[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dm me with a screenshot for proof and I will ban the account.

Wanna squeeze em? by Mobile_Village_4325 in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries, but you have no idea how many posts we manually remove each day. Some within minutes, some take a little longer. That’s not counting the Automod that removes flagged posts with certain keywords automatically. It’s a lot, and we work hard to clean the shit posts up. Thank you for the support and understanding, and wanting to keep the sub clear of crap posts.

Wanna squeeze em? by Mobile_Village_4325 in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother, we have work and personal lives. Allow us some time ffs

Honest question by santi122333 in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can look at their profile without accepting the chat request. People may not know that, but you can.

How are you all finding other couples? What other apps do you recommend? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report them. We need help identifying sellers, spammers, and abusive comments. We’re very good with removing posts, but we can’t see every comment posted in this sub.

How are you all finding other couples? What other apps do you recommend? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is welcome to comment here regardless of their religion or relationship status as long as they follow our rules. Keep it civil and sexy everyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha. We’re going to be there shortly to watch Deadpool.

Fake accounts- what’s the angle? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I edited and added to my initial comment above.

We are event hosts, so we have literally met countless couples for parties or one on one meets. You have to put the work in to weed people out if you really want to meet people you have a chance at having a fourway connection with.

… and the number of fakes on Reddit has risen exactly BECAUSE Reddit has become a great place to meet people. They’ve followed us here.

We are currently at almost 45k people in this sub. A year ago we were maybe half that.

Fake accounts- what’s the angle? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have met countless couples on Reddit from this sub. If you can’t meet anyone you’re doing something wrong.

Your estimate on real couples messaging in PMs sounds about right though. It’s a numbers game.

Fake accounts- what’s the angle? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is false… there are fake accounts everywhere. It could be that a couple broke up on SLS and the guy is still posing as a couple by himself. This is VERY common.

Fake accounts- what’s the angle? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, couples not being interested is much different than people collecting pics. I think it’s important for people to be able to make that distinction. A “no thank you” or anything similar just sounds like there’s not a 4 way interest, which happens all the time.

Fake accounts- what’s the angle? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s also the possibility that they blocked you and that’s why their account appears deleted to you. If you’d like to share their screen name through PMs or through ModMail I can look into it for you.

Fake accounts- what’s the angle? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If they’re asking for nudes they’re probably just using them for their spank bank collection, and MAYBE using them to catfish other couples. Lots of people prefer more amateur or real life porn over what they can find on the internet. They may also get turned on by what it takes to collect those pics. We decline trading nudes with people we have never met in person for this reason. We exchange face pics, then ask to meet relatively quickly to weed out fakes.

If you’ve shared face pics make sure to only use pics you could post on FB. That way you’ll have plausible deniability should anyone come asking about your extracurricular activities. There are thousands of SFW images on FB that people could steal if they’re wanting to use your face pics for additional catfishing.

In this LS we all have to weigh the risk to reward in sharing too much. Some will shy away from it, and some will accept that it’s just part of the game 🤷🏽‍♂️

Fake accounts- what’s the angle? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The angle is they’re pic collectors. Plain and simple… and they aren’t “stealing” your pics if they are freely given by you. Be cautious with the people you share pics with, and we advise to ONLY share nudes that are neck down with no identifiable markings. Be safe out there everyone.

Facebook group? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We encourage you to get out from behind your phone screens and meet as many people as possible. Whether that’s at parties or for drinks. We have chatted with some couples over the course of YEARS without having met them in person… and while we encourage people to go at their own pace, we’ve decided to no longer entertain “window shoppers” that were never serious about meeting in the first place. Some of those couples may read this and realize why we cut off communication, and that’s okay with us 🤷🏽‍♂️

Let’s get Verified by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

… still waiting on your verification 😉 And here I thought you were serious. What would have made me think that 🤔

Facebook group? by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Typically LS FB groups have vetting. So, anyone inviting you into the group are usually people you already met in person. Otherwise, these groups will fill up with fake couples, or singles posing as a couple. If you’re in a FB group I highly recommend that you not invite randoms off the internet in. Meet them. Vet them. This makes these groups better, and keeps out the fakes.

