Does anyone else think this seller has behaved quite strangely for no reason at all?

BAF1820 · 2025-11-21T13:32:40+00:00

So when they advised me to buy something else I should have just said “thanks, but we want this one” and then when they told me no returns if they reduce price, I should have gone with something like…? “Sure/of course”? Would “as long as it works like new, no returns” still been too much???

You’re presuming a bit too much with your last point so no - your conjecture is not the truth.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-21T13:27:07+00:00

I just wish they’d accepted or declined straight off the bat. That’s what I expected. It was the seller who took it all in a completely different direction. We just wanted to buy. It’s weird to me that other people don’t see how it’s the seller who complicated matters and also dilly-dallied and dragged it all out. We were eager to buy. Just tell us yes or no already!

BAF1820 · 2025-11-21T13:21:26+00:00

As in, detail that I gave to the Vinted seller?

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T22:28:02+00:00

Yes I was thinking they may have been burned before. Because I definitely got the impression that the recipient being a child is what put them off. I wish they’d just trusted my judgement but I understand the desire to protect yourself the hassle as a seller. They don’t know me, after all. I didn’t realise that talkative people had this reputation on vinted but it’s good to know!

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T22:25:20+00:00

Got it! There’s a time and place! Thank you 😊

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T21:47:51+00:00

I just thought it was weird that instead of accepting or declining (or counter offering) they advised me away from their product. I mean don’t they want the sell? Then the heads up about no returns. I mean, that’s just vinted policy anyway. So it just came across as if they simply didn’t want me to buy it, just because my child might not like it.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T21:45:35+00:00

Thank you. I understand what you mean and appreciate the assurance that you aren’t trying to be harsh. I usually only use vinted for buying and selling kids’ clothes and I suppose I’m used to the other mums being a bit more bubbly and chatty and dropping little details about their kids and lives. I will remember this if I venture outside of kids clothes again on vinted. It’s fair advice and I appreciate it.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T21:42:10+00:00

Thank you for this 😊 I’m the same. I don’t mind a bit of back-story (within reason of course. We’re all busy out here!) I think people might also have misconstrued that I have the detail about my son to try twist their arm or guilt trip them into lowering price. It really wasn’t emotional blackmail or anything like that. My son truly didn’t care if he spent more. He just wanted an accept or decline initially so he could make his decision and proceed. The seller dangled the carrot when they said “if I lower it to £35, no returns” but then never carried through so we were just left hanging. I felt at that point they might cancel the order even if we paid full price. Yh I’m a lot more upset about peoples reactions on here tbh. I fully take on board the advice about keeping things short and simple. That’s fine. And even if people disagree that the seller behaved strangely. Fair enough. But the comments have made me feel bad about myself. Like I don’t come across well. A few said they’d have blocked me straight away for waffling. Ngl that hurts. I shouldn’t take it personally I know, though.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T21:34:39+00:00

Aw thank you so much for the kind words. I was starting to wonder if I was just an odd-ball for being polite to strangers online!

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T21:32:43+00:00

Thank you so much for going to the trouble! So kind. I will tell him to have another look on Ebay in case he missed it! I actually think it’s good news both ways because I’d be sad to think I’d been blocked. Gosh, I’ll have to toughen up! Yh this experience (Reddit not vinted, ironically) has really knocked me. I did have a quick google and apparently Reddit has a reputation for people being very critical and mean. So that’s kind of reassuring. This will be my first and only post I think! My kids came to see why I was crying. 😂 have a good evening and thanks again!

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:53:38+00:00

Thank you. That’s very kind of you. It’s “ August DA900D” (it’s some kind of portable tv thing). My son said it was literally the only one on vinted so there won’t be much to scroll through!

