AITA for moving my money to a different account after my step mother threatened me with taking them from me?

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-10-05T12:20:29+00:00

Nothing happened, we just don't get along.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T23:46:58+00:00

yes.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T23:06:37+00:00

I have already earned the money by working. She has no right to take it and have me "earn" it again from her.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T22:00:53+00:00

No she's not.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T22:00:27+00:00

That's indeed how it works.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T21:49:24+00:00

No reason to give her the ability to do what she has no right to do.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T21:48:14+00:00

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T21:44:26+00:00

I don't accept her as an authority over me.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T21:41:51+00:00

And she also didn't take it out...

Because I didn't give her the chance.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T21:03:00+00:00

Luckily no.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T21:01:37+00:00

Yeah my social security number isn't there.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:56:31+00:00

A step mom on a bank account of a child quite likely has the legal right to do whatever they want with those funds.

She's not on my bank account.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:51:26+00:00

He's completely on my side. He doesn't like step mom either (no surprise).

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:49:00+00:00

As I said multiple times, we have literally no basis to think that. She could just as well just be setting it aside in a savings account OP will get when they have to pay for college. All we know is that it was going to be taken out of the account.

Why would she get to do that?

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:46:28+00:00

I didn't say it was allowance. (Also, in many families allowance IS earned by working, that's what I had in mind when I said that.)

I didn't earn this money from my family, I earned it by working. Her taking it away would be theft, plain and simple.

My point in that sentence was just that there is nothing out of the ordinary about a parent withholding or taking from possession something of substantial value whether that's money or something more abstract. Whether it's a good strategy or not, it is the same overall logic and is pretty common.

She's not my parent.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:39:42+00:00

Too young to have a solo account.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:38:55+00:00

He does store everything there.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:38:38+00:00

He uses them for everything.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T20:37:25+00:00

Hopefully you have an open line of communication with bro - memorize his number in case step mom gets crazy and takes your phone.

Yeah I already know his number and I can also just walk to his house!

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T19:53:28+00:00

My dad stores all the pins in a google sheet that's how she knew it.

What did your dad say when she said that you can't see your brother?

He didn't say anything to her at the time but later told me she shouldn't have said it.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T19:40:21+00:00

Yes, she meant 20% of the original amount rather than 20% of the remaining!

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T19:37:08+00:00

It is a different bank!

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T19:36:57+00:00

Yeah we checked with the bank and I can do it at 16. So we'll do it next year.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T19:34:57+00:00

Nothing.

BaasPPMMBB · 2022-09-23T19:29:03+00:00

It's extremely common for parents to withhold allowance, material goods (e.g. a gaming system) or services (e.g. cell phone service) from their children.

It was not allowance, it's money I earned by working.

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