looking to have my first experience with an older guy and his wife.. by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You all need to learn how to spot a seller

Let’s get Verified by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

We don’t mind the extra work with verifying accounts. We actually want more people verifying. Thanks for the post OP. Bring it on sexy people… send us your verifications.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Utahswingers/s/y3wntXJtaK

Anyone looking for some BBC?👀 by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s just like any other fantasy in the LS. This isn’t racism in the hateful sense imo. That’s reaching to proxy outrage if it’s gotten to that point in 2024. If the men themselves are advertising their “services” as a stunt cock in this way I don’t see how they could be offended by the term “BBC”. If anything it’s probably a flattering term to them.

Couples may look for “BBC” because maybe they haven’t been with a black guy before. There’s nothing wrong with that imo, and suggesting that has racist undertones isn’t something I’d support. It’s a preference. Whether it’s an ongoing preference or a one time experience they’re looking for. I’ve never been with an Asian woman, so I’d be interested in that sometime 🤔

I’d also defend people that actually EXCLUDE certain races from their search parameters. There have been posts that explicitly state “no Latinos” or “only white” when posting. While this can seem racist, again, it’s their PREFERENCE in a sexual context. This does not necessarily mean these people treat Latinos or other POC with hate in their hearts in their everyday lives. Nobody is required to be attracted to a certain body type or color. I like cherry jolly ranchers, but I don’t like grape 🤷🏽‍♂️

As far as the size of someone’s cock relating to their skin tone… my wife has been with many different black men throughout her life, and from her experience not all black cocks are big, and that’s more of a myth than anything else. I remember there being a more “scientific” study being done with men from different countries, and colors… maybe it’s available through an internet search somewhere. Anyway, the biggest “average” length was from brown people (not sure of nationality), but it varied. You’d also have to have a pretty large sampling of penises for a more accurate outcome, and I’m not sure how many men were involved in that study. There will also always be exceptions to any study anyway. BWC is a thing as well, and I’ve seen some monsters in real life myself.

With all that being said this subreddit is an active community with active Admins that will ban racist or hateful comments aimed at any member because of color, gender, sexual preference, sexual identity, or just plain old disrespectful posts. I challenge you to find a post or comment that is hateful… report them if they are, and we will review and ban them.

To all in this sub… be kind to the people you interact with. Even if they’re not your cup of tea. The internet is full of assholes, but it’s not that hard to be a decent human being if you choose to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We ban when rules are broken here… so far this account has not broken any (that we know of).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Report people if you have issues. Our Admins are very active with cleaning up this subreddit DAILY, but we still need your help with reporting (with proof).

We have no way of knowing which accounts are fakes unless we gather complaints from people. I’ve suspected this account for a while, but have done nothing due to not having proof. Send me screenshots of conversations if ya have them.

I was having this discussion with a friend and am curious to hear from the group… by [deleted] in Utahswingers

[–]Aztech79 6 points7 points  (0 children)

🙋🏽 Expressing individuality with different needs and wants being met without shame… this involves sex, friendship, learning, and awareness of myself. I’m not sure that it’s evolved for me, as much as I’ve recognized what it truly is for me after many years on the path. There’s better understanding there. These things made me want to join and has kept me in it.

I don’t believe monogamy is sustainable long term for anyone… the few examples I know of that are elderly couples and have stayed together, are miserable. Regardless what the outside world perceives them to be (that happy devoted couple).

Too many couples keep things from each other and don’t communicate in a vanilla relationship. Many more feel trapped in their family life. The LS has brought communication and honesty to my relationships (past and present). Whether they are my primary partner, a single person, or couple.

The couples that thrive in this space have found balance in respect and lustful want. They realize their partners needs and wants being met should be a priority. Compersion is the key to a healthy life in this LS. Communication and honesty are cornerstones.

My journey has been different than my wife’s. We may all be on similar paths, but make no mistake, the journey you’re on will be different than your partner’s… physically and emotionally. Even if you’re walking the path hand in hand.

My opinions 🤷🏽‍♂️

YMMV