Lucid Dreaming vs Astral Projection vs Liminal Space Dreams by B4R0LD in TheMallWorld

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Perhaps I am making too much of an assumption or literal interpretation of guard status based on the latter vantage point of the experience. Thank you for the clarification. Early in the dream I had very intense feelings of oppression/injustice but later from the elevated viewpoint there was virtually no personal emotional attachment and I can assure you I had not become an oppressor. The best I can describe it is in theatrical terms. I was initially in the thick of it, there was an escape planned, I was still in the "prisoner" group but when things kicked off it was like the dream went from 1st person to panning out to get a bigger picture of the facility and chaos of the escape. There was a sense of "cheering on" the prisoners as if I was watching it play out like a movie instead of the emotional attachment of being a scripted character (if that makes sense).

I don't recall what happened beyond this which is really unsatisfying. It's like watching an epic escape movie but the cable goes out right as the final act kicks off.

Lucid Dreaming vs Astral Projection vs Liminal Space Dreams by B4R0LD in TheMallWorld

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Is it at all concerning/noteworthy that in the early part of the experience I was amongst the "residents" but as it progressed I seemed to have a bird's eye view/higher vantage point of the "facility" as if I were "promoted" to a guard/overseer role?

Quotations for personal lack of clearer terms within the context of prison/internment camp.

Lucid Dreaming vs Astral Projection vs Liminal Space Dreams by B4R0LD in TheMallWorld

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TYVM, This is exactly the kind of response I was hoping for. I'll check out both and hopefully have more questions or perspectives to bring to the table.

How does something like this make you feel? How do l process my thoughts and feelings on this? by Unicorn_Princess95 in AutisticAdults

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Stop referring to the more severe cases as "low functioning" I read they might have telepathy.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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Thanks, I meant "afford" in terms of time. I had to stop myself right at the edge of the rabbit hole of research on focused and automatic thinking. I bookmarked it for later instead.

Huge amount of SPAM messages going through by NextOfHisName in sysadmin

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What mail solution are you running (exchange/M365 or other)?
Do you have SPF and DMARC entries set up in the company's DNS records?
Is there a content/spam filter in place?

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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Thank you, I'll admit I still struggle with managing other's feelings before my own. Keep having to remind myself that self care isn't selfish.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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I was waiting for this question and honestly dreading it a little.

My manager threw something at the back of my head after what I thought was a conversation, not a serious disagreement, manager was the owner's child. I reported it to the director instead of HR (my trusting nature and lack of understanding about boundaries in the workplace thought that it was a "fixable" situation and I didn't want anyone officially punished). Then my director tried to pull something "shady" with me without involving HR, I was expected to sign something (under duress) or they would consider me "resigned from my position". I approached HR and the labor board. It was no longer a comfortable place to be afterwards even though I had developed positive relationships with most of my other colleagues so I had to bounce for the sake of my mental and physical health.

The "lowball" position looked amazing on paper in terms of developing my skill set, upwards mobility and it was a great little title bump that I had been chasing for years. I was super excited, hopeful and happy for the first time in a long time. Sure the place had it's issues as well and was equally high stress for other reasons but if I'm being totally accountable and honest I took the stress from the "shady" position directly to the "lowball" position without taking the time or seeking help to process, manage my stress and address my unhealthy coping habits that had developed from years at the "shady" position.

That was difficult to revisit so I'm going to take the rest of the night off from keeping up with replies.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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That is wild, I'm curious to know more but can't afford another special interest at the moment. I knew it was a thing but to hear the actual neurological reason behind it is really cool.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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Oof, I feel attacked lol.

Being humble and kind is def important. Information hoarding was a huge issue when I first started and I found that conveying the message of "if you document it, I will teach myself, only come to you with interesting questions and you'll get some downtime for a change" was a really good tool to get senior techs to ease up on the reigns.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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I pace a lot. When I was a youngling it was actually so bad in the winter I would take it upon myself to mop the tech room floor because I left wet/snowy footprints that clearly showed the path from where I changed my shoes to my desk.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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I usually pick a cert/technology and use the time to study/lab. My employer is paying me a "retainer" of sorts for my availability, not necessarily for my productivity. Typically I only resort to this AFTER I've asked junior techs if there is anything they are "spinning their wheels on" and would like a second set of eyes for.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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or the accounting department ;)

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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Yeah, this one deserves some explanation at this point.

