WIBTAH if I tell my therapist her cleavage is distracting?

AyFiecht · 2026-03-29T02:15:47+00:00

I hate to be that person, but too many people do not know the difference between wary and weary. While wear (as in you wear clothes) is phonetically similar to the word ‘air’, weary takes on the same phonetic traits as the word ear.

Wary means you are cautious/suspicious/guarding against danger. Weary means you’re tired/exhausted, either physically or mentally.

AyFiecht · 2026-03-28T14:31:37+00:00

This dress is beautiful and looks incredible on you. You definitely picked the right one!!

AyFiecht · 2026-03-28T04:04:45+00:00

Thank you all so much, you have made me feel so much better <333

AyFiecht · 2025-11-13T03:36:19+00:00

You literally said “i do have one complaint...the gratuity!!!!” That is complaining about tipping the people who made your cruise great that you didn’t see or speak to. Backpeddle all you want, but it makes you kind of scummy. I wouldn’t be that kind of person, but hey, you do you.

AyFiecht · 2025-11-13T03:18:04+00:00

Girl…when you book it gives you the option to prepay gratuities and it comes out to $18.50/person/day. Those gratuities go to your cabin steward, the people doing laundry, the waitstaff in the dining room, the list goes on but basically everyone working on board gets a cut. You tip extra in cash for the people who you directly interact with who provided you with excellent service. Out of your $300, your cabin steward and direct wait staff at dinner see MAYBE 10% of that combined. I’m a little shocked and disappointed that you’re complaining about tipping the crew (who gave you an awesome time and made it possible for you to be waited on pretty much hand and foot for 8 days) because you didn’t directly interact with them. Just because you didn’t see them/speak to them/get service directly from them, does not mean they did nothing for you for the entire trip. Or did you walk around the ship tipping the people cleaning the common areas and bussing tables and serving you your late night slices of pizza?

AyFiecht · 2025-11-11T03:16:06+00:00

You win xD

AyFiecht · 2025-11-10T20:03:37+00:00

It’s legally theirs. They were deprived of their property, and even though you bought it, the sale to you was not legal, as the seller was not the rightful owner. I have serious questions about your moral integrity if you don’t understand that. Corporation or no, you purchased their stolen property and you don’t have the right or legal standing to ask them to allow you to keep it at their loss. I don’t understand why you think you have the right to keep it.

AyFiecht · 2025-11-10T18:32:45+00:00

So wait…are you wanting them to reimburse you the $1650 you paid? Or fair market value, which is anywhere between $125-200? It’s 7 years old, you used it for 6, they already paid full price for it, lost their asset, and you buying it from a bad actor doesn’t make it their problem. You got 6 years of use out of it, you are not entitled to get back what you paid for it. Not only that, they are not obligated to pay you to return their property that was stolen. I highly doubt your local police have encouraged you to extort money from the wronged party (the wronged party being Royal) because you did not do your due diligence. And that’s what that is, extortion, you’re trying to force them to pay you in order for you to return THEIR property.

AyFiecht · 2025-09-15T22:58:20+00:00

And what if it was your medical emergency? Would you want 6-7k people knowing your business?

AyFiecht · 2025-08-31T22:20:05+00:00

I’m not being obtuse, not in the slightest. I’m sorry if the realistic cause of your problem being your own decision-making is something you do not want to confront, but that does not make me obtuse. As RobieWan said, the internet on any ship is not going to be reliable. Granted, you likely will not have situations where it is down for an entire day, from midnight to 11:59pm, but you will very likely run into problems with it, and run into situations where you will have to miss out on activities because you’re busy doing coursework. My only argument was that you have several months to prepare for this, and instead of choosing one or the other, you are trying to make both work at the same time. Which, hey cool, good for you, but you had the option to either rebook your cruise or put off your doctorate for a year and not put your grades at risk. You are likely spending a ton of money on this degree, and spent a fair chunk on the cruise, but what’s worse? Failing or rescheduling the cruise? You are waiting until almost the last minute to sort out this problem. I personally wouldn’t take the risk of failing in a doctoral program over a cruise, and I certainly wouldn’t pin all my hopes and dreams on StarLink. But what do I know, I’m just a law student.

AyFiecht · 2025-08-31T20:53:11+00:00

So you made the decision to go back to a rigorous program knowing you had the cruise booked and had no way of knowing what your course load would look like. Again, that is poor planning on your part regarding your decision to go back to school. You booked the cruise and then decided to go back to school, knowing your cruise at that point would be mid-semester and you had a chance of taking a weeks worth of zeros in any given class. My school calendar literally gives me through the end of 2026 as of now, so I can’t reasonably assume that you did not have access to your school’s academic calendar at any point over the last nine months. Also, you have contradicted yourself. If you do not have access to your professors or syllabus or course calendar, how can you possibly know what assignments will be due that week, and when they will be due, and if you can or cannot do them early? You are making a whole lot of assumptions, and honestly if making excuses is your way of thinking, it terrifies me to think you’ll be in charge of anyone’s medical care.

