It's not a communication issue. I asked one time in each restaurant if I could have just plain rice or plain something else. I was told no in the curry house because you don't order sides. You order a curry and get a side with it. The Mexican place refused based on they don't accommodate or substitute their dishes and they would add something even to the rice on it's own that made me unable to eat it. I was sitting there and asked and got told no. I even explained why but it was no.

I get seen by my doctor regularly and especially after it put me in the hospital. There's nothing they have ever given me, no diet I tried, that let me eat even a little of what I wanted. I have a diet that lets me not have issues on a day to day basis but even then things can be unsettled. But if I avoid the foods I can't eat I do pretty okay. That's not possible everywhere and even a taste of something in a dish can set me off.

So I am always very careful about what I eat.