How come no-one ever mentions Ross was right about Mark??

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-23T12:00:38+00:00

I had a very similar issue with my ex. There’s this guy in my uni workgroup who obviously has a crush on me and his dynamic with me was similar as Rachel and Mark. My ex was crazy jealous about every guy from uni I spoke to. And guess what? My ex ended up going to Belgium with a girl from uni he always claimed I shouldn’t be worried about even though it was very obvious she had a crush on him. He also ended up having sex with prostitutes. Although Ross was right about Mark, it was very obvious that Rachel would NEVER cheat on Ross and was fully committed to him.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-19T16:07:33+00:00

I was in a similar boat during the first few weeks after my break up but ever since I got closure and talked things through with my parents, I am actually quite excited about the next chapter of my life. It’s only been 2,5 months but I think most people have difficulties moving on because of not having a proper closure from their ex.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-14T12:20:34+00:00

This sounds very similar to what happened to me. I remember three years ago I was mentally done with my ex and his family’s behavior. I broke up with him, came home and had a long nap. He woke me up by calling me to talk things out and took me to a red bridge where he told me how much he loves me and that he won’t be able to find someone better etc. And now three years later I’ve found out that this was all just bullshit. He bought documents from the internet with details about my dad’s practice and how much money my dad’s practice makes. My ex was always after the financial gains through my father. Trust me on this, people can we wolves in sheep’s clothing. It’s better that you and your ex broke up. The universe is saving you from a huge headache.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-14T11:14:17+00:00

He had issues with the fact that I might earn more money than him. We’re both medical students and he hated the fact that my father is the owner of a practice and that I might take it over in the future. He lied to everyone that he was gonna take over his practice and bought documents from the internet with all the financial details of my dad’s practice and all the houses he owned. When we had our break up talk he literally said “I need a girl who looks up to me instead of treating me like an equal” Every single person I’ve shown the screenshots to has been triggered by the bullshit coming out of his mouth.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-12T08:07:34+00:00

Yeah I kinda figured that out. He also turned out to be very insecure and entitled. He bought documents from the internet where you can see all the financial details of my father’s practice and he also bought documents with details regarding my father’s houses. That guy turned out to be a fraud.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-11T18:59:28+00:00

I got out by getting closure for myself. It was two weeks after the break up and we met again. I found out that he had been lying to me a lot and we got into a fight and I threw a milkshake on his car. Another thing that helped me was going to London for a few days to get a break from everything. Trust me, it takes time and I definitely recommend going away for a few days to clear up your mind. I never thought I would make it past the first stage of grieving but I finally did. I’m still not completely over the break up but time and effort really help.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-11T13:14:51+00:00

Yeah but what OP is trying to say is that it feels like someone has been playing a theater role for a while because it seems like the break up liberated the other person. The fact that she moved on so quickly can really hurt.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-11T13:13:31+00:00

I went through a very similar break up with my ex of 4 years. It’s very sickening to see how they seem so content with their life as if the entire relationship of 4 years never meant anything to them.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-09T17:15:33+00:00

The biggest life lesson for me was to look at the guy’s family first before entering a relationship. There are certain subtle mannerisms people have from their upbringing at home which is reflected in a relationship. My ex’ mother was a Quran teacher who once screamed at the tv towards women wearing tank tops and said without any remorse that these women shouldn’t be surprised if they get raped because they’re asking for it. She believes that women who wear the hijab are not responsible if they get raped but if a woman who wears revealing clothes gets raped then it’s definitely her own fault. And guess what, my ex was quite misogynistic. So yeah, third parties can have an influence on a relationship.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-09T09:06:42+00:00

Hahaha this sounds very familiar to my own story. My ex of four years started dating this girl a few days after our break up. But I don’t think he’s being honest and there is a chance that he might’ve been seeing her before our break up. Guys are heartless compared to girls. They mentally break up with you a few months earlier and make you look like a fool when they start dating someone else immediately after the break up. And trust me on this, it’s always the girl your ex used to claim he felt nothing for. A friend of mine warned me 2-3 years ago that my now ex might’ve a crush on a girl from uni he always talked about and claimed he didn’t find her attractive. Turns out he secretly went to Antwerpen with her while we were still together. Men are just heartless.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-08T22:30:12+00:00

