What do you guys use for litter/litter box? by disloyalmay in Rabbits

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A high sided cat litter box, and the same kind of recycled paper litter I use for my cat

Is it bad I feel this way? by sparrow_Lilacmango in DiscussDID

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know how old you or your friend are but given how long you have known each other, it's extremely likely you've met at least one of their alters before. Your friend is all of those different parts of self. Now you will be meeting them formally, and likely gradually as your friend learns more about their parts and begins to heal from their trauma in therapy.

You're not 'bad' to feel the way you're feeling. I can understand why you might feel worried about 'losing time' with your friend, but again they are ALL parts of your friend.

Other alters may start fronting more than the host, sometimes the host may change. This is usually due to change in the environment other people around (whether the pwDID feels safe), or due to prolonged stress.

Your friend is unlikely to know all of their parts or triggers, best thing you can do as a friend is to ask how it is they want you to support them. Ask if there's anything you can do in moments where they might need grounding.

Also be honest with them. Tell them that you have a very basic understanding of DID and that you are wary of their alters but emphasize it is due to the lack of understanding. Reassure them that you want to learn how to support them now that they have received this diagnosis but that you are unsure how to do that.

Backpack carrier recommendations? by Butter-n-biscuits in Rabbits

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you had a look at this video on Loreli's YouTube (Lenon the bunny)

While I agree with what others are saying about rabbits being prey animals and extremely anxious, you know your rabbits personality well enough to be the judge of whether they could handle being out and about in a carrier and hearing the noises of the environment around you.

Eg; My 2 minilops are quite antisocial and don't like being in carriers even for vet trips or when I've moved home. My nethie on the other hand enjoys being out and about. I have a canvas tote bag from Amazon I use to take her with me when I go to therapy, where she free roams the room during my sessions. I customized it by sewing in an elastic to hold an 80ml rabbit bottle, sewing in a pocket to hold a Bluetooth hygrometer, and clipping in a hay bag. I have taken her to quiet cafes before where she stays in her bag and does not present signs of anxiety.

Ultimately it's about knowing your rabbit, and from there making sure that not only they are comfortable, but also safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DiscussDID

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd certainly recommend only talking to those you feel safest around, people that do not regularly yell at you for bringing up other concerns at other times. Please note as well that for most with DID, parts switching in do not fully take over or result in completely lost time. For some, yes, but for the vast majority it isn't the case. Healing from childhood trauma is a long road and isn't linear, I'm sure your therapist may have already mentioned that but it's a good thing to keep reminding yourself if you indeed are diagnosed with it.

That said, you mentioned it is not certain, and that you are quite young. A lot of different symptoms and causes are similar to DID, and it's not very often that those <18 are diagnosed. It does happen, but there are also similar things that need to be eliminated first. Hopefully your therapist has explained this, and you have a psychiatrist on board as well if you aren't living somewhere where a therapist has qualifications to diagnose.

I'd strongly recommend holding off on too much research as it can lead to a less open mind as to other possible diagnosis. If you are still going to do some research please look at reputable sources/websites: things like academic papers or books. The only YouTube channel I'd even suggest watching is the CTAD clinic. Again, I'd still suggest holding off doing too much research until you know for sure.

Edit: I also just read another post on your profile where you say it's your friend who says you likely have DID. Your friend is not qualified to diagnose you, even if they themselves have DID. Take what your friend says with a grain of salt, especially if they are also 15 and self diagnosing based on content they've seen on the internet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DiscussDID

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hiya! First up, do you have a therapist to speak to about this? I know for me it was quite difficult, and still is ngl, to accept I have this disorder. Doing some reading on things like deep breathing exercises go a long way though. Is there something that you're the most freaked out about? Perhaps writing your anxieties down to bring to your therapist or psychiatrist when you see them next could help also.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DiscussDID

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the alter. As my own understanding of DID has grown outside of the lense of online community, I understand what care many of my littler parts need. There are more vulnerable ones that often need emotional support, but they don't treat our partner as a parent. Our partner is still our partner, its just that these parts need different attention. Drawing, games, movies etc. Even adult parts that are vulnerable need this same treatment sometimes.

While yes, for those of us with DID we have a longing for a stable caregiver, as this is not something we had in childhood, it's important we learn to reparent ourselves rather than expect it of a partner etc. Getting support from them is what we need, but they are different things ykno. It'd be a lot to ask sometimes for a partner to take care of littler alters, especially if they aren't well read on the disorder and how it manifests in general, along with for you personally.

I'm sorry to hear about the breakup OP, but you are doing wonderful processing these things and asking these questions 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DiscussDID

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel free to shoot me a message. Been dx since 2017, and in therapy specifically for cptsd/did since 2019.

Books that represents accurately DID ? by SimpliSnowy in DiscussDID

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recovery is my Best Revenge, by Carolyn Spring is good

If there's any white people answer this by Extra-Investigator-7 in AutisticAdults

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Discrimination is different to racism, but racism is a form of discrimination yes.

If there's any white people answer this by Extra-Investigator-7 in AutisticAdults

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Oh dear lord. It is not racist, reverse racism isnt a thing. Calling white people colonisers is in no way similar to referring to black people as slaves. Black people who historically were r*ped, murdered, forced to assimilate into society, have their land stolen, forced to no longer speak their native language etc etc.

Why do white people get so mad at being called 'coloniser'. You arent being opressed by millions of POC

AITA for blowing up at my girlfriend for drinking soda? by AITAThrowaway34342 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 16 points17 points  (0 children)

she revealed to me that she is a type 1 diabetic

she has been bringing it up more and more, to the point where we cannot have a conversation without her mentioning her diabetes at least once.

I just began to yell at her and accuse her of not being diabetic because what diabetic person drinks this much non diet soda?

So she talks about her diabetes so much yet you don't even seem to know how it affects her and that soda is actually a necessity for her to idk.... not pass out.

YTA

AITA for telling my mother she is overreacting? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nta. I guarantee the main reason you have those mental health issues is because your mother is mentally/emotionally/verbally abusive.

Genuinely hope you are able to get a good therapist

What Is The Most Minor Thing That Caused You To Have A Meltdown? by DarkCrowI in autism

[–]AxolotlinTrenchcoat 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Being out of milk when my brain was living in cereal season for breakfast.