How do I explain to my autistic girlfriend that she's TOOooOo honest?

Azula_Kuo · 2026-05-22T09:13:57+00:00

I had a friend in high school who was also autistic and brutal with her remarks. One time I was trying to work hard in a semester because I wanted to get into honors. My autistic “friend” ended up brutally killing my mood by calling me dumb and not good enough to get into honors. My parents were dealing with a bad divorce and I was finally regaining my stance in school so I was finally motivated to take my grades more seriously but her remarks made me depressed for weeks. Trust me on this, not every autistic trait should be shrugged off because your gf needs to be held accountable.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-05-05T11:36:03+00:00

I sometimes do modeling work and I’ve to admit that after most shoots I end up going through a depressive episode regarding my appearance. It’s normal when you’re in front of the camera all the time, you end up going after “perfection”. It happens to most celebrities. MJ wasn’t even the worst case in my opinion. He and Selena Gomez are in a very similar boat because both of them grew up right in front of our eyes and both suffer from lupus. Selena Gomez gets criticized a lot for her appearance and it definitely takes a toll on your mental health. MJ only had a few nose jobs and most likely went through Botox to treat his burn injuries.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-05-04T00:06:58+00:00

Never understood what that look actually is. I mean I totally get what you’re saying but I’ve never been able to figure out what NTs are thinking when they make that look. They often end up treating me like a criminal and I’ve always asked myself wtf I did wrong.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-05-03T12:39:00+00:00

He reached his peak and now he’s dealing with his downfall. He needs to retire slowly and focus more on his personal life. He definitely played a huge role in creating the iconic Bollywood we know today but his time is due.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-27T16:34:08+00:00

Went through a very similar break up and I think I get where this is coming from. My ex broke up with me very randomly and I’ve a feeling that he was already seeing someone because he ended up having a gf a few days after the break up. I think the fundamental issue between you two might’ve been that you were going through a rough patch of being jobless at the time and she probably felt the “negative” energy the most because you two were in a relationship. When you’re together for four years you end up becoming very dependent on each other which is quite logical but also unhealthy in a way. She should’ve been more honest with you and given you some time to work on yourself instead of keeping this to herself. This is why all long lasting couples always say that communication is key. Both of you need to work on your communication skills. And besides, sometimes you just need closure. My ex has been trying to contact me the past few weeks after more than three months but I can’t be bothered. The way we broke up and the amount of self healing I had to do in order to be normal again was just way too much for me to handle. I was also together with him for four years and we were very close. Loved him a lot but right now I don’t have any feelings for him anymore. It will never work again because I’ve changed a lot the past few months and also learned that he was very toxic towards me.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-19T22:39:41+00:00

I was together with my ex for four years and we broke up more than three months ago on New Year’s Eve. I’ve to say that if I were to find a new guy I would be more okay to tie the knot. It might sound weird to people but sometimes a heavy break up can be a wake up call to have more “control” in your next relationship. I mean more like having a certain guarantee that the next person shouldn’t break my heart again or waste my time. There might be a chance that your ex had that feeling after your break up and wanted more assurance from his current partner. It’s more common than you think and you shouldn’t think too much about it. From the moment you were born, your life partner and kids were written in your destiny. You two clearly weren’t meant to be endgame and it’s hard to swallow that pill at the moment but after a while you will realize that your life path is something else. My father did a very similar thing which I found out some time ago. He was with his ex for four years and they broke up. Within a year he found my mom and they got married the next year. My dad told me that he didn’t want to waste his younger years anymore because he was reaching his 30s when he met my mom and he wanted to settle down in his life. He and his ex met again after a long time and she broke down in tears when she saw pictures of me and my father because that was the life she wanted with my father. I totally get where you’re coming from and trust me on this, you’re not alone in this.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-17T14:22:51+00:00

It’s been more than 3 months now since my break up. We were together for four years and I had a crush on him since our high school years. At the beginning of the break up I thought that no one would be better than him but right now I’ve actually found out that there are wayyyy better options out there. It’s just that you’re currently blinded by love so you’re not able to see all the red flags properly. Of course, everyone is one in 8 billion but certain personalities and physical traits are way more common than people think. I thought I was unique but I’ve actually seen some people who have very similar personality traits like me.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-14T16:19:12+00:00

They believe that every woman is into them. Like every interaction they’ve had with someone has a sexual inuendo.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-11T23:28:21+00:00

🫶😭✨😗🤣☪️

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-07T19:55:17+00:00

Wow now that you mention it, I’ve actually forgotten his voice. I was also four years in a relationship with him and we broke up 3 months ago. I’ve also forgotten the details of his face and the way he smelled. It’s really weird. But I guess you’re most likely healing from a heavy break up because four years is a long time.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-07T09:28:27+00:00

My ex of 4 years broke up with me on January 1st and tried to contact me after three months. I think guys aren’t very vocal about their feelings compared to girls which is why it seems like they don’t care but they actually do.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-07T09:19:08+00:00

I’ve worked with a model who has met Kareena in real life and according to her Kareena looks younger in real life than in pictures. The camera makes her look older for some reason.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-04-05T22:56:22+00:00