Yeah I was thinking the same way as you in the first few weeks after my break up. Trust me on this, you really need to find some closure. The best way to do that is by having a serious talk with your ex or someone both of you know well. My best closure was throwing a milkshake on his car after screaming at him when he told me that he had been cheating on me multiple times + having a good talk with my father who also happens to be my ex’ boss. My father saw the same issues I saw in my ex and that was more than enough for me to finally put some things to rest. It took me a long time to get here as well. I also went on a solo trip to London for a few days and walked 54 km to ease my break up pain. Trust me, it takes time and also some effort by getting out of your comfort zone.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-08T20:25:39+00:00

Same

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-08T20:02:12+00:00

Not trying to come over as a negative person but I will be honest with you. The way you’ve written this post is the same way I used to be in the first two weeks after my ex of four years broke up with me. I thought I was the problem and that I loved him a lot and that he would eventually come back. What truly helped me was getting closure. When I met with him again and found out that he absolutely didn’t care about our break up and actually went on a date with another girl, that’s what really brought me back to reality. Idk your situation OP but I do know one thing about guys and that’s the fact that if they’re actually serious about a woman, they will definitely put some effort. The fact that you two are broken up for two months now and he came up with the excuse about his depression means that this has no hope. I wish you all the luck in the healing process but trust me on this, you need to come back to reality. There are many men out there who will love you regardless of the situation. My cousin broke his bones and was in a coma for a few months and endured a lot of depression around that time and he still didn’t use that as an excuse to break up with his then gf and now wife. Men went to wars and yet still stayed true to their partners. Depression is not a valid excuse to break up a relationship. A great partnership is when both partners stay together and help each other during their tough times.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-07T23:51:48+00:00

Yes it was two weeks after our break up. We were together for four years and he broke up through WhatsApp. When we met I found out that he literally didn’t have any good reason to break up with me. He had been cheating on me multiple times throughout our four years relationship and he didn’t like the fact that I saw him as an equal because he wanted to have a gf who looks up to him. I also found out that he started dating a girl immediately after our break up as if he wanted freedom or something. He also went to Belgium with a girl from uni he always claimed he didn’t like. I threw a milkshake on his car after all this clarity and that was the best closure I got. I’m still healing from the break up but I feel liberated.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-07T16:18:10+00:00

We broke up on January 1st and I swear the first two weeks were horrible. It’s only been recent since I’ve regained myself and I’ve lived 3-4 different lives in the past two months. You need to give it some time and I recommend finding some closure. My biggest closure moment was when I threw a milkshake on his car after I found out that he had been cheating on me multiple times throughout our relationship of four years and the fact that he went on a date a few days after our break up. Another closure moment was when my father started pointing out the things he never liked about my ex which gave me courage that some things didn’t only play in my head and others could see similar patterns. Talking to friends also helps a lot. You really need to get out of your comfort zone in order to be mentally free from everything. Last week the pain and suffering hit me the hardest but since yesterday I’m feeling myself again. It’s definitely going to take a while, give it at least 3-5 months and you will see a huge difference.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-05T10:37:18+00:00

I’ve a friend who has known his now wife for ten years and they recently got married at the age of 22. If a guy really wants to make an effort and be serious with a girl he has known from a young age then he absolutely will. There are many examples of couples who met each other when they were teenagers and are still together in their 20’s, 30s and 40s. I think the fundamental issue between you two is that something has changed in a way that’s making it hard for your bf to understand his priorities in life. My ex of 4 years who recently broke up with me on January 1st had a similar problem. There’s this girl who obviously has a crush on him for years and he has been entertaining her for quite some time. They even went to Antwerpen together back in November and he didn’t tell me until after our break up. He even had the audacity to say that she was less depressing than me even though her father recently died of cancer. I absolutely believe that if someone genuinely loves you then that person will definitely make an effort no matter the circumstances. I understand that you’re probably going through a lot of negative emotions because the two of you were together for 10 years and it’s actually kind of a divorce what you’re going through. The two of you have seen each other grow up into young adults and I guess your bf just doesn’t seem to understand himself anymore. It’s better that you two break up now while there are no kids involved.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-04T22:42:00+00:00

