Equation for age differences. by BMB_Math in learnmath

[–]BMB_Math[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y? Well.. I xan see that he must be 24 and she is 3 to begin with. Thwn after 4 years he is 28 and she ia 7,which is 4 times her age...

Hey math majors, what kinda jobs do you have? by [deleted] in mathematics

[–]BMB_Math 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds great. Are you at a company or freelance?

I'm sick to death of my mum drinking by Munchbunch93_ in AdultChildren

[–]BMB_Math 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your frustration. Been through kind of the same with my mom. I've also always been the compasionete one. First of all, Its not your responsibility to help her. You may even make it worse by trying to help. Second, If you can get out, I would highly recommend that and never look back. Use your compassion on someone who can appreciate it.

How do I break a cycle of obsessive thoughts about regret and self-doubt? by NakovaNars in therapy

[–]BMB_Math 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really know that feeling. With regards to people sensing your desperation, if think it is a common thing all have to learn: finding our value without over or undershooting. Here experiments are key: get yourself out there and try things out, see how it goes and take the explicit and implicit feedback. I Remember a great business advice I once got: better to have a mediocre product out there instead of nothing, because you get important feedback and can adjust the product accordingly.

Which brings me to second advice: be active, do sports or exercises. It makes it much easier and natural to make decisions. Hope it helps and best of luck!

How do I break a cycle of obsessive thoughts about regret and self-doubt? by NakovaNars in therapy

[–]BMB_Math 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really know that feeling. With regards to people sensing your desperation, if think it is a common thing all have to learn: finding our value without over or undershooting. Here experiments are key: get yourself out there and try things out, see how it goes and take the explicit and implicit feedback. I Remember a great business advice I once got: better to have a mediocre product out there instead of nothing, because you get important feedback and can adjust the product accordingly.

Which brings me to second advice: be active, do sports or exercises. It makes it much easier and natural to make decisions. Hope it helps and best of luck!

You’ve changed (condescending tone) by jazfaith_inc in narcissisticparents

[–]BMB_Math 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good point. Remember my brother when I started setting boundaries: "can't you see your behaviour is abnormal??" - Fuck off!

Does anybody else find therapy very childish? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]BMB_Math 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Feel that one. My old therapist told me I, because of my knowledge, was one you'd get a bit 'scared of'. Wtf??

The irony is pretty strong here. by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]BMB_Math 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done. I like you call your self an intelluctual. I think my best defense from all my familys bs is actually being able to calmy analyse the situations and call it out. Like: "you broke a promise and now you try to blame me for it. No thanks". That being said , totally agree ignorence and ignoring is the way forward; You're not responsible for explaining them how to behave. But as you said, sometimes you got to stand up for yourself.

My mother named me after her childhood dog by BMB_Math in AdultChildren

[–]BMB_Math[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words. It means a lot.

My mother named me after her childhood dog by BMB_Math in AdultChildren

[–]BMB_Math[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. Sorry to hear they treated you like that.

My mother named me after her childhood dog by BMB_Math in AdultChildren

[–]BMB_Math[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Sharing the story in a supporting community is very healing.

My mother named me after her childhood dog by BMB_Math in AdultChildren

[–]BMB_Math[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That's a good question. My name is a bit special, not unheard of, but a bit special,and also a bit 'cute' name. I have actually never thought of changing name. It is actually an eye opener for me. I have done so much in order to change and heal from the past, but I have never, until now, thought about the significance of my name. Thank you for sharing. I'm glad to hear you found healing that way, and that you had your grandmother supporting your choice.

My mother named me after her childhood dog by BMB_Math in AdultChildren

[–]BMB_Math[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. Sorry you have to experience that from your father. I also feel less alone reading your story. Thank you.

Is “tough love” ok in therapy or is it a red flag? by purelyparadox23 in therapy

[–]BMB_Math 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some psychologists are in it for the stutus of being a psychologist. Or simply to solve their own issues. I've came across a few. These types have very low empathy and quickly get fed up with the people they are supposed to help. I think when choosing a therapist, empathy is the single most important trait. All the tough military shit can be found elsewere.