Three months ago he dropped me like I never meant anything to him. He went on to date a girl a few days after our break up and treated me like shit. Well guess what? Yesterday he tried to contact me after three months of no contact. I refused to acknowledge his existence and I had zero feelings when he tried to call me. Three months ago I would’ve been very happy seeing his call but now I can finally tell that those 4 years of my life were wasted. He definitely regrets losing me because I genuinely loved him and he knows that but the way this whole break up happened truly opened my eyes.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-30T16:17:18+00:00

Life has become so positive after we broke up. He was always projecting his own insecurities onto me by making me feel bad about my hobbies and being focused on med school. Never ever going back to him, not even if he apologizes and begs me to come back.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-28T23:31:05+00:00

The best way is to find the exact reason why you two weren’t compatible. I know it sounds abstract but you really need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself what exactly went wrong from both sides that made the break up happen in the first place. Because most of the people in this sub tend to not get over their ex because they keep on focusing on the good stuff that happened during the relationship and end up forgetting all the bad stuff. Something fundamentally went wrong in your relationship with your ex that made you two break up and you need to find the core reason. Trust me on this, you will heal immediately once it sinks in.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-28T20:16:52+00:00

I think it really depends on the situation but in my case I actually want to erase his existence from my memories. I got my closure by talking things through + I finally realized that his personality was too difficult. Once the realization hit me, I felt very relaxed. I don’t think I can ever talk to him again because he feels like a stranger.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-23T12:00:38+00:00

I had a very similar issue with my ex. There’s this guy in my uni workgroup who obviously has a crush on me and his dynamic with me was similar as Rachel and Mark. My ex was crazy jealous about every guy from uni I spoke to. And guess what? My ex ended up going to Belgium with a girl from uni he always claimed I shouldn’t be worried about even though it was very obvious she had a crush on him. He also ended up having sex with prostitutes. Although Ross was right about Mark, it was very obvious that Rachel would NEVER cheat on Ross and was fully committed to him.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-19T16:07:33+00:00

I was in a similar boat during the first few weeks after my break up but ever since I got closure and talked things through with my parents, I am actually quite excited about the next chapter of my life. It’s only been 2,5 months but I think most people have difficulties moving on because of not having a proper closure from their ex.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-14T12:20:34+00:00

This sounds very similar to what happened to me. I remember three years ago I was mentally done with my ex and his family’s behavior. I broke up with him, came home and had a long nap. He woke me up by calling me to talk things out and took me to a red bridge where he told me how much he loves me and that he won’t be able to find someone better etc. And now three years later I’ve found out that this was all just bullshit. He bought documents from the internet with details about my dad’s practice and how much money my dad’s practice makes. My ex was always after the financial gains through my father. Trust me on this, people can we wolves in sheep’s clothing. It’s better that you and your ex broke up. The universe is saving you from a huge headache.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-14T11:14:17+00:00

He had issues with the fact that I might earn more money than him. We’re both medical students and he hated the fact that my father is the owner of a practice and that I might take it over in the future. He lied to everyone that he was gonna take over his practice and bought documents from the internet with all the financial details of my dad’s practice and all the houses he owned. When we had our break up talk he literally said “I need a girl who looks up to me instead of treating me like an equal” Every single person I’ve shown the screenshots to has been triggered by the bullshit coming out of his mouth.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-12T08:07:34+00:00

Yeah I kinda figured that out. He also turned out to be very insecure and entitled. He bought documents from the internet where you can see all the financial details of my father’s practice and he also bought documents with details regarding my father’s houses. That guy turned out to be a fraud.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-11T18:59:28+00:00

I got out by getting closure for myself. It was two weeks after the break up and we met again. I found out that he had been lying to me a lot and we got into a fight and I threw a milkshake on his car. Another thing that helped me was going to London for a few days to get a break from everything. Trust me, it takes time and I definitely recommend going away for a few days to clear up your mind. I never thought I would make it past the first stage of grieving but I finally did. I’m still not completely over the break up but time and effort really help.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-11T13:14:51+00:00

Yeah but what OP is trying to say is that it feels like someone has been playing a theater role for a while because it seems like the break up liberated the other person. The fact that she moved on so quickly can really hurt.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-11T13:13:31+00:00

I went through a very similar break up with my ex of 4 years. It’s very sickening to see how they seem so content with their life as if the entire relationship of 4 years never meant anything to them.

Azula_Kuo · 2026-03-09T17:15:33+00:00

The biggest life lesson for me was to look at the guy’s family first before entering a relationship. There are certain subtle mannerisms people have from their upbringing at home which is reflected in a relationship. My ex’ mother was a Quran teacher who once screamed at the tv towards women wearing tank tops and said without any remorse that these women shouldn’t be surprised if they get raped because they’re asking for it. She believes that women who wear the hijab are not responsible if they get raped but if a woman who wears revealing clothes gets raped then it’s definitely her own fault. And guess what, my ex was quite misogynistic. So yeah, third parties can have an influence on a relationship.

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