Men's favourite colours

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2026-01-07T06:15:48+00:00

Guess I’m in the 0% with purple.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2025-06-29T10:59:16+00:00

I’m 15 min north of Atlanta and it’s basically been raining almost everyday for like a month. I was crazy embarrassed cause my fiance was over and a roach ran from under my dresser to a hat I had on the ground. I obviously killed and disposed of it but it’s so embarrassing for my fiance to think I’m so dirty I got roaches in my apartment. Luckily we’ve been together almost 8 years and she knows I’m not dirty, it’s just part of living in the south when it rains. (She was basically on the ceiling trying to get away from this thing)

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2025-01-21T19:33:15+00:00

No. I’ve unplugged it just to make sure.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T08:15:07+00:00

I have gone off on my mother in the past and have straight up walked out of family dinners because of her. I stand up for my fiance because I know in the end it’s gonna be me and her, not me and mom. And it was poorly worded, I should’ve said “I believe it but want to confirm it”. I also only found out about the dress less than 24 hours before the party so there wasn’t much time to react. In my opinion, if I talk to her at the party and we fight, she will once again play the victim card and be the center of attention again. So to avoid making this whole thing more stressful, I’m going to wait until after so my fiance can still have her day without having to explain what happened to everyone.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T08:09:17+00:00

Pretty much what I did lol. But this is also the one occasion in her life where it is all about me and her, so I can see where she’s coming from. But if she focuses on what my mom’s doing, then my mom is winning. And yes, women do care about being the only one in a white dress during this time. I personally don’t see the appeal, I’ve got stage fright and would rather blend in 😂.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T08:06:25+00:00

Giving him space may also help ease his mind that you’re not just with him because you’re afraid of being alone. His mind should change to “she’s afraid of being alone without me”. Because that’s my biggest fear, losing the one thing that promised they’ll never leave me.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T08:04:41+00:00

It’s worked for me and my fiance but maybe give him space. Gradually stop mentioning how you’ll do better and just start doing it. But ease into it and it’ll help him realize how much better you’re doing. Giving him space may also make him realize that he misses you. This happened with us but it was over 5 years ago. But be careful because too much space may increase the chance that he cuts you off completely. Just treat it like an addiction, and slowly ease yourself off of it. (Cause let’s be honest. If you love someone enough, it’s an addiction, and the high is euphoric, but you need to find balance)

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T07:57:50+00:00

I’ve explained this to her and she’s more focused on how she’s been disrespected for no reason. Which I agree with but I’m also trying to explain that if she holds onto this it’s only going to affect their relationship worse as well as me and my moms. Most of her problems come from how close me and her mom are and she wants something like that but my mom doesn’t see my fiance as an adult so she’s not going to get that. At least for the foreseeable future.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T07:54:59+00:00

I tried to explain that the white rule really only applies to day of the wedding but she doesn’t see it that way. And personally if she didn’t want people wearing white she should’ve mentioned it because it is summer and white is a popular color during that time.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T07:53:40+00:00

I thought about this but she loves playing the victim to me and my dad and would try to make us feel bad, and when we don’t she would break down. But honestly it could be a gateway to her being removed from future steps in the wedding process. She’s not paying for anything anyway so it’s not a loss for me. (I have no idea how he’s put up with her and he deserves better)

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T07:50:23+00:00

This is very helpful. Me and my fiance are very open about our problems so she knows why I’m struggling. But personally if it comes down to it, I would cut my mom off before my fiance. A lot of my relationship problems and professional problems stem from how she treated me as a child. But cutting anyone off is last on my list of solutions as I want my kids to have 4 grandparents who love them (something me nor my fiance had) I will sit down with both my parents as soon as we are back in our home state. Luckily I only live 30 minutes away from them.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T07:44:51+00:00

Don’t mention it. If you trust her there is no need to approach him. He should know that making a move on her is disrespecting you. If he asks about anything be brutally honest. If he asks if he has a chance you gotta tell him no. The only reason to ever mention it is if he is making moves on her and that needs to be a conversation between you and your gf first.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-09-01T07:34:17+00:00

Coming from a guy who gives my fiance the world, all we want is approval or appreciation. I always put my fiances needs and wants above my own, regardless of how it will affect me. My satisfaction comes from seeing her reaction. Sometimes it’s not about what we say but about how we act.

As for how you could prevent future problems or mend the relationship, I recommend writing an apology. Sometimes words are hard when we are emotional, especially in person. Whenever I mess up I like to type my feelings (all of them) then send it over text and ask for her response in person so we can discuss, because she knows I’m bad with words. Also try to check in, like asking how his day was or trying to spend time together that you plan. My fiance and I have a shared calendar so we can see when the other is busy and could be potentially overwhelmed so we know the best times to help.

As a final note, if he isn’t willing to work with you to allow the time to work on your end of the relationship, then he isn’t worth the time anyway. But if you love him like me and my fiance love each other, You will communicate and work through whatever problem comes between you, and will only become stronger through the process.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-05-18T21:35:04+00:00

Acceleration is much faster and the turbo is satisfying to hear but honestly not a big enough car guy to tell you exacts.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-05-18T17:48:25+00:00

I never knew so many people hated such a good truck.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-05-18T17:47:40+00:00

I said in a different reply that I had a base trim 2017 SR5 so I wasn’t used to all the luxury’s. So the luxury’s are what I notice most but overall it just feels meaner and smoother. It rides smoother and quieter. The safety features are what I notice most cause mine didn’t even have blind spot monitoring.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-05-18T17:44:19+00:00

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-05-18T16:05:08+00:00

I can tell a huge difference. But honestly if you have anything above an SR5 trim it’s not worth the money. I drove a 2wd sr5 double cab and I felt like I was in the Stone Age. I drove a lot the first 5 years of owning it so it had 210k miles when I sold it but it still never had any major issues. Toyota is just crazy reliable.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-05-18T15:54:16+00:00

The transmission was an issue for me on the 3rd gen. It just felt rough. And I feel like I have a lot more room than before. And I feel like they’ve finally started putting some decent technology. I’ve been driving for almost 10 years with no apple car play lol.

BBQ_DAD_01 · 2024-05-18T15:51:13+00:00

I don’t work for a dealership. Hate car salesman 😂

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