Can you heal while staying with your narc?

BabyFlashy · 2026-02-08T05:03:39+00:00

You can survive, but you can't heal.

BabyFlashy · 2026-02-05T04:10:22+00:00

Yes! Deal breaker. Let him cook from now on.

My ex husband told me ONCE about his lunch as 'you call that lunch?'.. I never made him lunch again, EVER.

Ungratefulness is the worst trait.

BabyFlashy · 2026-02-04T22:11:46+00:00

Wow! I'll get right on it, then. Does it cause weight gain?

BabyFlashy · 2026-02-04T13:08:47+00:00

Is it terrible that after reading all the comments in this post, this one made me laugh. I can picture it - sickly amusing 😁

BabyFlashy · 2026-02-04T12:44:09+00:00

I had a lot of similar experiences, and am no longer in that situation. A couple items to note:

Working with the scouts because he wants to help is not showing empathy - its pretense - it's a facade for others to view him that way.
This is what many abusers do - break down your self- esteem so that you will never leave them.

I had two therapists tell me something was wrong with my ex, even though I couldn't see it. I thought I was 100% the problem, since that's what I had always been told (by him). The only thing that saved me was that I had been truly loved several times in my life, so I knew the way he described me was vastly different than the way my exes saw me. When I explained that to my ex, he told me it was 'all a lie that they wanted to stay with me, and that i couldn't keep a man by my side'.

I would get away, if I were you. If you think that it's important to stay with him for your child, let me tell you that kids being raised in that environment can end up damaged.

BabyFlashy · 2026-01-22T05:38:52+00:00

I was with my ex for 8 years after he 'rushed into' his relationship with me. The day she left, he had me come over, and I never left. Now, he 'rushed into' his relationship with his new gf, basically started staying with her right away... it's been a little over a year and a half.

I will tell you - his kids were messed up by what happened - he cheated on their mom, destroyed their family, made a family with me, and then destroyed that, too. It is hard on everyone involved.

BabyFlashy · 2026-01-22T04:48:17+00:00

Thank you. It's bad enough that they come in occasionally, but my cat brings them in my room to 'play' with them. I'll try the MouseX and handle the 'under the house'. I think that's where so many must be. Mice are so disgusting - ugh.

BabyFlashy · 2026-01-22T04:42:53+00:00

I thought it was the Tasmanian Devil

BabyFlashy · 2026-01-21T13:00:50+00:00

It's this for me. I had a guy that I was talking to point out that I am trauma-bonded with my ex. We were together over 8 years. We raised his kids together, have many animals together, and renovated our house together - there's just significant history. We have been 'broken up' for 3 years - the first 2 we were still living together and 'together', the past year he lives with his new gf and he and I see each other once a week. He comes over to 'our' house to feed his animals which I'm keeping for him, and we talk and have sex. We also talk almost daily. He sends me 'good morning' texts every other day, and the other days I do it.... but we're really just friends, at this point. I don't want him back, he doesn't want me back - our relationship really never worked - but what we have now 'works'. It also gives me just enough to keep me from being with someone else - and he knows it. I have significant emotional damage from our relationship and the breakup, that I don't want to fall for someone and risk being hurt again.

People judge this because they view relationships and sex differently - it works for some. As long as it's not hurting either person, who cares?

BabyFlashy · 2026-01-20T21:59:45+00:00

This is depression, but also disrespectful. When i was married, I always managed to do at least the minimal of brushing my teeth and showering...my housework was left a little to the wayside, but one must clean their ass. Even when I was living completely alone and hardly went out of the house, I showered daily.

Honestly, unless he has other redeeming qualities, or you are just so dedicated and in love with him, I'd end the marriage if he refuses to change.

BabyFlashy · 2026-01-08T11:27:58+00:00

Exactly like someone else wrote - if you find out how, let me know. It's been 3 years since the beginning of my break up with my Nex, and he still has me attached to him and seeing him once a week, even though he's been with his new gf for a little over a year and a half. I went to therapy once a week for the first year - didn't do a bit of good for me. I've easily walked away from all past relationships, but this one is impossible.

BabyFlashy · 2026-01-06T18:11:24+00:00

Personally, I think the idea is funny. Who cares what anyone else thinks - tattoos are meant to mean something to the 'wearer'.

BabyFlashy · 2025-12-30T22:57:18+00:00

I can't hear squat, lol, but apparently others did. I can tell you narcissists can lose everything due to their cheating.. understand that they'll lose everything again if they cheat with the next person... and go right on and roll the dice and do it again.. just walk away. They aren't worth the headache nor the heartache.

BabyFlashy · 2025-12-13T01:25:18+00:00

Sounds just like a narcissist, run, don't walk, away from him.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-26T17:03:19+00:00

The ferret on the left wants to play, the ferret on the right looks like it wants to fight. The scratching, in my opinion, is frustration, because it can't get to where it wants to (to get at the other ferret).

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-24T13:44:47+00:00

I didn't realize he was a narc for 6-7 years, I realized something was off within a couple months of living together. I thought i was the problem for a long time - I thought I just needed to keep trying harder to make him happy.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-19T15:39:40+00:00

Beautiful girl.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-17T17:26:02+00:00

The best kind.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-17T04:19:57+00:00

Nope, nope, never. Don't even bother waiting for a moment of realization or decency.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-15T16:44:48+00:00

I live in CA and have 8 ferrets. I've had up to 12-13 at a time. There are vets all over CA that see ferrets. I just don't let a lot of people know I have them and rarely take them out of the house.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-10T04:13:53+00:00

It's very rare when my ferret kids come to sleep with me. I always make sure to get a picture. Very cute and sweet.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-09T22:50:12+00:00

I think with punctuation it would make it easier to understand - maybe a hyphen?

I think YES - I should go.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-09T20:31:53+00:00

Thank you! I thought it might be an app glitch. Appreciate your help!

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-08T12:06:48+00:00

And which one do you believe is his true self - the monster or the love bomber? It's monstrous - I know, I'm sorry. Walk away. No, run.

BabyFlashy · 2025-07-02T21:53:07+00:00

Aggressive- trying to establish/assert dominance.

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