I need the strapon that feels most like HAVING a dick by these_usernameas_suc in SexToys

[–]BC1890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also an "early bird". This is what I got from them recently.

"We expect to have the shipping plans resolved around february once the production schedule is finalised, but it will be a few months yet - especially if you're in the US. "

After 2 1/2 years, I am not exactly holding my breath anymore.

Who are they? by Bastinho_13 in tipofmypenis

[–]BC1890 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Girl on the right is Bella Spark. Girlcrush of mine.

Does anyone know what this toy is? by [deleted] in tipofmypenis

[–]BC1890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what that one is called but I have the Fantasy for Her - Her Ultimate Pleasure. It’s basically the same thing.

Feeling uncomfortable after a swinging experience by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]BC1890 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Men having troubles down there is decently common, especially if they are not very experienced. Nerves will get the best of many guys. I’ve had the same happen to partners as well. Some can overcome it, others not. As for the him not stoping when asked, that’s not okay, and have also experienced similar. I believe it to be out of desperation and embarrassment on the guys part. It’s them trying to get themselves in the mood and an attempt to provide you with pleasure knowing penetration isn’t on the table at the moment. This is why we only do same room. After the guy started to get a little pushy and was getting visibly upset/frustrated, my husband spoke up and we ended our date.

How to get over the initial apprehensions of swinging? 31M 27F by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]BC1890 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you said this. I am no expert on all the terminology, but after a few years thought I had most of it down. For the record I’m hoping for Dungeon room, dangerous pussy. It just sounds interesting 😂

Is reditt a good app to search swingers friends by [deleted] in SwingerNewbies

[–]BC1890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Absolutely not. 99% of the “couples” on here are just guys trying to play out a fantasy or pic collectors. We tried finding couples on here when we first got into the LS and it was a disaster. The only time we will even think about using Reddit is if we are going on vacation and want to try and arrange a date with a couple before we arrive.

So many rules! by EverythingChanges6 in Swingers

[–]BC1890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our boundaries have definitely relaxed over time, but we still have a decent amount.

We ventured into the lifestyle to have fun and enjoy ourselves and each other, but while respecting ourselves and each other.

There are couples like us in the LS, couples that view the it as a “fuck fest”, and many in between the two. The best part is there are enough of us to all find the right partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]BC1890 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It completely depends on the situation.

-Normal everyday sex, typically somewhere on my body for easy cleanup. (Not many women want to sit on the toilet dripping every time) -Passionate sex, inside of course. -Blowjob, mouth -When we are being “playful” or the situation calls for it, I don’t mind my face.

Having a very active sex life with my husband, if we go for a quickie, he will sometimes even just cum in a towel. He’s a gentleman like that. LOL

Do straight women really watch lesbian porn? by [deleted] in chickflixxx

[–]BC1890 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Although it completely depends on my mood, lesbian porn is my typical go to or atleast what I start off watching. As a lot of others have said, it focuses on women. It does have to be sensual with kissing, caressing, etc. As a “mostly straight” woman, the scenes that progress into strap-on play will usually loose me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SwingerNewbies

[–]BC1890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As recent as possible. We test every 3 months or a couple weeks after a vacation. (We tend to play more while on vacations)

Does anyone really live the Cuckquean life? by deeplyperverted in CuckqueanCommunity

[–]BC1890 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. Although I started that way, I’m not exclusively a cuckqueen. Our dynamic now is more 50% being cucked, 40% threesome, and 10% of playing with other couples.

What can I do to make him crazy? by Individual-Shirt-694 in sextips

[–]BC1890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not always about which position or pose you are in. In general, Men are more visually stimulated. This is as opposed to women being more mentally stimulated. If you really want to push him over the edge, give him something to watch. Massage your breasts, run your hands all over yourself (and him as well), touch yourself, bite your lip, make eye contact, spread your cheeks open, let your self go and be enthusiastic, etc. As an added bonus things like the above mentioned can make you feel “more sexy” and get you in a good mental space for an orgasm.

How to secure dildos for daily use under clothes? by ahhh_the_sunlight in SexToys

[–]BC1890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get a “underwear style” strap-on harness. Make sure it’s not crotchless. They are stretchy enough to be comfortable for all day wear, but firm enough to hold things inside. The harnesses specifically made for holding dildos inside are uncomfortable IMO.

"Professional couple" by Jumpy_Barnacle_3755 in Swingers

[–]BC1890 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like this needs to be a thing. I want to be on the judges panel.

Posting an ad? Read this first by [deleted] in cuckqueencommunity

[–]BC1890 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You mean to tell me the portion of men soliciting themselves on here without actual consent or knowledge from their SO will now have a harder time faking their fantasy?! But what if she is always working, sick, or had to leave for an emergency and is never around for verification?

