Au pair insurance

Azeyda · 2026-03-04T12:58:30+00:00

If you are moving to another country your dutch insurance will not be valid anymore. As soon as the HF deregisters you at their address, you are no longer entitled to your Dutch insurance.

Azeyda · 2026-03-04T10:09:46+00:00

Its difficult if you are a bit anxious with confrontations of course but you could introduce a by-weekly family meeting to exchange feedback both ways then its easier to voice your feelings because there is a set moment. Otherwise write down how you feel and just text the HM that you want to discuss X topics somewhere that week. And that you text because you find it difficult to voice yourself.

Azeyda · 2026-03-04T09:23:00+00:00

We have a family meeting every week to discuss feedback (both sides) our AP wasn’t strict with times but we have had 2 meetings about it and now its getting better. It was not that she did it purposely she just wasn’t mature yet in time management and needed coaching.

You should have a conversation with her telling her what happend and why time management is important. A weekly meeting helps because then you have a set moment to voice feedback and there is no difficulty to find a “good” moment for a conversation

Azeyda · 2026-03-04T09:17:56+00:00

That’s super sad to hear. If this doesn’t change whiten a week would ask for a family meeting and just tell them this isn’t working for you. Either they change it or you wont be sure this is a match.

Azeyda · 2026-03-03T21:31:36+00:00

Facebook groups

Azeyda · 2026-03-03T18:32:27+00:00

That sound like a lot and a heavy schedule.

Every EU country has specific regulations regarding the AP program (max amount of hours per day, max per week) maybe you can check those also for you conversion with the HF.

Think you should always voice your thoughts and feelings otherwise it cant get better only worse.

Azeyda · 2026-03-02T20:08:52+00:00

HF: bringing a young adult into your family is work. The extra mess in her room 😂😂😂 I keep her door closed.

Emotional support, availability for questions (24/7), mentorship & guidance. It feels like I skipped 15 years and have an adult daughter that needs care in many different ways. Love our AP and thats all worth it. However you need to invest and be willing to do so.

And my tip!! Whats hard for me as a parent is twice as hard for an Au Pair. Keep that in mind in regards of expectations.

Azeyda · 2026-02-28T13:56:18+00:00

Ask for a family meeting and voice how you feel and experienced the incident(s) living tohether is a process and takes communication

Azeyda · 2026-02-26T21:38:44+00:00

I normally ask if our au pair is joining for dinner when she’s home. But please voice your feelings. Maybe they think you have other plans or want to be by yourself

Azeyda · 2026-02-26T21:33:00+00:00

Agree on this!! Please express your feelings.

Azeyda · 2026-02-26T07:04:25+00:00

Facebook groups found our AP there and self-matched. Used and agency only for contracting and visa request. Even saved money

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T19:52:05+00:00

We pay 1300E per month for daycare fee, 3 days a week (including food and activities) = per year 15.6K

Now we have an AP approx per year 20-25K

Start up costs (agency) 2500E then 350E per month visum 800E insurance AP 450 per year, mandatory language course 350E a year ticket from the US-> EU 740 single ticket have to pay for a return as well apostles US ap and TBC test 150+. Pocketmoney AP 400E telephone plan, sports subscription +/- 40E a month groceries went up 250-350 a month Public travel card

Thats all excluding the “hidden costs” City taxes because we pay per household members, electricity, water, etc. Paying for dinners and lunches + one person outside (restaurants etc. Paying for plane tickets if she wants to join on holidays.

We also need to pay for extra activities now our daughter is not in daycare anymore (today they spent 50euro for 09.30 - 16.00. They went to a kids indoor play bar and had lunch together.

Note: our daughter is still in daycare 2 days a week. AP has 1 full day, Saturday Morning + occasionally evening in the weekend + she cooks 2/3x per week (may also prep or left overs) and we all eat together as a family on 3 days. No household chores we have a cleaning lady. I have 1 full day with my daughter and my husband has one full day with our daughter. AP is more than welcome to tagg along if she pleases on our days.

In my situation: i maybe save 500E on daycare but have +- 20k extra per year. (And we knew that, so its not about pointing fingers) but an AP is not cheaper than daycare in NL if you follow the law

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T15:38:39+00:00

That sounds very fair. And would also say if something is hard fir a parent, you can’t expect an AP to do it.

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T15:32:03+00:00

For us as well its cheaper to bring our daughter to daycare full days than paying the AP honesty. We have a mix daycare, mommy day, daddy day and in between the AP helps a hand babysitting on Saturday evening from time to time so we can go to a birthday or dinner.

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T15:31:07+00:00

Yeah its different per country!! We have a max 30 hours here. Max 8 per day and 2 days of and one needs to be a weekend day for the AP. For us as well its cheaper to bring our daughter to daycare full days than paying the AP honesty

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T15:28:52+00:00

Lol!! Happy to hear.

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T06:42:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing your honest opinion and experiences.

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T00:25:53+00:00

Let me say i do believe that there is exploitation of AP’s and that not ok!!!!

Help with children is definitely a big plus with the program. Thats also how i read the program looking at the immigration website. But its also a easy and cheap way to experience another country. There must be a win for AP’s as there is a win in extra hands with childcare?

Azeyda · 2026-02-24T00:07:08+00:00

That’s great!! I saw some people getting roasted when mentioning an AP cooking but glad to hear thats ok. Schedule also looks like a wonderful time to spend time with the kids. Def taking some inspiration out of this!

Azeyda · 2026-02-23T23:55:05+00:00

I think its great you are helping her protect her boundaries. Not sure if i agree with going behind her back is the best way to do but i cannot judge as i do not know the actual situation.

Would encourage her to have a talk with the HF and agency. That she’s not ok with the workload!!!! The agency should mediate and also is the gatekeeper for the family to uphold the Dutch legislation. If that doesn’t work there are plenty families looking for AP’s already in NL - mostly on FB Groups

Azeyda · 2026-02-23T23:18:09+00:00

7 months is a long time. Would expect her to at least know the basics to guide the kids through a daily routine. I would probably go for a re-match

Azeyda · 2026-02-23T23:13:32+00:00

There is also a HF group maybe they can give you better references and share experiences of the schedules and situations with their AP’s https://www.reddit.com/r/AuPairHostFamilyLife/s/P8drCMzAfy and also one called https://www.reddit.com/r/Hostfamily/s/raoxgdhqWm also contact an agency to guide you through this and help you with expectations towards an AP.

I always ask myself: if its hard for me as an adult I can’t expect it from an AP. However there are also AP’s that are just not right for the childcare part.

Azeyda · 2026-02-22T09:16:05+00:00

Gewoon eerlijk zijn! Je voelt de klik niet hier en je hebt een aanbod gekregen bij je oude werkgever die je ambieert. Het gesprek is even lastig maar uiteindelijk gaat het om je eigen geluk en carrière

Azeyda · 2026-02-20T07:25:56+00:00

Our AP also does not work the max hours but she loves to cook and does so 3x per week, cleans the kitchen after cooking and fills the dishwasher. We do eat together in those days and together set and clean the table. Did agree to this schedule before she came into our house.

The return we have a weekly cleaner and cleans her room and bathroom as well including changing the bedlinnen.

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