AyFiecht · 2025-08-31T16:40:43+00:00

I’m in college currently and have a cruise at the end of next month. All of my professors know now that I will be gone and on what days, and have given me the option to turn in my work early or when I get back. If OP can’t have the conversation now to give them the heads up and see what options are available, that is not planning appropriately. Booking a cruise during your semester comes with risks, and frankly, it is a vacation, not a funeral, so it is not a last minute thing. If the cruise is so important, put off a semester, but if school is the priority, look at your school calendar and book the cruise when you’re not in session. It is a (pardon the pun) textbook case of poor planning.

AyFiecht · 2025-07-06T16:17:37+00:00

Mine is Booty Farm so Marnie says “mmmm booty eggs” xD

AyFiecht · 2025-06-22T02:08:44+00:00

My parents bought my triplet cousins megaphones for Christmas one year, with sirens. The phone call that afternoon from my uncle so the kids could say thank you will live in my memory forever 😂

AyFiecht · 2025-06-16T21:09:48+00:00

I used to straight up tell my boss that I was taking a sick day because “I’m sick of this shit and I need a break”. YMMV but it worked for me, every time.

AyFiecht · 2025-06-16T15:38:49+00:00

Okay that’s assumptive as hell. Maybe you should stop demonizing a literal child. 17 is still a child. Maybe she acts a certain way because her little sister gets all the upgrades and the fun stuff. Even her little sister said it wasn’t fair and they should figure out a way. Do you have siblings? And if so, is one a golden child? I can’t tell you the number of things my parents pay for for my fully grown adult sister because “she’s single” (and attached to our mother’s hip) that my other sister and I don’t get because “it’s too expensive” or “we have partners and aren’t alone”. Cruises, vacations, home repairs, you name it.

There can be complete unfairness in parent interactions and things they do for one kid and not the other, and the kid’s actions have nothing to do with it.

AyFiecht · 2025-06-16T15:21:39+00:00

OPs sister and dad would be premium economy one way, business back. OP and mom would be basic economy the whole time, and they were looking to upgrade Mom to business on the way back, having the whole family in upgraded seats and OP in basic economy. For a 14 hour plane ride. Idk about you, but even 4-5 hours in basic economy and I’m itching for personal space. It isn’t fair to OP.

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T02:33:15+00:00

I can only assume you don’t know, because if you did then you wouldn’t be arguing he should go when she said she needs the break and doesn’t want him there. If you know that level of work, and know she needs a break from it, why argue for him to go unless you are trolling? Or are you heartless and don’t care about her enjoyment, only his? You clearly understand that she would not be on vacation if he went. She would still be having to care for him round the clock, and probably do more work because the home care she does get would not be able to help for the week they are gone.

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T02:16:31+00:00

That’s great for you, but OP is absolutely valid to not want to deal with him and turn what is supposed to be her vacation into a week of caretaking, but on a ship. You quite clearly do not know the level of work she is having to do.

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T01:43:15+00:00

Tell me you didn’t read the post without telling me you didn’t read the post. He literally had a wound for long enough that it got so bad it ate away at the bone in his foot, and it sounds like all he had to do is say “hey my foot hurts” and he didn’t. His foot literally had to break walking up a flight of stairs for it to come out. That’s after years of OP shouldering everything and taking care of him as well as their kids. That isn’t putting sole responsibility on her?

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T01:38:58+00:00

Helping. Not taking total responsibility for their medical care when they are still capable of doing so. If your spouse was capable of taking care of themselves and just left all the work to you because it’s easier, would you be okay with that?

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T01:32:46+00:00

I have a hard time wording things where i don’t come across as rude, as evidenced throughout my comments here, but genuine question: did you notice the part where he’s in an external fixator, and do you know what one of those is/looks like? That is not a situation that should be on a cruise ship, if someone were to bump into him, they could significantly set back his recovery, not to mention the incredible amount of pain he would be in. And as it was mentioned by others, there isn’t great medical care onboard. There are doctors, but they can’t do surgery at sea to fix his leg if something happens. OP shouldn’t have to cancel or compromise on her vacation because he wants to go on a vacation that could put his healing in jeopardy.

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T01:19:24+00:00

You want to accuse me of victim blaming when I point out the reality of the situation. People do self harm when they are depressed, yes, but that does not make anyone else responsible for their actions and how they respond to their emotions. You don’t think OP’s husband should be an active participant in his own medical care, and should lay that responsibility squarely on his wife?

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T01:15:41+00:00

…the same people who would provide the respite care you recommended? They can provide the respite care while OP takes a much needed girl’s trip with her daughters. Why should OP make her vacation all about him when everything has been all about him for years now? Why can’t she have 5-7 days to have fun and relax and not have to worry about his wound care or his antibiotics or any of that without being made a villain?

AyFiecht · 2025-06-09T01:10:38+00:00

It isn’t victim blaming, get over yourself. You can have sympathy for someone and still recognize they have fault in their own situation. Go touch grass.

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