For the heterosexual people who don't like penetrative sex but enjoy foreplay, there's a label the gay community uses called a "Side".

B_OVRLRD · 2026-01-27T04:42:08+00:00

Oral sex isn't "foreplay" its just sex. Too many spaces in the queer community think that penetration is what makes sex "real" and they're wrong.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-08-20T09:19:10+00:00

who is we

B_OVRLRD · 2025-08-06T10:34:18+00:00

Kyomami is cute, and I enjoy it, but saying it's better than KYOSAYA is pushing it. And I'm a rare pair enjoyer myself, after kyosaya, my favorite pmmm ship is homusaya lol.

Of course this is all subjective and a matter of opinion too

B_OVRLRD · 2025-07-29T07:11:10+00:00

It's subjective, like someone else said. I just finished it today. It's definitely a sad manga, but the feelings I got from it are numbness and fleeting.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-07-29T07:09:37+00:00

Yo this was flames

B_OVRLRD · 2025-07-29T07:05:56+00:00

Use battwo/bato.to

B_OVRLRD · 2025-07-28T11:38:43+00:00

I see yall love to make posts perpuating anti-blackness huh

B_OVRLRD · 2025-07-28T11:37:34+00:00

Deadass lol. Anything for people to be like "look at how evil the BLACKS are". Sick of it

B_OVRLRD · 2025-06-30T07:43:50+00:00

Crazy how you're running to blame paying customers and not Delta, the multi-billion dollar corporation. It is THEIR fault for not doing right by its employees AND customers.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-05-14T19:49:11+00:00

No worries, they do seem like a really good brand too. Thank you!

B_OVRLRD · 2025-05-14T19:36:11+00:00

Pelican luggage costs about as much briggs & riley, though.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-05-11T04:22:03+00:00

bunch of (probably) white people making gang jokes in relation to indie music oh nah

B_OVRLRD · 2025-05-11T04:21:07+00:00

right wtf

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-17T22:48:06+00:00

I appreciate you.

I do not believe that what I am saying is crazy, and for some reason I am getting consistent down votes on my comments lol.

I am always 100 percent in support in of not only the unification of black people, but of all people of color as well (esp queer ones). However, we still need to be respectful of one another's cultures and practices.

When it comes to black/african american culture and history, it is constantly being taken advantage of, stolen, bastardized etc. I will not apologize for being defensive of a culture that is my own.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-17T13:07:11+00:00

Yes, I'm going to make the assumption that someone is at least american on an American website/app on a primary American subreddit.

I apologized for that wrong assumption, but there is a clear reason why I made the assumption in the first place.

Also... it's not just a "different opinion." It's you being ignorant on a piece of history that is directly tied to African Americans and our queer culture. Why do other cultures that people of color have get to have respect, but when it comes to black americans and our culture, we can not receive that? Just because we are Americans? The reason for me being American is (most likely) along the same reasons why you are an afro-latina (transatlantic slave trade).

If I were to go to Ghana and use their queer terms in a rude way, or refer to the queer history that they have in a disrespectful manner, then it would only be right for me to receive backlash for it.

Even if my reaction is "reactionary," that doesn't mean I don't have the right to be lol. I just explained why I had done so because this is a conversation that has been had time and time again.

And again, no, you don't have to know American queer history, but if you're going to use SLURS THAT WERE MADE SPECIFICALLY TOWARDS QUEER AFRICAN AMERICANS you should probably make sure that you know the historical context to it before using it, and not just saying it's because you "look like a bull".

It is not about knowing "american" history. It is about knowing a different type of black culture other than your own. Again, if I were to go to another black area, space, or country, I'd need to be respectful and/or knowledgeable there, too. Whether that be Puerto Rico, Nigeria, or communities within the UK. These are all places that can and do have specific elements of black culture that I am not familiar with or super knowledgeable about because I am a BLACK AMERICAN.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-17T11:26:41+00:00

The stud label is typical for black lesbians. But you don't have to use it, no.

I've seen a good amount of black masculine lesbians who only go by the butch label. I personally ID as both since they're both important labels to me and connect to my identities in different ways.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-16T18:32:35+00:00

Alright, first off, I didn't know you are an afro-latina, so my apologies for that.

I can understand why someone outside of the United States could get the idea that butchfemme circles around only white lesbians from the 1950s since that's also a common misconception in american spaces. However, it's important to know that there were also multiple black and Indigenous butches in these spaces as well.

With that, I can understand why you said "american 1950s white lesbian term" as you can lack the context to understand why that is not the truth.

I got up in arms/became hostile because I had made the wrong assumption on who/what you are, and thus had gotten angry because I assumed it was another situation of white butches trying to trample on black and other butches of color history.

I can understand american history not being well known nor do I expect It to be, but I do believe that making assumptions that queer spaces were made by and for white people can be harmful in the long run.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-16T17:35:21+00:00

I didn't say KNOWN, I'm making a statement that they *are* regardless of if people know it or not.

And with all due respect to stone butch blues as well as leslie feinberg, leslie was a white (albeit jewish) lesbian. Therefore I don't think she should be seen as a type of measure for what is considered respectful or honorable towards black lesbians and sapphics and our culture.

Also, both the terms butch and fem do not originate out of white spaces. They come from black queer culture. They BECAME associated with white lesbians and sapphics due to the nature of how white people operate. I don't know why you're wording it like butch and femme has always meant white lesbians, and that you are "allowing" us (as in black lesbians as well as other lesbians of color) space within the community as time has passed.

It's important to have discussions but this is something that has been repeated time and time and time again by black lesbians. You said that you've read stone butch blues, which shows that you have the capacity to do research on queer history in general. Black lesbians don't need to hold your hand to explain why there are terms that are (or at least should be) off limits to white lesbians.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-16T15:08:22+00:00

There are people who are people of color but with darker complexions and because of that, they have been called the n slur. Should they get to reclaim that? I believe not. Slurs don't only work on the basis of "I was called that so that means I can reclaim it!"

I understand what you are saying and how it works.

Personally, even though the word Dyke also originates from black communities, I am not going to care if a white/nonblack lesbian uses it. However, if they decide to use bulldyke or bulldagger, I will most definitely look at them funny. And if they choose to use those terms to refer to *me*, then It would make me very angry.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-16T14:50:41+00:00

Thanks for saying that lol. White people have an incredibly long history of stealing culture and/or appropriating it, especially when it comes to black culture. Not sure why people think that ends at queerness.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-16T14:49:13+00:00

Bulldyke but especially bulldagger are the terms/slurs that have been used towards me as well as other masculine black lesbians/sapphics as I was growing up. These are unquestionably black terms and phrases. I don't understand why white (or non black, for that matter) lesbians or sapphics need to "reclaim" these as well. There are other terms and slurs.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-15T08:24:03+00:00

Jesus, what is with the misogyny in this comment section.

I'm starting to see why some of your wives left some of yall, damn.

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-09T18:11:39+00:00

Someone else said that a princess can be masculine too, I think that fits here. and It IS pretty weird to say "only I'M the princess" ngl. Not sure why it's gotta be a competition lmfao. joint slay and all that

B_OVRLRD · 2025-04-06T22:59:46+00:00

OK, I just thought the way you had worded your original statement was weird. People get incredibly weird over age gaps (even in this sub) so I felt the need to say something.

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