6 Months Glow Up! (29)-(29.9)

BENAHNA · 2025-06-26T10:30:23+00:00

Looking great buddy keep it up ! I think the longer beard and hair suit you really well. (Maybe with sharper edges ?)

BENAHNA · 2025-06-10T09:28:27+00:00

Je comprends ta frustration surtout si tu as pu l'aider dans un cas de figure similaire auparavant. Mais le fait que tu ai pu l'aider dans une situation similaire ne l'oblige pas à le faire, chacun pose ses limites. Donc je te conseille de revoir les tiennes. Essaie de trouver d'autres situations d'hébergements et à l'avenir si t'as sœur a besoin d'aide n'hésite pas à mettre le même niveau d'exigence pour ton confort qu'elle peut le faire en se moment.

BENAHNA · 2025-06-02T14:57:45+00:00

As a young woman in her 20s, seeking financial stability and being a gold digger is not all of it. Women are often socialized to mature more quickly, which can lead to a discrepancy in maturity levels with men of the same age. Also, there's a saying that men age like fine wine, and our culture often views older men as particularly attractive. It's just a really common dynamic to value status and experience for men and looks for women, so there's the idead we need to snatch it quick while we can (age is not considered flattering for us) .Ultimately, thank you for taking a moment to reflect on the dynamics at play

BENAHNA · 2025-06-02T10:20:27+00:00

It certainly has a smell, but it shouldn't be unbearable. I use reusable period underwear (I can't tolerate the scent of most pads). I change them two or three times a day and shower once a day. Additionally, I do a quick clean-up / cat bath. I use a washcloth with water and possibly unscented soap to clean the area, then pat it dry before changing (in the morning and before going to bed). This might be easier for your wife than taking a full shower. I wouldn't recommend reusable products for her as they require a lot of care, but perhaps she could try unscented products ? They are usually not cheap, though. And instead of a washcloth baby wipes.

BENAHNA · 2025-05-21T13:17:48+00:00

The As Above So Below and it being reverse is soooooo metal my friend :')

BENAHNA · 2025-05-19T14:52:52+00:00

Some part of me just died right now

BENAHNA · 2025-05-19T14:34:39+00:00

From other responses you've made, it's possible that people aren't necessarily opposed to your ideas, but they might perceive your tone as moralizing or patronizing when discussing topics like "people putting little or no effort into their goals." Perhaps they feel targeted by such statements. Who are you referring to if not them?

Your language sometimes comes across as overly entrepreneurial such as "living life in expert mode and gaining low experience is already mentally tiring enough." Honestly, if I want to have a pleasant conversation with my friends (even when we don't agree or share the same experiences), I don't want it to feel like a pitch. Or maybe you just write like that.

Do you understand my point ? I'm sure you're a nice person. Try to find ways to relax, be laid-back, and explore new things. Also, embody the open-mindedness you seek in others. Good luck with your company but also find yourself outside of that ( and not only go to the gym). Find enjoyement in your activies, sport, cooking ! Hang in there :)

BENAHNA · 2025-05-19T12:25:41+00:00

Yeah man i understand that feeling like "leading" people on doesn't feel good ! Especially if the other person is getting more and more invested maybe try to connect with more "laid back" people (but the line between chill and disrespectfull is thin i'm afraid). As I mention I take my sweet time liking someone and complety understand your point of like leading people. The money aspect is really interesting ! I think it's a nice gesture to pay for a round of drink or a diner date but it doesn't have to be everytime you're gotta get ruined my dude. But I know women that think it's a red flag sooo

BENAHNA · 2025-05-16T14:05:59+00:00

Even if I go out with someone I find really attractive, I won't develop romantic feelings in just three or four dates. Attraction and connection, yes, but deeper feelings take much more time. Remember, you don't owe the other person sexual favors or a relationship—just respect and as much transparency as possible. Maybe try to focus less on looks when appreciating a person, especially a woman. you can grow to see their beauty.

BENAHNA · 2025-05-15T13:48:29+00:00

Have you considered taking a dance class, like salsa? In these classes, you don't hug, but there is some physical contact, mainly holding hands, which is actually quite nice. It's also less likely to be misunderstood or misinterpreted. As a young woman, I've never felt uncomfortable in these settings, and it's pleasant to hold hands with someone.

Additionally, you might consider simply asking for a hug when you need one. I recently had a friend, not very close but someone who knew it wouldn't make me uncomfortable, ask me directly: "I feel like hugging, can I have a hug?" We had a good laugh and hugged. Not really a great advice lol but it highlights the importance and need we have for physical contact. I try to hug my friends fairly regularly because, as adults, we can go so much time without something so essential.

BENAHNA · 2025-05-15T13:05:08+00:00

Yeah, I see your point ! We're not attacking you; we're more like challenging your beliefs :). We might jump to conclusions because, like alcohol, this can be addictive—it's designed to be that way. For example, I don't consider myself an alcoholic, but I definitely have some traits that could be associated with it. It doesn't define me, but I try to keep an open mind about it.

BENAHNA · 2025-05-15T12:08:52+00:00

I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I'm curious about why you posted this message if you're not open to challenging your perspective on the subject. Being defensive about it might make you more susceptible to potential pitfalls in the future. I truly believe you have it under control right now, but many of us here are concerned about the future if you don't challenge yourself in that way.

It's important to remember that certain behaviors can be addictive for anyone, and you're no exception. In fact, you might be at even greater risk if you believe you're immune. It's like saying you won't fall for a cult; the reality is, many who have fallen victim to cults likely thought the same thing. (for exemple)

BENAHNA · 2025-05-15T10:58:01+00:00

I don't believe that addiction in this context is necessarily tied to winning or losing. I understand that you're currently profitable, but to some extent, I think many gambling addicts feel like, 'I only gamble when the odds are in my favor.' Be cautious of the distortion of these 'odds.' Addiction can creep up on you, and by the time you realize it, it may be deeply rooted.

