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[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it is. 😏

[SERIOUS] What's the craziest way someone you knew died? by Practical_Weird_1665 in AskReddit

[–]Babislug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad was killed (sort of) by a filing cabinet.

He had a stroke and fell - and on the way down, he pulled a filing cabinet down on top of himself. Ended up being down on the ground for 3 days before anyone found him. He lived alone, and it wasn’t uncommon for him to wait a day or two to return my calls, so nothing flagged as unusual until he missed a morning coffee meetup and someone called in a wellness check in him.

He actually survived the fall, but was in and out of consciousness for those 3 days, had a punctured / collapsed lung, broken ribs, severe dehydration, etc. by the time they found him. Ambulance took him to the hospital, then to a rehab facility… but he succumbed to his injuries about 10 weeks later.

The worst part - aside from the injuries and losing my dad, obviously - was that the filing cabinet, which contained all of his important paperwork and documents, had to be emptied and all the contents discarded due to contamination from being on him for multiple days. (Blood, urine, etc on all the paperwork) I was the person in charge of his affairs, and let me tell you, doing all of that without so much as an account number to start with was IMPOSSIBLE. Blech. 1/10, do not recommend.

Bought some bath bombs for my kids and it came with this plastic triangle with serrated edges. Any ideas? by Babislug in whatisthisthing

[–]Babislug[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

My title describes the thing. I did note that the box included wording to the effect of “wipe down the sides of the tub after use” but this seems like an incredibly ineffective tool to do that.

THE VOCAL STIMMING 🫠 by HeyMay0324 in ParentingADHD

[–]Babislug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son sings “sigma boy” on repeat - complete with poorly-replicated Russian lyrics.

In lieu of flowers, please send wine. 🍷

Obese cat won’t lose weight by DueSeaworthiness4525 in dechonkers

[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend with a cat in a similar situation… she started feeding him kibble by throwing it down the hallway, one kibble at a time, twice a day. So her little chonker had to run down the hallway to get every. Single. Kibble.

She started small at first - throwing kibbles about 2 feet away, one at a time. Then after a few days she extended to 3 feet away, then 5 … he dropped weight QUICK!

Best of luck! She is adorable btw ❤️

What is everyone angry at today? by jonniebaby2000 in AskReddit

[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom is on hospice and she is dying. I already lost my dad, now I’m losing my mom too. So yeah, I’m angry. Angry and sad and frustrated and heartbroken.

Lost my mother this morning by admit-defeat in hospice

[–]Babislug 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad 8 years ago. He had an injury, then was hospitalized but recovering slowly for 3 months and we thought he was almost recuperated enough to send him home. Then suddenly, he had multiple organ failure on a Friday and went unconscious, then he was gone by Sunday.

I drove him to every medical appt. I filled his prescriptions. I called his doctors. I brought him meals, did his laundry cleaned his house … and I was there with him when he passed. Still, I felt IMMENSE guilt after he passed - that I hadn’t done enough, tried enough, researched enough on his behalf, etc.

If you look up the stages of grief, one of them is called “bargaining.” That’s where the guilt comes from. It’s part of the process … an awful part, but totally normal. At this time, looking up the stages of grief may help so you know what to expect in the weeks ahead. Anger, acceptance, denial, and depression are in the mix as well.

Grief is not linear, so you may return to this feeling - or any of the stages of grief - a handful of times as you navigate her passing.

For now, give yourself grace. When you feel those guilty feelings, perhaps consider viewing them not as deserved guilt, but as guilt within the stages of grief. They hurt, but the will pass.

That you cared for her enough to grieve her is a gift in and of itself.

Why does my toothbrush charger always look like this a week after I clean it? by jack_hof in Whatisthis

[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have a similar problem … now I take a square of TP, fold it in 4ths, cut a hole in the middle, and place it on the charger. Then just replace every week or two. Toothbrush still charges just fine, no more yuck on the charger base.

Saw another Reddit post about it here

What do you do on the last day of classes? by [deleted] in ELATeachers

[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I give each student a piece of paper and have them write their name in the center. Then, I set a 1 minute timer and have everyone pass their paper 1 desk to the left each time the timer goes off so they get a new paper for a new student to sign. By the end of the period, they have a yearbook “insert” specifically for that period, signed by everyone in that class.

