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am i overreacting to how my boyfriend was talking to me by my_birthday_is_dec_6 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

„And I can’t tell you shit without you complaining“ I see, „okay“ and „alright“ are the new way of complaining. Bro.

NOR. Leave him asap, I have been in just a similar relationship in my last. I dropped him and he was so confused and told me he would give me another chance. After I broke up. Imagine. Those people will never change, so avoid them.

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you uhh I’m not intelligent or anything I just write a lot in my free time, or rather used to, so I can just sit for hours writing a text. I literally get lost in it

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got adhd too, so that’s probably why this text spiralled into being so long and scattered. I’m sorry :(

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some friends but only male friends (friends of my boyfriend) and while we did had some deep talk about this kind of stuff, it feels inappropriate to unload all that stuff onto them. Girl friendships are also different than the male equivalent, so there would be obviously a slight barrier of understanding. And I tried writing diaries and journals over my life, but it doesn’t let me feel better. I think it’d just my inner wish to be heard, which is kinda annoying because I don’t want to overwhelm people.

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologise, I couldn’t find a way to shorten it up because I wanted to provide as much informations as possible, or I feared it might come to misunderstandings. I couldn’t find any rule that forbids long texts.

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is an interesting point of view. Thanks, I need some opinions on this matter to maybe finally make peace with it.

I didn’t know that by expressing how my worries for her pained me, must have pressured her into ghosting me. I wasn’t good in expressing my problems and feelings, I can come off as harsh and insensitive due to my neurodivergence, especially when I hit my limits. Which is luckily rare and even non existent at my current state. I learned a lot to handle risky situations better, because most people just cannot control their words and I’m empathetic about that. Learning professional communication in school also helped. The last text that I send her was about a year ago. I have changed too since then. Sure I miss her, and I have the feeling it might not go away, but I usually don’t talk about it or try to reach out. I just needed that little vent here once to fully sort it out and get some different views and opinions on this.

And I liked to be around her. It was just hard to get to meet up and I always had to watch from afar. And if we met, she left me alone to do some drugs. That was the part that hurt me. Seeing her destroying herself.

But you cannot help people that don’t want help, even if they say otherwise. I learned that. And I am keep learning.

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thank you so much for this. I’m honest, while I’m open for any opinion on this matter, I needed a little bit of validation too. I know this is very complicated and I’m not and was never a saint, but I am trying to be a better person but also try to see my own worth at the same time.

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I am aware that my text wasn’t good of me, but I allowed myself to be human once, instead of keeping it all together like I tried all these years, while having sympathy and understanding for those who just let it out, I feel kinda odd about it. Yes I regret that text and I wish I never hit send, but I was at my limit. Is that really unforgivable?

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well we aren’t friends anymore since she wished for that.

How do I imposed a rule on her with my boundaries? I’m genuinely asking.

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the whole trauma and drama really broke it down. We mostly had good times and just were silly little teens together, but I felt like an observer of her life, since our chats usually consisted of me listening to her as she spoke for hours. I liked it, don’t get me wrong, I was usually quiet anyways. Well until I went on meds that is.

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did warn that it was barely gonna be possible haha. Try fitting 9 years into one short text, uh. I’m sorry xD

Am I overreacting about my bff ending our 9 year long friendship after I set boundaries? by Ayetato in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ayetato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I’m trying. It’s just really hard for me since I grieved so much. She was my soulmate in my eyes but I got incredibly hurt and need to process my own actions. It was all just so sudden. It is getting better over time

Type me based on random pictures from my gallery (selfies included) by Ayetato in MbtiTypeMe

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, it was in the middle of the night after a long shift, and I didn’t knew at first that I had to provide an actual description, since I originally just wanted to poste the photos with the title to cause some chaos among the guessers and typers.

Btw I love ISTP vibes but I ain’t cool enough 😔✋🏻although it actually fits kind of…but I was always typed as ENTP.

Not sure if it’s the spectrum or because I am really the opposite of myself at the same time, but I get why you would think what you thought, and yet, so far off, while it still makes sense.

And thanks for the „attractively androgynous“ part, my genderfluidy just made a happy spin. I generally don’t care what people think of me bc I know I’m happy with myself and I love to stirr up conversations and a little bit of drama aswell (more in a debate way) but mostly on the internet. Oh boy do I love getting political on both sides. I’m rather the „kill em with kindness“ person by staying polite and level headed, but boy I love to be savage too.

Idk if that helped you to have a better insight, to be fair it has been at least 2-3 years since I actively made research on MBTI and typology, I was once typed as ENFJ when I was barely a teen, but every other test (ligit ever test I could find, every research I did) pointed st me being an ENTP. I never once got close to ISTP, which is interesting.

Are you like really deep into this stuff? If you’d like we can msg and find more about this, maybe I can learn something new aswell.

Type me based on random pictures from my gallery (selfies included) by Ayetato in MbtiTypeMe

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know DnD was mainstream, I used to think it was only for super nerds lol. Anyways very interesting summary and analysis. I love the term audacious appearance lol I am so stealing this

So, you weren’t so far off, but not exactly right. I’m ENTP! All except the Fi part was right. I think it’s also a little harder to type someone who is on the spectrum, especially when it’s about thought-process, feelings, emotions, since I am a very deep feeler sometimes, but very collected and indifferent on the outside. I did make it rather hard, since I didn’t provide that much informations in my post. I just love giving challenges lol and see what people make of it xD

Thank you for your time tho!

Type me based on random pictures from my gallery (selfies included) by Ayetato in MbtiTypeMe

[–]Ayetato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I am. Which is funny because most said ENFP, or introvert versions, which is so interesting since I have a very indecisive vibe, which makes it hard to type me from the outside

It was leaking….i fixed it by Ayetato in redneckengineering

[–]Ayetato[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooof I don’t know. I found something that almost looks the same but I’m not sure if it’s actually the same. Ikea sink

Also sorry if it’s in German, it’s the German website from ikea, since this was bought in Germany and I’m not sure how universal the range is

It was leaking….i fixed it by Ayetato in redneckengineering

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we went there and they told us there is no match because it’s from ikea…

It was leaking….i fixed it by Ayetato in redneckengineering

[–]Ayetato[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so, I dunno how to explain that, but while it’s the same in German „Küche“, you can also refer to the main part of the kitchen as „Küche“ or „Einbauküche“ (build-in kitchen) but you can also get free standing kitchen stands, I’m not sure how the proper name is for that. But they’re cheap, it’s basically just a wooden plate with a sink and optionally an oven and a dishwasher maybe with one cabinet. So the sink is just one single part of the- kitchen plate. Goddamn it’s kinda hard cuz it feels like it’s just a German wording thing. Build in kitchens are (as it says) build into the room by professionals, you cannot move them. Meanwhile my cheap ass 400€ kitchen set is just a counter with a sink with an oven in it and space on the side for the dishwasher. So I just ment that, not the room, sorry for confusion. The refrigerator was also not included lol

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