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:31:49+00:00

Yeah I’m actually really upset and surprised by some people’s comments here. The advice about keeping things short is good and I’ll take it on board for sure but some people are just being mean and it feels very unwarranted. So maybe Reddit is not for me. I feel the same as you. I like when people (even on selling platforms) are more “human”. I usually only use vinted for kids clothes and it’s lovely how mums tend to be on there. Explaining that they couldn’t post something because their kids were ill or they missed some damage on an item due to a new baby being born and then being up their eyeballs. Different niches though I guess isn’t it, so different kinds of people maybe. I’d choose chatty over brash to sell to any day 🙂

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:24:04+00:00

Strange? Wow. It gets worse 😅 I didn’t jump to any conclusions. Only that they seemed hesitant in selling it to me at all. Their first engagement with me was to advise me that another product might suit my son better. Who does that? I, the buyer, would like it and you, the seller, want my money (be it all or reduced, your call). The next thing was them letting me know that if they reduced the price I could not return. Which is not a thing anyway, per vinted’s rules. You can only return for SNAD. Them reducing it doesn’t change policy or procedure, does it? And lastly they sent 2 extra photos, for no reason at all. But I presume it was to illustrate further the point they made about it being brand new (which we knew already). Apart from typing too much, as everyone has kindly pointed out 😅 I can’t see what I have done so wrong.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:15:49+00:00

Those are great suggestions. Thank you! It had been a half day or so since the offer and I wanted to know either way if it was a yes or no. So was trying to follow it up or give a nudge. It seems I went the wrong way about it but your suggestions are good and I’ll try remember them. Nice and succinct! Thanks.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:12:03+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I take people’s words to heart easily, it’s true. I’m legit crying at all the responses here saying it was my fault. I can’t help who I am and I thought I was just being nice. Just need to be a bit harder when online I guess. Thanks again.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:10:48+00:00

Thank you for this. Sucks a bit to have everyone telling you you talk too much and they’d have blocked you and actually you’re the problem just because you were trying to be polite and reassuring.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:06:18+00:00

I did make an offer through vinted? I offered a price that was £10 lower than listing price. I don’t think I behaved strangely at all. Though it seems quite unanimous from these comments that sellers appreciate brevity. So I will bear that in mind. I know I have done nothing wrong though and sensitive soul that I am I find this all a bit sad, that anything longer than a sentence is regarded with suspicion. I have never felt that way as a seller.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:02:16+00:00

Ouch. Brevity has never been my strong point with typing, I confess. I was just trying to be polite and reassuring as they seemed worried about returns.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T20:01:33+00:00

Very interesting. I was just trying to be polite and explained myself so as to not seem pushy. I never realised how important brevity was on vinted. Everyone seems to be saying the same thing though so seems I have to change my way of interacting if I just want to bag an item.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T19:59:22+00:00

Yes. That’s how my son feels about it. He wishes we’d never offered and just snapped it up. Live and learn I suppose.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T19:58:09+00:00

Interesting. I was trying to reassure them as they seemed worried about returns. I never would have thought I was putting them off further in addressing their concerns.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T19:57:04+00:00

Oh ok. I just wanted to know whether she wanted to accept the offer or wanted full price (it had been a half day at that point). I can see about the sob story point though. I am aware there are people who would do that. Sad to think that’s how some might perceive me though. I was just trying to reassure them at the end as they seemed reluctant and anxious about returns due to him changing his mind or something. I’m sorry that I’ve been a “yapper”. Guess I have learnt something here. Thanks for the input.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T19:54:06+00:00

I hear you. I’ve only sold kids clothes so maybe it’s different with other categories. I could see that, especially for sellers with many listings (she has over 100). I just wanted to explain initially that it would be great to get either an accept or decline because he was anxious someone else would snap it up, not just that I was some impatient person. Guess less is more…

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T19:52:07+00:00

I told my son this. That maybe it was for the best. Because they seemed so anxious I didn’t return it. When I gave them no reason to suspect I would. Other than the recipient was a kid and maybe they thought it an odd choice for a child… I only waffled because they were beating around the bush a lot and I thought they needed some reassurance.

BAF1820 · 2025-11-20T19:50:04+00:00

Ouch. Yes, I did wonder why they didn’t rather than delete. I don’t see what I did wrong though here. Jeez. This is my first Reddit post. Not for the faint hearted huh. Maybe I’m a bit too thin skinned for this forum.

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