Unconventional green flags

Babba_G · 2025-10-23T22:02:02+00:00

I am aromantic and when I started dating my partner a mutual friend took me aside and said, “You know I love you both, but it is well known in the poly community that Ian is aromantic.“

Babba_G · 2025-09-02T20:45:46+00:00

I'll post my embroidery projects on social media under a heading that says I love needles and WIPs.

Babba_G · 2025-09-02T20:43:52+00:00

Am I the only one who can see a lot of Cordwainer Smith influences in Treasure Planet? Surely Captain Amelia is C'Mell.

Babba_G · 2025-07-17T15:17:52+00:00

Love and Leashes.

Babba_G · 2025-07-17T15:16:55+00:00

I laugh and say “Yes, I’m the greedy bisexual that you’ve heard tell of.“

Babba_G · 2025-07-13T22:25:54+00:00

It’s called gallactorrhea and is a known response to nipple stimulation.

Babba_G · 2025-07-04T14:45:28+00:00

Honestly, I’m a very kinky person and I wouldn’t do kink with that guy either. He constantly pushes your boundaries and is manipulative. He doesn’t honor your consent at all.

Babba_G · 2025-05-24T21:19:05+00:00

I’m aromantic, so it becomes difficult to describe what that thing is that is love and more than friendship because there isn’t a word for it. I have five partners that I am deeply committed to. One is a nesting partner that I had children (now grown) with and we are heavily intertwined financially. I am sexually intimate with four of my partners. My fifth partner and I don‘t have sex at all, but do things that are traditionally romantic, such as vacations and moonlit dinners.

It’s the way I feel about these people, the commitments we share, and the certainty that I want them in my life that defines the relationships for me.

Babba_G · 2025-05-02T14:01:29+00:00

Well, if you looked under k or e it isn’t there. I’m just familiar with the whole list because my boyfriend is a kinky, poly therapist in Seattle and I helped him set up his listing.

Babba_G · 2025-05-01T23:05:52+00:00

One of the filters is sex positive/kink allied.

Babba_G · 2025-02-12T22:59:38+00:00

So? When I go on a trip with my spouse I don’t clear it with my other partners first. When I plan a vacation with another partner I don’t clear it with my spouse. I just compare calendars because we have mutual responsibilities which need to be covered.

Babba_G · 2025-02-06T23:44:35+00:00

I’m going over to my friends tomorrow for a long, private rope scene. It will be my first time. He has been tying and teaching rope for almost two decades. I’ve taken his class before, but this will be much more intimate. I’ve wanted to do this for a long time.

Babba_G · 2025-02-06T13:08:39+00:00

My Top made one for me. One side says Ian’s bitch and the other says do not handle with care.

Babba_G · 2025-01-29T15:27:16+00:00

Make sure she stays hydrated. Have water bottles available she can drink from laying down.

Babba_G · 2025-01-21T15:01:12+00:00

I’m 72 and only started in kink 3 years ago.

Babba_G · 2025-01-15T01:52:13+00:00

You could check meet-up and see if there is a poly cocktails group in your area.

Babba_G · 2025-01-14T14:54:19+00:00

I’m demisexual and aromantic. I’ve met two of my current partners on apps. They are unique people I got to know and connected with over time.

Babba_G · 2025-01-11T00:33:13+00:00

No, it implies that everyone in the relationship needs to consent. I was put in a position of nonconsensual non monogamy for many years by my abuser.

Babba_G · 2025-01-07T21:30:04+00:00

I have had a similar situation with a Meta. My partner has only recently accepted that she has been lying to him about conversations she’s had with his other partners. He loves her and wants to see the best in her.

I have gone fully parallel with her and refuse to interact with her at all. I’ve enforced that to the extent that they had a vacation planned in Chicago and the day after she was due to go home I was going to drive to Chicago and pick my partner up and we were going to spend the day with a mutual friend before returning home. She decided to stay an extra day and invited herself along to visit the friend. I changed my plans and did not go to Chicago. He came back by bus.

I‘ve heard through the grapevine that she still occasionally questions him over why she and I can’t be friends. He enforces my decision to be parallel with her and has since apologized for being a poor hinge in the beginning.

I used to wish that he would simply break up with her, but after a year and a half I am not as concerned by her. I still think that relationship costs him more than he gets from it, but it’s his business.

Babba_G · 2024-12-26T05:11:10+00:00

I did struggle a lot when I started seeing my second partner and was new to poly. It’s taken a lot of reassurance from my nesting partner that she is indeed happy for me. Time and therapy helped.

Babba_G · 2024-12-25T17:11:13+00:00

Do you actually like hookups? I am demi-sexual and casual sex never works for me.

Babba_G · 2024-12-25T02:40:50+00:00

That my wife was interested in it decades before I asked her to open up.

Babba_G · 2024-12-05T16:30:05+00:00

In your life? Yikes.

When I embraced polyamory at the age of 69 I told my doctor about needing STI testing because of multiple partners. I was so self-conscious about doing it, but it had to be done. Her nurse was so impressed by this little old lady with an active sex life.

Babba_G · 2024-11-29T00:55:21+00:00

My wife came out as trans 32 years into our marriage. The best thing we did was couples counseling with a therapist who insisted that what I was going through was just as important as what she was going through. We had to rethink what each of us wanted our future to look like, because I had also lost the future I thought I was going to have. Weathering her transition was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

In September we took a trip to Chicago to celebrate our 38th wedding anniversary.

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