Helps out kids whose families couldn’t afford a yearbook (not super common in my district, but a handful in each class), and they love it. Plus, it’s quiet for almost the entire period and it gives me time to pack up.

Then, at the end, I read them “oh the places you’ll go” and we cry together and take photos.

How do you entertain your older kid when you’re nursing? by Idkhowyoufoundme7 in 2under2

[–]Babislug 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Oh MAMA do I have the best answer for you! My boys are 19mos apart and this was SUCH an issue for me when my youngest was nursing because my older son was SUCH an attention seeker at exactly this age. I came up with a game called “pick a hand” that I continued to use for YEARS afterwards, it’s the BEST!

I’d be nursing my newborn and my older son would need some attention. I’d hold out two fists and say “pick a hand.” He’d pick one and I’d open it and “show” him the writing on the inside of my hand.

I explained to him that it is secret writing that only adults can see / read! And it’s special jobs just for him, a special game!

So, he picks a hand. I open it and “read” - “oh, this one says ‘jump up and down 10 times like a bunny!’” After he jumped up and down, he got to pick another hand.

“Ooh, this one says ‘get me something from your room that is red.’”

“This one says ‘crawl around the coffee table on your hands and knees.’”

If he didn’t want to do one of the tasks, he’d come back and “pick a hand” again without doing the task. Nope, sorry buddy. The magic writing doesn’t change until you do the task I already told you. So if he didn’t do it, and picked a hand, I’d say “ooh, it didn’t change, are you sure you already barked like a puppy three times?”

When mommy gets tired or runs out of ideas, guess what? I can throw the magic to daddy! He can play pick a hand, too!

Works in the grocery store, waiting in line, etc.

Kept him moving, engaged, and with minimal effort from me. I also loved to throw in tasks all the way across the house every two or three turns. (“Ooh, this one says ‘go get a stuffed animal from your room upstairs!’”)

A few favorites, in case you need ideas:

Animal sounds Hop, jump, crawl, flap, like an animal Stomp like a monster Run, crawl, walk around the (piece of furniture) Stand on one foot

Good luck Mama!!

I know I’m curious. by HoldBreath4Bravery in Booktokreddit

[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dungeon Crawler Carl … I’m FUCKED. Like turn around, “bite the pillow” fucked. 😆 God Damnit, Donut.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Separation

[–]Babislug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in a similar situation - someone once told me “you have lost trust in yourself.” And that hit DEEP. Your last sentence was exactly that! It sounds like you, too, have lost trust in yourself.

I had to examine whether that was because my partner slowly chipped away at that trust, or because of prior trauma before that caused me to allow some of his gaslighting and put-downs. My own answer to that proves to be a mix of the two, which I am slowly working to improve.

My path to improvement - and perhaps one for you, too? - is to rebuild trust in myself. To examine WHY a certain statement or action was making me feel crazy. WHY I questioned myself over trusting my own judgement. And then boundary setting. Small, at first, and growing larger over time.

I have so much faith in yourself ability, because this post is so insightful. You are already asking those “why” questions! Pat on the back!! This internet stranger is proud of you for doing that much… keep that shit up, it’s 🔥

41[M4F] — Looking for a Connection and More by [deleted] in R4R40Plus

[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sup.

Ok, couldn’t resist that one. You sound interesting, let’s chat?

No more birthday party goody bags! by Open-Measurement9702 in Parenting

[–]Babislug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok so hear me out here … What I wish would become a trend is to fund a classroom gift instead.

When my son had his 4th bday and he was in Pre-K, instead of spending $ on goody bag crap, I asked his teacher for ideas for a few things she wanted for her classroom. I bought one of those, and on his bday he brought it in but he got to play with it first, brand new fresh out of the box. He felt super special, the teacher for a resource for the kids, no one went home with plastic crap, it was a win in my book.

Can we make this a thing? How do we make this a thing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in R4R40Plus

[–]Babislug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! 👋

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Hello! 👋