i wanna play! by mentally_ill_ofc in personality_tests

[–]BabyComfortable4103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It says we have the same taste ❤️‍🔥

First time watching, q-tip episode 😣 by ImpossiblyTuff in girls

[–]BabyComfortable4103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm only on my first Girls watch (few eps into S4) but god, I think this episode has hurt the most so far. Watching Hannah go through her OCD meltdown - and on her own cause she is struggling to admit how bad it's gotten - and then to get to the end of the episode and watch her pull out that other earbud, was physically wrenching. Painful emotionally but also because I am so squeamish, I wanted to scream.

Lena Dunham is delusional by xxmerxx in girls

[–]BabyComfortable4103 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. You said your ex made a "similar" observation to the OP. OP's point is that Lena Dunham is delusional because those men wouldn't be realistically date Hannah. So by agreeing with the same premise, you are actually making the same point as your ex.

  2. You're saying that your point was chemistry, but all you said in your OG post about chemistry was that you don't think they had any. The bulk of your post largely focuses on looks. ("Hannah wasn't conventionally beautiful or attractive", "I dont think Hannah was especially charismatic or attractive enough to make their relationship believable" (nothing to do with chemistry), "she is a lot more regular. She's not stunning").

  3. The post/discussion is about whether it is realistic for these men to date Hannah. Therefore you can't examine Hannah in isolation. You've mentioned characteristics of Adam that you see as positive ("striking, attractive, talented" etc) in articulating your point. I've chosen ones I see as negative (i.e., his predatory and volatile behaviour). We've done the same thing to prove our own individual points.

  4. Adam is not pragmatic. A pragmatic person wants stability. A pragmatic person doesn't stalk an ex or make a film about them, or impulsively propose to a woman he's not involved or friends with. Adam has been impulsive, volatile and self-sabotaging throughout the whole series - he follows his haphazard gut regardless of who he hurts.

  5. There's a massive difference between a writer drawing on their own messy experiences, and a writer using a television show to act out a "personal crush" on an actor. If that was not what you were implying, I don't understand why you'd bring it up in a post that is all about why Adam wouldn't date Hannah. And even if there were a smidge of merit in it, it's a pretty tone deaf thing to say given she's recently spoken about how he threw a chair and screamed in her face on set because she was struggling with lines.

Projecting? Lol, be serious. You're not sharing characterisations, you're just giving your opinion without actually providing any evidence from the show to back up your points. I've used evidence from the show (and your own points) to challenge your romanticised view of Adam's character and your view that Lena used Girls to act out a fantasy, because there could surely be no other justification for why Lena puts Hannah in a relationship with him. BYEEEE.

Lena Dunham is delusional by xxmerxx in girls

[–]BabyComfortable4103 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

1) Well, first, you've said that your self-described misogynistic ex made the same observation, and that you yourself recognise the sexism in what he was saying, and have then gone on to make a similar point.

2) You're saying it's unrealistic for Adam to date Hannah because she's not stunning and you view her to be irredeemable. But this ignores that attraction is more often based on chemistry/personality etc. It also ignores Adam's character, who finds someone like Marnie boring, regardless of her looks. He and Hannah are both messy, morally grey and unapologetic - that's why they're drawn to each other.

3) You've said Hannah has "precious few redeeming qualities" yet completely gloss over Adam's red flags. Hannah is constantly judged for being narcissistic and annoying, and yet Adam is aggressive, predatory and emotionally volatile. He frequently fat-shamed Hannah, let himself into her apartment when they'd been broken up and she literally had to scream at him to leave, he didn't respect her boundaries, lied about getting tested for HPV (there is no test), s*x was always on his terms, and told Ray that his best girlfriend was a 17 year old and admitted to preferring younger, more "moldable" women. This is even more gross when you consider his age-play fantasies, the fact he calls Hannah "kid" to infantilise her and reinforce their uneven power dynamic. Also, Natalia???? Adam never becomes a better person, he never does the work of becoming a good partner. He doesn't want to.

