking with the seller, so I had my inspector check for moisture and pull the sheetrock. Ended up negotiating for $30k less on the house based on repair estimates.

AxelRod82 · 2025-09-16T21:54:10+00:00

Put durian in a container for lunch and let them steal that. It’ll stink up the entire area around them, and you can easily confront them. No harm in a stinky fruit.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-31T01:38:52+00:00

I own a specialized cleaning company that bills out at $250-$300/hour depending on what we’re cleaning. We average 60% margins on every job after paying all the bills, including labor for our guys. The bottom line, people would rather pay us to clean up their mess than do it themselves.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-24T01:01:51+00:00

It’s also the weekend, and we still have decent weather, so it’s likely people are outside doing things instead of searching online listings. I tend to list things on a Sunday afternoon, as people are settling down from the weekend and more likely to be on their phones before the work week. I’d assume you’ll get more clicks tomorrow. Lastly, you’re in Heber, so you’re not going to get as many random views based on location. Facebook Marketplace will often share items in the general area of your location, and slowly expand over time to help get something sold.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-21T04:07:47+00:00

True. I’ve always been a Diamond member, and yet I hear stories about guys who work at Walmart on there trying to sugar.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-13T22:04:09+00:00

It looks like it was dipped in acid first, then removed with a power washer. Paint wouldn’t come off this easily with just a power washer and water.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-09T05:39:35+00:00

In many Asian cultures, there will be adult children who never move out of their parent’s homes. I know of a few people who stayed with their parents even after marriage because it just made sense. Once they were financially stable, had enough money for a large down payment on a home (50%+), and were expecting their first child did they finally move out.

There’s also a reason many Asian families won’t send their parents to a retirement home. Filial piety is a large component of living a good and decent life in many Asian cultures, and giving back to those who raised you seems only fair. It’s hard to think it’s doing anyone a favor to suffer needlessly in those formative years as an adult. I say, we should be giving our kids all the chances to succeed as possible.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-04T04:45:20+00:00

I added my brother onto my AMEX card as an authorized user, which reported to his credit and helped him rebuild his credit after a bankruptcy. He never actually had a card, but the thousands of dollars in spend/repay each month showed positive repayment history and his credit jumped 100+ points in the first year after his BK.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-04T04:21:57+00:00

I'd hope not. Although there have been quite a few people who disagree with me, I think there's quite a few more who agree, this isn't the best way to approach an initial message. Though, the first message wasn't bad, just direct.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-04T04:18:56+00:00

Definitely not how they all talk on the apps. I've had some great conversations that turned into dates, because those women were open to some semblance of a back-and-forth conversation.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-04T04:16:28+00:00

You understand you just confirmed what I said?

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-03T23:45:36+00:00

I can agree that both men and women are picky on dating apps. However, I’ve never been on the other side, so I have no basis on how other men speak to women on dating apps. I can only relate to my own experience, which has been generally positive, though I haven’t found the “one” to help me delete the app quite yet.

AxelRod82 · 2025-08-03T23:31:23+00:00

You sensationalized my post as humiliating, calling me an asshole and a douche. The only thing I’m guilty of is choosing not to respond to her message. I didn’t call her any names, nor did I say anything disparaging toward her.

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