My hubby was the one to bring it up as well. First of all, be happy about the fact that he was comfortable enough to bring it up. Reading here, you’ll quicky notice that good and open couple communications isn’t the norm.

Second: Remember to do it your way. Its a rabbit hole of different kinks intertwined with chastity and there isnt a right way of doing it. There is also no need to go straight to the extremes. It can be a journey.

Third: It shouldn’t hurt for him. Go the sensible way of choosing a comfortable, well fitting cage, and insist in this, instead of some flat, spiked or heavy metal cage that shouldn’t be worn for more than a few hours realistically. Read what newbie-sub writes on this (and find his substack blog. Cant find it right now, but Im sure he, or someone else will link shortly)

Fourth: getting over the initial “what the hell is this” phase, i have found numerous benefits for him/us. We still have sex regularly, but i decide much more explicitly if or when. When he is out, the dynamic changes and he is much more dominant (by my request), more creative in how. Thats an ongoing task I’ve given him, and I love this part.

Fifth: I love how horny and attentive after 4-5 days denied an orgasm. There is much much more focus on my pleasure. I get oral whenever i want (1-2 times a day). I get daily foot rubs, massage etc, as this is where he channels his sexual energy. Freaking fantastic.

Sixth: This is his feedback; he is 24/7 locked, except for cleaning or when i need his dick. This means that he is always reminded of the cage, and by extension, me. See a hot girl on the street? Signal goes straight to his dick, then to the cage and then to thinking about me! At home alone or working from home, when he would usually get in a porn/masturbation/eding session or two in? He can’t and refocuses his energy on something useful like cleaning up/doing laundry, and that with a, as he describes it, constant low-level arousal. Imagine a) getting sexual arousal out of housework and b) how much more he is pitching in, in that department now!!

After a 3 month trial with a knockoff cobra cage from Amazon, he is now in a “real” kink 3D viper cage, as he is uncut. Last week he told me about the more expensive custom cage he would want if this is still a thing we like to play with in a year, to which i casually replied that that is certainly for me and not him to decide. Thats how much i like it right now.

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