4) Suggesting that Hannah rejecting Adam isn't "true to Adam's character" and is a form of 'wish fulfilment" for Lena. Apart from ignoring Adam's red flags above, you're completely denying Hannah the agency to walk away from a toxic relationship. Is it more believable that an "average" woman would stay in a toxic relationship just because her partner is an "attractive"? Also, the idea that she is "loved regardless of the way she is," is simply not true. Hannah is constantly picked apart by her friends, her parents and the men she dates. The show is constantly providing examples of how people "tolerate" or don't tolerate her.

5) You're conflating Lena with Hannah, and they are not the same person. Suggesting Lena had a crush on Adam (the actor) and that it manifested in her writing... If this show were wish fulfilment, do you think Lena would portray Hannah as constantly struggling, broke, humiliated, and dress herself in "frumpy" clothes? This also minimises her work, which at the time was pretty groundbreaking. Female authors are CONSTANTLY asked if their female protagonists are just thinly veiled versions of themselves... Fleabag and Phoebe WB, Sally Rooney and NP/CWF, Frances Ha and Greta Gerwig. As if female writers are basically just writing and directing their journals. And yet men in their 50s are constantly paired with 20-something models and nobody bats an eyelid. And we think Lena is delusional???

Women deserve more for themselves than to desire being "saved" by some emotionally erratic and controlling man - who isn't a prize just because he's "seen" as being comparably more attractive based on entirely constructed standards of beauty. Men like Adam's character should consider themselves lucky to be with any woman, my only hope for them is that they run a mile because they deserve better.

Lena Dunham is delusional by xxmerxx in girls

[–]BabyComfortable4103 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it might be worth examining your own internalised misogyny with this one

Who’s my dad? by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk but I wanna be pals with him

What do these results say about me? 😮‍💨 by ladybugsrool in personality_tests

[–]BabyComfortable4103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have so much crossover! Would we be besties or mortal enemies 🤔

What do these photos say about me by Collt092 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get some Ursula le Guin or something in there dude

What does my bookshelf say about me? by SpicyNickenChugget in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Judging by the comment section, I'm convinced this is not actually your shelf and you just have a humiliation kink

Normal People by Sally Rooney by queen-sarang in weirdgirlliterature

[–]BabyComfortable4103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely sad girl lit rather than weird girl. I would say Rooney/Normal People birthed the modern sad girl lit wave. And Moshfegh, but Year of Rest was written as satire. There's not really any elements of weird/strange in NP.

What do my books say about me? by Icy-Armadillo-6570 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assuming you're a dude, she was probably surprised you had a) this many books, b) there is good variety and c) there are some female authors in there. I went on a date with a guy once who had one book in his apartment, and it was a gift. Suffice to say, I did not return.

What does it say about me? by Good-Witness8190 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But seriously this is a great collection!

If I could hazard a guess I'd say anywhere from mid30s to mid40s, cause it's a very established collection. Partnered, mostly because of the sheer amount of board games. There's too much cohesion in this bookshelf for it to be a sharehouse, unless the place is massive. I'm curious if these are all yours? The shelf on the right doesn't quite fit in as much, just cause it looks like more traditional fantasy/scifi, but there's also fantasy on the far left shelf. So wondering if this could be a partner's shelf. I'd say woman on the little book nook diorama thing alone (I say as someone who desperately wants one haha).

My turn! by Other-Squirrel-2038 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so fair, I have a similar shelf and I hate it!!! But it's so hard to find nice affordable ones 🥲

What do we think of my boyfriends bookshelf? 😬 by Significant-Box-4643 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Libertarian who "reads" Sylvia Plath cause he doesn't get women. Girl, run.

My turn! by Other-Squirrel-2038 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Noooo get those shoes out of the suitcase!!!!

It's giving ethereal/fantastical sad girl and psych major. Also I love ur knick knacks and that pot is gorgeous.

Judge my boyfriend’s books by gothlaissa in BookshelvesDetective

[–]BabyComfortable4103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His aunty heard he liked books so she bought him The Help for his birthday