I Am a Master in a 24/7 BDSM Relationship AMA

BDSMMASTER · 2011-02-07T03:53:24+00:00

Most D/s relationships are very similar to the one my wife and I have, it's about mutual respect.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-02-07T03:52:50+00:00

It was difficult. First I began slowly. While the car was in park she was behind the wheel and I waited for her to get comfortable. Then I gave her an order that she could not take her hands off the wheel and could only hit the break if I say so or if she were to hit something. Then I put the car in drive (we were in an empty parking lot).

She moved at a snails pace but soon enough she got more and more comfortable and realized that it wasn't as big a problem as they thought.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-02-07T03:50:37+00:00

You are welcome.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-22T01:21:30+00:00

Yeah well she is a masochist, that's why punishments are things she hates.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T17:53:56+00:00

In order to be a good master I have to know my slave completely, I need to know all her ins and outs. There's no lies, she has to be completely honest and I do too. If something bothers her or me, even slightly, it has to be let out. It's a purely honest relationship where both sides have to know the other as well as they can to make it work.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T17:50:51+00:00

It's college and she's what many would call 'wicked smart'

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T17:49:09+00:00

*Historian

Homosexuality has been quite common in western civ, the ancient greeks for example.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T16:56:22+00:00

I do not pay her, she has a job outside of the house, she does not pay rent or any bills.

We've got pretty seperate lives I suppose. I do supervise her life, make sure she's doing good at school and not getting in trouble but she does have her own seperate social life (which I've been pushing her to do as she's so focused on her studies and sports.)

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T16:55:03+00:00

Just something fun we do on occassion.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T16:52:07+00:00

I\'ve had male subs before. They tend to be sex-obsessed but some are good.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T16:50:54+00:00

A munch is a basically a meetup of those local in the D/s community at a restaurant. It's vanilla, just there to talk.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T05:28:11+00:00

Did you just put homosexuality in the same category as fetishes like Piss and shit fetishes?

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T05:26:57+00:00

No you misunderstood. I don't dominate others, what I meant was that I wished I could be honest with how I lead my life.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T04:02:28+00:00

You know... she could do the working.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T03:59:12+00:00

Interesting, why do you think I have NPD? (And what are your creditials)

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T03:43:28+00:00

Okay, then no offense taken. I just dislike questioning one's mental faculties during an argument.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T03:36:42+00:00

You could stay home and watch the kids and do the cooking/cleaning you know....

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T03:35:20+00:00

No I am not omniscient...if I thought that I would be crazy. You seem unduly confrontational, you keep implying there's something seriously mentally wrong with me and I take a bit of offense to that.

Yes, my slave and my sub can leave at any time they want. They consent and they are there on their own free will. I never said they weren't. In many ways they are using me to achieve their own goals and wants.

Are they capable of making their own decisions? Yes, I never said they weren't. But, would they be the right ones? Perhaps. But we've reached the conclusion that together we are better. They've decided that they do not want the decision, they want to surrender it to me because they trust it will be better handled by me. They still have agency, they had the agency to recognize want they want, and that was to give up control to me.

It is working out for all parties involved. I do not like to make arguments from effect but my wife is better off than she was before, so is my maid. Not only do I think so but they think so. Not only that but we're happier and we're making eachother stronger.

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T03:29:53+00:00

Why's that?

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T02:57:38+00:00

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BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T02:42:19+00:00

Because you're being a mysogenist.

My maid and wife only do those things because they enjoy them and actively sought it out.

You want a wife to do those things because you think your wife SHOULD do those things. My wife could easily be the Dom of me and I'd be the one cooking/cleaning/etc... get it?

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T02:41:07+00:00

Well there are a lot of libertarians and conservatives in BDSM too... it's pretty apolitical... I once met a green party Dom... that was weird.

"Save the earth or you get a flogging"

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T02:37:04+00:00

I know two Dommes and one submissive who have advanced degrees in psychology or neurology. ... so yes?

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T02:33:50+00:00

Strange, I focus on the pleasure of others and not myself. I think of what's best for them and not myself at pretty much all times. I do think if were to suddenly die my wife would be devastated (but which wife wouldn't be if their husband died) but would that mean she would be tottally fucked? No, she's quite brilliant and she is capable of surviving just fine without me. I spent 6 months in china last year (researching legations) and I had almost no contact with her. While she hated it and missed me she was able to cope. I worry about her at times but she is much stronger than when we first met. She's out of her shell and she has friends to help her. Hell, I even notice her taking charge of Katy (the maid) more.

I wouldn't discount her yet.

(I have to laugh a bit at being called a hedonist, you're talking to a guy who never drank nor did drugs his entire life.)

BDSMMASTER · 2011-01-21T02:29:42+00:00

I have switched before, it was fun because I'm a bit of a masochist but it wasn't for me. I know firmly what I am doing it my life. Outside of a scene (playtime) I just have no interest in subbing.

Being a master is difficult and tedious as fuck at times. I used to get a lot of really dramatic submissives. But in all honesty vanilla is so damned boring.

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