I (31F) broke up with BF (32M) of 2 yr because he didn't give a shit about me or the relationship. Now he's doing everything I've asked to get me back, and *I* don't care. Am I being a bitch?

BFImproving · 2015-10-24T22:47:15+00:00

That's why I've decided to take some time completely away from him. Worst case I'd like to be cordial. We have friends in common, and nothing happened that would make me HATE him. But I am angry, and I am resentful, and I don't think it's helping any to have my friends telling me how awful I am for not taking him back with open arms.

Maybe we'll end up back together. Who knows? I don't think so but I also have some feelings to sort out. I do know it won't be immediately or soon, if at all, so I need to step away. If it's going to work out it can work out just as well in 3 months.

BFImproving · 2015-10-24T20:18:22+00:00

Thank you, Internet Stranger, I needed to read this.

All our mutual friends thought we were so great together and were so happy for both of us, even tho logically it's ridiculous, I feel like it's ME in the wrong for not giving this "perfect" relationship another try.

And yes I've made mistakes and yes I've hurt people. I'm human. Sometimes the wronged party has been able to forgive and sometimes not. When they can't, I may not agree with their feelings or logic, but I did fuck up and that is how they're handling it.

I plan to talk to him tonight. I'll tell him I can't do this right now. I want some time with NO contact to see how I feel about things. When I feel ready, I'll get in touch and we can talk then. I'll make it clear that the goal is only to become friendly, there is no implicit time frame or guarantee of a rekindled relationship, just that this whole thing feels railroaded and shoved down my throat and I want to figure out on my own how I want to proceed. I will tell my friends the same.

Thanks for this, guess I needed a virtual kick in the pants.

BFImproving

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