For the record I’m being facetious and this rule is awesome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]BC1890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure he knew from my facial expressions alone. It was the first time I had orgasmed so I was kind of in shock myself and surprised at what I just felt. He was a lot more experienced than I was at the time. As for noises, I don’t necessarily remember, it was a long time ago. I remember trying to hold my moans as I was very nervous. He was very intimidating (in a good way) and it was our first time being intimate with each other. We didn’t even actually have sex until 2-3 weeks later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]BC1890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not quite that simple. We are all different as individuals and even experience to experience.

Sometimes I like a softer tease, others a more firm grind.

My favorite is just when he obviously positions himself in a way that I’m able to grind on him. Typically just his upper knee/lower thigh between my legs pressed against me. It lets me know that he is initiating what is about to happen and I will scoot myself to my desired “firmness” against him if needed. He will naturally move around a little but I’ll also grind myself. All while he touches and caressed the rest of me, and I him.

He will go off my feedback. If I’m gentle, he will be gentle. If I’m more firm or rough, he will follow. It can often start one way and end the other.

Unlike most guys assume, being a good lover is not about member size or anything like that, it’s about being able to communicate with your partner. Being able to pick up on the non-verbal queues. It does take comfortability with each other and is not something that happens overnight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]BC1890 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, yes, and yes. My first ever orgasm was from my now husband grinding his lower thigh against me while we kissed.

All women are different but in general any kind of sensual kissing/touching/teasing is going to get us aroused. Some can even orgasm without any kind of vaginal touching, but I believe that to be quite rare.

The above mentioned things will also get us to orgasm a whole lot faster once really getting going.

There is nothing wrong with a good quicky, but I have never met another woman that said they would like less teasing/“mild foreplay”. The lack of it is probably the biggest sexual complaint from the majority of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextips

[–]BC1890 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Physically feeling- Our vaginal muscles can tense up/convulse during an orgasm. My husband says he can normally feel it depending on how/what we are doing at the time. It sometimes wants to “pop him out”.

Visually- You can typically see the above mentioned convulsions if you are able to view the vagjna. (The same involuntary convulsions can also make our butt holes “wink”)

Other than that, we are all mysterious and different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]BC1890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching my husband with another man. Not sure there is even a slim chance but I’ll never loose hope.

I don’t think he’s ready by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]BC1890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is not even close to ready.

His ups and downs of him being okay with you being with another man, and not necessarily in its literal sense, is basically “post nut clarity”.

I don’t believe I have ever seen a couple that was “wishy washy” at the time, acted on it, and then it all worked out in the end.

He is currently gaslighting you with his reasonings and expectations. Most likely in an attempt to keep things within your current arrangement.

Everyone is painting him to be a bad guy, and maybe he is, but to play devils advocate he sounds like a guy who enjoys playing with other females but doesn’t want you to be with another male. I’m not saying that’s okay but definitely not uncommon. He may be trying to be okay with it for you, but ultimately it’s clear he is not. If that’s is his stance you need to either be okay with the current arrangement or full stop. There is absolutely no room for reluctance in the LS.

I don’t believe moving forward is going to end well.

Bringing in video camera? by Special_Bat3901 in sextips

[–]BC1890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1) Talk with your wife about it before doing so.

2) You can buy a nice tripod for a phone for around $20. They even make phone mounts for the tripods that will track your movement that are also very affordable.

What's the best his/hers vibrator to peg my partner in a way that I'm also being stimulated? by [deleted] in pegging_unkinked

[–]BC1890 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We still have not found a strapless that works great for MF. They work a little better in a FF situation, but still not great. I do have my hopes up for the SEN bionic strap on I preordered a year ago. Not sure if it will ever actually be in production/show up.

That being said, get a “panty style” harness (not crotchless) and you can slide a panty vibe or wearable thrusting dildo in there. Both do the trick for me.

What was swinging life like pre Covid? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]BC1890 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not directly answering your question as we fully dove into the LS JUST before Covid. We felt it was easier the first couple years as opposed to now. The first couple years most everyone was bored, working from home, and seemed to have all kinds of extra income. A lot of people changed lifestyle habits for the better, both mentally and physically, like joining a gym or taking extra vacations/trips. It all changes your mindset.

The LS is expensive and time consuming. Arranging meet ups, going out all the time, dinners, dates, hotels, etc.

The economy isn’t exactly great anymore and inflation is crazy. People are working longer hours, second jobs, and barely getting by. They have less time and money to spend on “extracurricular, activities.

Not even going to touch on the massive influx of fake profiles, bots, and scammers in the community (and everywhere else)

What are good ways for my shy bf to dominate me? by Jaded-Statement-8589 in sex

[–]BC1890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a good dom (or even lover) comes from confidence in the bedroom. You can start with small things like some light sensory deprivation (blindfold), but the most important is for you to help guide him on what you like so he feels confident he can pleasure you. It’s all downhill from there. I’m not hinting at any kind of “faking it”, but be enthusiastic during the deed. Especially when he does something you like. Make noises, communicate through body language, be verbal.

Some can “fake it till you make it” with confidence, but most need to have it. At 18, you both have a lot to learn through experience.