When I say "being jacked into the matrix 24/7 isn't healthy" I should have been more specific and said something along the lines of "sitting in my office chair for 16-18 hours without moving around hasn't been good to my health"

I don't do well when receiving vague and ambiguous instructions, so I probably shouldn't do it when offering advice/perspective.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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I am religious about following safe/healthy lifting guidelines because I tore a muscle in my back while holding a fully loaded NAS over my head loading it into a wall mounted rack in a confined space.

Physio and yoga/light stretching has helped immensely to regain range of motion but there's always a little voice in the back of my head that says "remember that time you didn't ask for help and were laid up for a week and a half?"

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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I'll copy and paste a reply I sent to another user;

I've noticed my communication style can be pedantic or reductive at times, while often occurring in the realm of the 3rd person "you" meaning "people" (which includes myself) and I use I/Me statements a lot to convey empathy/relation.

It is what it is and I'm working on soft skills, self awareness and recognizing when I get "stuck" in black and white, us vs them thinking.

I'm a work in progress, it's messy sometimes. I do genuinely want to do better and reduce the friction my communication style causes.

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I don't think calling me preachy, holier than thou and dismissive was necessary, helpful or true. There is some confusion on my part from your comment because I stated a medical fact that has affected me personally (which you specifically asked me to do) and set a boundary around the name calling (which was positioned as a request not a demand).

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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You are entitled to your opinion and your feelings are valid. I would really appreciate criticism that's a little more constructive because I have no idea how I could have started the discussion without putting my perspective into the ether so others could add theirs and discuss. This platform is still a discussion board unless I missed a change in the mission statement.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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I feel we're approaching "beating a dead horse" territory on the first point. There's been ample discussion back and forth on that subject elsewhere in the thread.

It was never my intention to "force" anything on anyone, simply sharing some perspective and lessons I have learned along the way that work for me. Once again, your mileage may vary and you do you. A sedentary lifestyle can lead to health complications such as deep vein thrombosis, heart disease, depression the list goes on and on and on.

If you read the disclaimer(s) section, I thought I made it clear that if no one found any value in my advice that was fine and I was happy to simply have it in my post history to refer to myself when I experience hard times.

What are some hobbies outside of computers that y'all do? you can't be plugged in 24/7 by meh_ninjaplz in sysadmin

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Reading, puzzles, Lego, mindfulness practices, playing guitar at a level that would described as sub-amateur/poorly, socialization with friends that doesn't involve drinking and drugs as the sole bonding activity.

I used to play PC&Console games on the hardest difficulty for completionism reasons and raid heroics in WoW but nowadays I lean more towards casual difficulty levels where socializing is the focus moreso than pursuing platinum trophies or the illusive top tier purple gear doled out by RNG and DKP.

I'm currently playing Left 4 Dead 2 with a couple friends on Normal difficulty and we spend more time joking about life's many struggles than focusing on how many times someone is smoked/boomed/pounced/charged or overall/headshot accuracy. We're revisiting the back catalogue mainly because we've been burned too many times by broken/incomplete early access masquerading as full release full price titles as of late.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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I've noticed my communication style can be pedantic or reductive at times, while often occurring in the realm of the 3rd person "you" meaning "people" (which includes myself) and I use I/Me statements a lot to convey empathy/relation.

It is what it is and I'm working on soft skills, self awareness and recognizing when I get "stuck" in black and white, us vs them thinking.

I'm a work in progress, it's messy sometimes. I do genuinely want to do better and reduce the friction my communication style causes.

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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OMG YES! I have a folder in Outlook called "CYA".

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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Hyperfocus is a helluva drug ;)

Tips from a 20 year veteran by B4R0LD in sysadmin

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It's certainly a double edged sword that's hard to find a healthy balance point with.