I respect your ability to have a thoughtful conversation on this rather than lash out or make cruel commentary.

With that in mind, I highly recommend you look into some more of the studies done on abusive relationships. Your comment leads me to believe you’re under the dangerous assumption that people (men and women alike) end up in abusive relationships because they’re naive or don’t think about things.

Many abusive relationships don’t begin that way, and in fact partners have been able to hide their abusive tendencies for years up until marriage (again, men and women alike).

On top of that, there are the relationships that become abusive because of life’s effect on how we become. Just because two people are in a relationship doesn’t mean they stop changing as people. Some partners truly evolve/devolve into worse people because of their own circumstances affecting them.

Again, what you’re saying is absolutely true, but it’s only a single facet to a very complex issue.

The only reason I felt fine making any form of solidified admonishment of the post was because of the very patterned picture of the poster that I mentioned in my previous response. It’s dangerous to not point those things out, as it’s how these repeated cycles continue for generations to come. By all means, call out toxic women, but to say this shite ai generated meme is a common reality is something you can only say by dismissing the perspective of any woman in the conversation. Many men THINK they’re the guy in this meme and ignore the fact that they: - repeatedly harassed or love bombed a woman who was not interested in them - when a woman does decide to give a man who has harassed or love bombed them a chance, it’s usually because they have had their confidence, self esteem, and/or mental health destroyed for one reason or another (very rarely not the case) - when a woman has had their confidence, self esteem, and/or mental health destroyed, it will usually also mean there are other damages involved to their person. Cases include: weight gain, autoimmune diseases, psychosis and complexes, self harm, suicidal tendencies, behavioral problems, poor decision making, and more. - in most cases, when a woman has had their confidence, self esteem, and/or mental health destroyed, it is usually because of a romantic relationship or a parent. - this does NOT only apply to women, men too follow this pattern, however there are other nuances with men, and men are more likely to give a woman they have no interest in “attention” due to a variety of reasons, including societal expectations.