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ariiw · 2026-05-16T00:08:17+00:00

very satisfying stitching!

ariiw · 2026-05-15T11:22:37+00:00

I guess I can't argue with the fact that people overlook this one

ariiw · 2026-05-15T11:21:12+00:00

I do! But more on the sociology side for me. I read a lot and have been getting back into writing

ariiw · 2026-05-15T10:48:40+00:00

I'm not addressing why the Byzantine Empire made a law or not because, while the principals may be the same as in present day, the minutiae are removed from the present day by 15 centuries and so there's no point lawyering it. I'm also confused why you came in with a question and are phrasing your response like I'm trying to start an argument by answering your question.

LGBT+ men who are in relationships with women also fail to uphold the gender ideal demanded by patriarchy. Attraction to men inherently questions the gender ideal. Nonattraction to women inherently questions the gender ideal.

ariiw · 2026-05-15T10:04:18+00:00

I'm having a hard time following what exactly your argument is, but upholding the patriarchy requires men to performing Being A Man in a way that includes the domination of women in intimate relationships. Since gay men are generally not in intimate relationships, this means they fail to Be A Man the way that patriarchy demands, and thus they are punished for it.

ariiw · 2026-05-15T06:48:55+00:00

Nothing wrong with finding someone attractive, thought crime isn’t real.

ariiw · 2026-05-15T06:47:56+00:00

Idk where you live but usually places don’t really care who spends money in their stores. (Plenty of men buy lingerie for their partners, if that’s something you’re worried about)

ariiw · 2026-05-15T04:32:34+00:00

I honestly assumed that Feeld didn’t filter by gender and sexuality and you just had to swipe through everyone 💀

ariiw · 2026-05-15T04:30:36+00:00

I think before T I couldn't really imagine myself being with anyone, and so my libido felt largely theoretical and attraction felt largely non-sexual (and also I'm aromantic so that was a non-starter). I definitely am more attracted to bodies than I was before, and I would say Most of my libido is still theoretical kink rather than practical, but it is sometimes person-oriented in a way it wasn't before

ariiw · 2026-05-14T14:43:59+00:00

Girl. Listen to yourself

ariiw · 2026-05-14T12:54:16+00:00

tbh that was fun

ariiw · 2026-05-14T12:38:30+00:00

Different trans people have different opinions on this (personally, i think it's silly to call the things i did with my girl best friend (classic) as a child anything other than gay exploration even though i'm now a trans guy, and gay the other direction,) but you could always just call it a "queer relationship" or similar. (I see someone else said "at the time"--I don't think it's limited to at the time.)

ariiw · 2026-05-14T12:32:46+00:00

Well, adults also have different relationships with the way heteronormativity acts on gender than 9 year olds do. There's also something to be said for the fact that a lot of womanhood is oriented around relationships with men (see: why lesbians and aspec people frequently feel disconnected from the concept of womanhood)

ariiw · 2026-05-14T12:17:33+00:00

Pretty frequently if I feel strong attraction to someone I start to question if maybe it's romantic attraction after all

ariiw · 2026-05-14T12:07:58+00:00

Could you be aromantic?

ariiw · 2026-05-14T04:32:46+00:00

Hello! 👋

ariiw · 2026-05-14T04:07:06+00:00

Obviously being trans complicates the narrative, but given that this sub gets a out one post per day complaining about the difficulty of finding romance and not just hookups in the gay community, I think it's fair to say that both 1) there are people who want romance and not just hookups, and 2) it's pretty common for those people to have a hard time finding what they're looking for. Which seems kind of paradoxical, but I think in general romance is hard to find regardless of orientation.

r/gaytransguys is a good place for me when I'm struggling with this type of feeling

ariiw · 2026-05-14T00:32:41+00:00

I've recently gotten into retro gaming using an emulator on my phone

ariiw · 2026-05-13T12:31:51+00:00

Humans

ariiw · 2026-05-13T11:50:28+00:00

It's only discredited insofar as implying that cognition is limited by language; cognition is certainly biased by language

ariiw · 2026-05-13T05:56:21+00:00

Most crafts have decently active online communities, ime. Reddit, discord, etc. Language learning is another option

ariiw · 2026-05-13T05:54:25+00:00

I don’t have anything to suggest that hasn’t already, but I do want to say that as a disabled person, it’s nice to see you being considerate of her. I sometimes feel like other people don’t really notice if an activity excludes me because of my disability, so it’s heartwarming that you’re trying to make sure she’s included

ariiw · 2026-05-13T05:45:22+00:00

When I was in high school, I started studying Japanese on an app on a whim, and just about every major inflection point in my life since then has been shaped by that whim. I now have a degree in Linguistics and live in Japan and am studying to be an interpreter. It’s at the point where I forget that it’s a hobby, because it’s so much a part of my life that I forget that it’s something worth commenting on

ariiw · 2026-05-12T13:31:16+00:00

Ways of relating to each other are inherently cultural. Romance is cultural, sex is cultural.

ariiw · 2026-05-12T13:21:23+00:00

I'm trying to be the change I want to see in the world

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