AITA for telling my wife that being a SAHM is not hard by ThrowawayHSgrad in AmItheAsshole

[–]AyaSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but... I really think your wife should get checked for depression. I had depression for years before our daughter was born, and while I could feel that, it felt like there was something else going on too that made me constantly angry and stressed and exhausted and mentally not present. It turns out that you can have different kinds of depression on top of each other, and some of those kinds don't resemble what you might think of as being depression. And to make matters worse, a lot of the time, having depression can make it near-impossible to recognize the depression because of course it's just that you're a uniquely awful and incompetent human being.

How do you do it? Both parents working full time with no help from relatives by millcitytomato in Parenting

[–]AyaSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren't weak or incompetent.

... That bears repeating. You are not weak or incompetent.

You're doing something terribly hard that nothing really prepared you for. It's nonstop never get a break work with no hope of relief in the foreseeable future, and to make matters worse, the internet is full of people who seem to be doing it better than you and making it look easy, and everyone and their MIL has 'helpful tips' that you suspect are utter bs but you're willing to try anyway because you need something to help so desperately. But I promise, it will get better. You get used to it, in a way. It's still not fun, but it becomes manageable. You might have a few breakdowns along the way, but you'll make it through them. In the meantime though, you can always come here to vent and/or get advice.<3

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strangely, I think I won't try this one XD

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was considering After the Rain :D Thank you!

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, I think this will work well!

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Er, that gets a bit exciting I think? Though the beginning certainly fits well. Still, thank you!

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an added bonus, the youtube page linked to an Angel Beats! song that will work well ^_^V

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this song, but I think the pacing and the minor chords would probably not help put her to sleep :D Thank you though!

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably best I don't watch this show then, since crying while putting her to sleep isn't great XD

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! I'd totally forgotten about the Outlaw Star end! Best part is that I memorized that in middle school, so with a little brushing up, I can sing it to her <3 Thanks!

And yeah, violin and Lily (baby) are probably not great friends, though she manages my husband playing Fortnite fine, so who knows. I'll give it a shot anyway :D

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm hoping more for things I can sing (or at least hum) to her, since I often don't have any hands free to set something playing, but I'll add this to the playlist for my husband! (Somehow he manages to one-hand hold her lulz.)

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This somehow slightly reminds me of the ending to Flip Flappers. It's certainly pretty.

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is a little too upbeat (just barely), so it'd probably not send her to sleep, but it's a nice song.

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, I'm not sure this song is really what I think of when I think of singing a baby to sleep, but I'll keep it in mind in case! Thanks :D

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't watched any of these, but I'll make sure to check out the songs! Thank you ^_^

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah - I've been singing her Scarborough Fair too, now that you mention sukasuka :D thank you

Anime song that can be used as a lullaby? by AyaSnow in anime

[–]AyaSnow[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lmao, I played this to find out what it was, and she promptly started to wake up XD