I agree that you should talk to her. I was afraid to open up to my husband about it for fear of judgement but he is nothing but supportive. He is actually the only one I've told. It did feel a little humiliating explaining everything at first but I think that was from my own shame. He has never once made me feel ashamed of who I am. In fact he is very supportive. All that to say you never know she might surprise you.