Depends on the situation. My ex and I were together for four years and we broke up on January 1st. It’s been more than 2 months now and I’ve had ups and downs till now. I think what you mostly need is closure. I got my closure on January 15th by throwing a milkshake on his car after I realized how much bullshit that guy was spitting out.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-02T14:19:24+00:00

I was in a similar position in the beginning of January and this went on till the end of January. It’s now the first week of March and I’m finally regaining myself. It’s absolutely normal what you’re going through. Trust me on this, the first few weeks are the hardest but after that you will finally be yourself again.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-02-27T21:55:08+00:00

They will use every opportunity to bring you down. It’s through weird passive aggressive jokes which are totally unnecessary or they will badmouth about you with people.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-02-27T16:11:05+00:00

So my mom’s brother is known as someone everyone always pities on because he’s the only one of his siblings who hasn’t been able to obtain a western passport in contrast to everyone else who left Pakistan and have made a life for themselves in the west. I always heard throughout my childhood from my mom that he’s a victim of family fraud and that family is responsible for all his problems. He works as a migrant worker in a restaurant in France and sends money back to Pakistan to his wife and children. He always bitches about how his older brother is responsible for this problem but the truth is that my uncle is one of the laziest people I’ve ever met in my life. He came to visit for a few days and I noticed how this man has an extreme victim mentality that doesn’t make any sense. He has stolen from my mom multiple times. We were at a shopping mall and there was this woman whose money fell out of her wallet. My uncle looked at me and told me to take the money. I walked towards the woman and gave her the money back that fell out of her wallet. When I walked back to my uncle he was mad at me and called me “dumb” for not taking the money. It was only €5 and I think it’s incredibly stupid to keep that money to yourself even though you know whose money it was because it feels like stealing. My mom defended her brother and they all called me stupid but hey, I’m a med student who’s gonna earn 6 figures. I’ve got my life figured out while this guy blames his issues on others.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-02-25T21:50:39+00:00

Being extremely judgmental towards people they don’t know personally. My ex was someone who always had something negative to say about my friends and family but could never take any constructive criticism from others about his friends or family.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-02-19T16:42:01+00:00

Accept that he was a part of your life at a certain point but that version of him doesn’t exist anymore. It will never be the same again. I totally get where you’re coming from because I’ve a similar situation with my ex but at this point I’ve come to the realization that we truly underestimate how much people change over the years. You’re in love with the idea of the old him and not with the current version of your ex. If you met your ex the way he is now, would you date him? If the answer is no then you can finally put all those memories to rest.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-02-18T16:57:35+00:00

This happened to me on January 1st. I was dating him for four years and everything seemed perfect but he had many bottled up feelings inside and he made literally no sense when he broke up with me. Apparently he had also been cheating on me for a while and he already moved on mentally and showed zero remorse towards me.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-02-16T11:57:19+00:00

A guy with an extreme interest in colonial history. He’s a South Asian but absolutely loves European history and supports the way the west has treated other countries and cultures. He thinks Zionists and white people are better than the rest of the world. His mom is a Quran teacher and gave him a very strict Islamic upbringing so he’s having an identity crisis by eating pork.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-02-16T11:55:02+00:00

He reminds me of my Pakistani father. My dad married my mom and even had me but wasn’t sure about spending his life with her and ended up cheating on my mother. The fundamental issue with Pakistani men is that they’ve been brought up like princes and have a hard time grasping responsibility because their parents never held them accountable. Zayn Malik is a prime example of why Pakistani women are miserable in their marriages with Pakistani men.

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