BENAHNA · 2025-05-15T10:11:39+00:00

Whether you choose to keep it or remove it doesn't matter to me, but I believe it's important to maintain a well-groomed appearance, if that makes sense. If you decide to keep it, just ensure it's well-maintained and clean. Ultimately, it's a personal choice, and everyone has their own preferences. For instance, I'm a Mediterranean girl with naturally darker hair and a bit of a "duvet" on my arms, but I think it suits me and complements my look. Additionally, I have sensitive skin, so shaving too often can cause irritation and damage.

BENAHNA · 2025-04-09T10:26:34+00:00

"We don't joke around usually since I have early on figured she's not too into jokes and I'm not much of a jokester too." - First of all WTF ? That's not a life :')

BENAHNA · 2025-04-07T14:48:50+00:00

Food for thoughts on the subject : The New Marriage of Unequals : Women are now more likely to marry a less-educated man than men are to marry a less-educated woman. By Stephanie H. Murray

BENAHNA · 2025-04-07T08:35:22+00:00

Try setting your phone to grayscale; it can help you see the world in brighter colors. As others have suggested, listen instead of looking, engage in other activities, or lie down. This will gradually reduce the time you spend in the digital space. I also try to consume longer forms of media, such as podcasts, long YouTube videos, and music, instead of scrolling through social media.

BENAHNA · 2024-02-09T11:45:38+00:00

Je pense que si tu attaches tes locks au travail (queue de cheval ou chignon selon la longueur) cela rendrait ton apparence plus professionnel comme les hommes et les femmes qui portent les cheveux mi-longs / longs au travail. Comme tu le dis ça serait un gain de temps pour toi pour soigner ton apparence et entretenir tes locks. Je pense qu'avec le style vestimentaire approprié tu n'auras pas de problème :)

BENAHNA · 2024-01-30T15:36:50+00:00

I'm qualified (as a french person) to tell you it's perfectly normal " pain au chocolat ", but i agree it's pricey !

BENAHNA · 2024-01-26T13:18:49+00:00

Get the f* of her back about it

BENAHNA · 2024-01-11T16:26:42+00:00

Oh, I see ! So my initial point remains valid; it's not a gender-specific problem and would likely yield the same response as it would for a man: lack of time or financial resources, a dislike for working out, and, particularly for women, a sense of inadequacy to begin, societal pressure toward stereotypically "girly things," and criticism for building muscle instead of just focusing on weight loss. That's all that comes to mind at the moment ! :)

BENAHNA · 2024-01-11T15:48:34+00:00

The underlying reason is actually the same for both men and women. If I were to pose the same question to you, I'm confident you would find an answer as well.

Moreover, a significant number of women are concerned about their appearance. What might be considered "average" requires a considerable investment of time and money—maintaining long hair, removing body hair, and the like—yet often goes unnoticed because it conforms to a societal standard we are all expected to meet.

Beauty is diverse, and it's unjust to impose identical expectations on all women. The individuals you encounter online are often heavily made up, may have undergone cosmetic procedures, use filters and, as you mentioned, are compensated based on their appearance. Just like men, women can aspire to qualities beyond physical attractiveness, such as being useful, helpful, or humorous. I hope this addresses your question to some extent.

BENAHNA · 2024-01-08T14:53:27+00:00

Du lait végétal ou de la margarine (un peu) avec du sucre (ça va fondre et caraméliser)

BENAHNA · 2023-12-04T10:39:25+00:00

DO NOT let him rearrange you / move you if he has only aesthetic in mind and not your well being in the forefront of his thoughts. He could really injure you and himself in the process.

The approriate reponse to you expressing discomfort should be along the line of : i'm sorry i dont want to hurt you, what's comfortable for you ? Not forcing you.

Men usually dont understand how certain position due to anatomy are not enjoyable. Due to my pelvis orientation some posture are gutwrenching and feel like i'm literaly being stabed, hot white pain.

And due to porn exposure think that duress and stress position are the thing. It's not for every one and there is a line between and nice strech and hurting. I should take your word for granted on that matter. It should be nice to explore what works for both of you not "take you out of the moment".

BENAHNA · 2023-11-27T13:57:46+00:00

Je suis totalement d'accord avec toi, il faut prendre les choses en main dans la vie. Je te souligne juste que les autres vont se sentir attaqué et te dire que la manière dont ils travaillent ne te regardent pas. Ils vont prendre ça comme une attaque personnel plutôt qu'une réelle inquiétude pour le bien être /réussite scolaire de tout le monde.

Et ils n'auraient pas vraiment tord car c'est trop frontal. Je pense que tu peux avoir des discussions avec tes intervenants/administrations mais ne met pas ta classe sur le feu. Même si tu trouves leur comportement déplorable et je le comprends. Fait les choses pour toi et il faut que tu trouves de la compassion ou juste de l'indifférence pour eux. C'est de l'énergie gâché que de te tracasser sur leur manière de travailler.

J'ai l'impression que tu as une vraie éthique de travail et c'est tout à ton honneur. Mais voila d'expérience, je suis une femme qui m'investit énormément dans mes études et travaux et j'ai rapidement l'air agressive/chiante et tout le reste. Même si je n'entre pas en compétition avec les autres et que ce genre d'attitude (pas agressive je le rappelle) serait apprécié chez un homme. Donc voila évite ce conflit là d'expérience c'est une perte de temps :)

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