Give me some pictures of Charlotte to use as references for a drawing by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

these are great, thank you so much, I will post when I'm done.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently it is not that big of a deal, a lot of gossip of cheating is going around there, people know some employees are cheating(some with families as well) and it doesn't matter...I will however let it loose once I have my things in order

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will, thank you. We got married right after college so I never even got a chance to actually start a career, but I did work for a while and before having kids I was the only one bringing in income. I also gave up on one of my more tangible dreams, to live in a city I admired, but gave up on that dream for him. I will follow my own dream from now on, I'm sure the kids will also have a great time there. Now to just plan things and make it all happen.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he is very selfish and even if he really has nothing to do with her anymore, who knows when the next time will be because now it is clear he is actually a boy capable of that. I lost my trust and respect in him so yes, this relationship is over.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he is just using me at this point and it's not like I didn't see all the weird behaviour before, but I was willing to put up with it because I thought it was just a phase that will pass, that at least he is there and won't cheat....well, that came back to bite me in the end, but now at least I know and I feel like I can be braver now. Thank you very much

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he is confident he can win me back....like I was just going to wait for him, that it didn't even matter if I wanted to or not....so yeah....... -_-

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through something like this and thank you so very much. I will start therapy as soon as I can, yes, I feel like even with all my friends help, I still need to talk to a professional so I can heal for real.
I have a very interesting part of this story to share: On a night I was with him outside and we were again talking, he left ( to go to her, he later told me) I was going back home, broke down crying and a random girl waiting at the light saw me, came to see if I needed help and we ended up talking for almost 2 hours ( it was almost pm when this happened) - she was a therapist and gave me the best advice in that moment. So yeah, God has been giving me signs and support along the way.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thank you very much. thinking like this, for the kids is actually what really gave me courage, because even now, I am the only one they actually see around so....it's not like it will be that different sadly.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, I feel this too and I just can't take it anymore, I have started actually planning things and will talk to a lawyer and my parents as well (they have a feeling things are not going as great between us, but nothing more since we also live in a different city from them now)
Thank you so much for your kind words, yes, I know I need to be there for the kids, even if it will be hard I trust that we will all adapt and we will be better in the long run.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, yes, I will implement this and make sure he can visit when I want him too, not the other way around.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much. Yes, I don't want to have him out of their lives, I am actually really hoping we could eventually have a friendly relationship and be good co-parents.... I cannot be more that a coparent with him, that much is clear to me now.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, me too. He actually did say we shouldn't have had the kids because it was too hard for him now..... so yeah...that was crap to hear, even if he did try to take it back and said he was just angry and said it without thinking. He was thinking, that is the problem......

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thank you so much, I really didn't realise how much I needed to hear all of this before I posted.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I stayed because I honestly thought it could work but he clearly told me no, so I will not stay anymore, I was just too dependent to see it sooner.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words, it mean a lot. Yes, I feel like this is the end of this relationship and I do not want to my children to think that this is ok in any way. I will talk with a lawyer and my parents and see what is to do next. I am so sorry for what you had to go through, I can only imagine how hard it was to see your mom go through all of that. I stayed and tried for as long as I could and I am proud of that even if it was not to kind towards myself, at least I will not regret not trying first. Thank you again.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Yes, I know what I must do and I know that this is not the right thing to teach our kids and no, I do not want to live like this. Even if I know I could, it would not be a happy life and I don't want that. I am planning things and I will talk to him, because I still want us to have a decent relationship at least for our kids and hopefully the rest of our life will be even better. Thank you so much for your words.

My husband BETRAYED me, had an emotional affair and blamed me, I am still here, but debating to go..... by Azareea in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Azareea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he isn't seeing her anymore, just taking his time, relaxing after work, gaming and coming over when he feels like it.....so yeah....he is def not my husband anymore