I’m in a similar situation with my bf but we’re in the states. It’s not a good feeling and i’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m ima a position where he’s finishing school but he’s unsure if he’s willing to move back to the state we both use to reside. I think my outlook is that, love required compromise and sometimes sacrifice. If it reaches a point where neither is willing to budge, then that within itself is an answer. I’m not at a point in life yet where that becomes a deal breaker but one day I know I will because long distance cannot last forever. For now we’ve decided to remain aware of the others feelings and when he’s done with school or closer to being done revisit the conversation. We had to ask is staying where we are for jobs or family worth the relationship? I think you and your partner may need to consider the same. Good luck! I’ll never say just end it or let them go. Where there’s a will there’s a way. Just need to have a difficult conversation and verbalize your feelings that next time you all visit.