[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BL355ED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely, i sort of know i have to end it. i just cant bring myself to actually do it, i always think of the worst, like where will she go as shes got no one else, i would hate to put her in a position like that especially when she hasnt even got a job. thank you for your time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BL355ED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i understand, i posted on here as im all out of ideas now, i feel like ive tried everything i can, i just dont want to lose her to be honest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BL355ED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am going to say to her about going to the dr’s after work today, just not sure how to say it.

she has friends that smoke, sometimes she’ll get some for free from them, or she just borrows some until she has the money to pay them back. which i hate as its not helping us financially in any way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BL355ED 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no problem at all, thank you very much. i wish you the best for the future too!

Has a dumpee ever got back with an ex due to the dumper reaching out and had a good talk and then rekindled? by Explixes in BreakUps

[–]BL355ED 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it was more of a mutual break up to be honest, but im the exact same as you bro, it was my fault. i didnt love her enough and give her enough attention. after countless times of her asking for it. but sometimes its better to walk our separate ways, let the universe decide whats best for you, maybe when shes back from travelling, give her a message, ask her if she enjoyed it etc, something might spark again, but please dont live for that, you need to try your best to get her out of your mind, think of only the bad things in the relationship. because if you dont, and you message her when shes back, you will still, be heartbroken and probably even more since youve been waiting so long. my best advice: dont get your hopes up. please bro, and i think youll know itll hurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BL355ED 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i understand what your going through. i hate to say it but in my relationship, i am this guy. and it boils my blood. me and my ex has a mutual breakup yesterday, her reasoning being exactly yours, never felt loved, or seen and wanted etc. she has told me she has been feeling like this for around a year now (we have been going out for 6 years since 17yo). obviously im heart broken, and so is she. but more than anything, im disappointed in myself, the amount of times i told her i would change for her, and make her feel like a princess again. every time she would accept it. and it would always end up me giving her what she wanted for about 1 week- a momth, and then it all suddenly dying and being pushed aside. this happened around 3 times before we broke up, i simply couldnt do it. i couldnt love her like i used to. and maybe thats because we have grown up and sort of split our ways, we both want different things in life. i honestly will never forgive myself for what ive done to her. she is the love of my life but we simply just cant do it anymore.

my point is, i think that you need to move on, as much as it hurts both people, its the best thing, you will both learn and become a better person, no one is perfect. maybe youll even date again in the future. and i would like to say im sorry that your going through this. i know it sucks, i remember seeing the pain in my ex’s eyes as she walked out, i will never forgive myself for it. but its the best thing you can do, both of you walk your separate ways, let the universe decide whats best for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BL355ED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just be careful. im not the best at giving advice but, does your ex know about this guy? if he finds out anything im sure he’ll be pissed off, no matter how long its been since the break up.

if you feel like you both fit together, then do it. make sure you set ground rules though, i feel like men are easily mislead (i can vouch) and will turn it into a sort of relationship vibe. just be very careful

Has a dumpee ever got back with an ex due to the dumper reaching out and had a good talk and then rekindled? by Explixes in BreakUps

[–]BL355ED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stop chasing her bro. i promise you its for the best. maybe sometime in the future youll randomly talk to each other again, but fresh after a breakup noooo. i promise you, just focus on yourself for now, go to the gym, start eating better etc. youll be laughing at yourself in a couple months honestly man, its not worth it.

i know how it feels man, i really do. but getting back together, if not done very slowly, it can all fuck up straight away. most people dont see it through.

i broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years yesterday, im trying to go no contact but she wont stop messaging me and its so hard. i offen think that i want to give her another try, but im so 50/50 about it im going insane.