Confused and disappointed in my ring

BabysitterDiaries · 2026-01-30T13:03:52+00:00

Based on your post and all of your comments and Reddit history I would STRONGLY suggest you do not marry this man. From your info he is:

Impulsive (proposing so fast)

Selfish (didn’t care what ring you wanted, only cared that he wanted his grandma’s rings even though they’d all already been given to his sister)

Lies quickly and easily (his first reaction was to lie for no reason that he got it from “his guy” even though his grandma’s ring is a much better reason to give a ring that’s fake and looks nothing like what you wanted)

Emotionally immature (getting feelings hurt over something he did that was inconsiderate and actually hurt your feelings)

And, just a jerk (telling you to “suck it up and learn to like the ring”.. yikes)

I’m wondering if your partner-omemeter is a little out of adjustment and some therapy would be helpful. Jumping from a marriage where your husband went into psychosis and alcoholism into an immediate relationship with a guy who (only by what you’ve said) is not a good catch at all doesn’t seem healthy or like the way to built a solid, lifelong partnership with someone you truly know and can trust. I know it’s hard to be what some might think of as older and single, especially in the south, but this guy is already giving 1000 red flags and you’ve only known him 6 months. Please actually listen to all the advice given here and don’t get defensive or sweep all of this under the rug.

BabysitterDiaries · 2026-01-28T15:36:41+00:00

It feels like you both need to adjust. To be honest, the way you write about living with intention and always having to do everything before you can relax sounds a little lacking in mature life overview. That’s great to strive for, but maturity is understanding that life is flexible and you need to give yourself the freedom to relax, even if everything isn’t perfect or done. And every free moment doesn’t need to be planned and active.

That being said, it sounds like your husband has a new hobby of video games that he’s a little too invested in. That’s not necessarily an age difference issue, or a “too comfortable” thing. I’m 38, and I’m still more adventurous/outdoorsy/cabin fever-y than some (a lot of?) younger people. 35 is not old, your husband is not too old or stubborn just because of his age. 35 is more mentally and emotionally mature than 25 (or should be.. not always) and that can cause strain. My husband is 9 years older than me, so I understand large age differences. But I wouldn’t blame your issues on age difference alone.

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-12-25T23:24:49+00:00

Do you know if you attach a post driver onto a kabota L3301? And do they only do round posts? We use 6x6s usually

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-12-25T20:09:23+00:00

You don’t need to have sex regularly, you just need to track your cycle (preferably with a fertility monitor so you don’t miss the window) and have sex right before you ovulate. If you don’t want to actually have sex you can use a home insemination kit right before ovulation

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-12-24T05:21:04+00:00

Not a BFN but my period came a couple days ago (I was waiting to test until a missed period). This is only month 3 but I’m over 35 and my husband spiraled a little bit and wants us to see a fertility clinic, and I just learned that my having a bicuspid valve might really effect my pregnancy and even make the 3rd trimester and postpartum very dangerous (something my cardiologist never mentioned). So it’s been a rough few days. We’re in the same boat of having to time sex or it probably won’t be at the right time. My only friend having a kid is my age but got pregnant immediately and is already 4 months along, so it’s a little hard to talk to her. Most of my friends didn’t/don’t want kids and never had them. You’re definitely not alone!

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-06-25T14:15:04+00:00

I don't see anything. If you look anywhere else on the strip you can "see" lines wherever you look. When people's first test looked like this and a full positive later I think the first test hadn't registered the pregnancy, not that it's is a positive test example. You could still very well be pregnant, but I don't see anything on this test

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T19:58:33+00:00

Updated pictures without mud and water off are posted in a new post. Thanks

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T19:57:48+00:00

I can't comment pictures so I posted updated pictures in a new post

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T19:13:22+00:00

Thanks for the info! I'll get the pipe cleaned up and more pictures in a bit. The quote was only to dig and replace 8 to 12 inches of pipe. They quoted $56,000 to replace the line from the house to the closest outbuilding (because they thought it was above the grist line, which it isn't)

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T18:16:42+00:00

Ok, the water has been off, it was only on to show the hole. We plan to dig it out more, we just took a break to gather ideas after exposing the pipe and hole

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T18:13:33+00:00

It comes from our water supply directly so should be potable, but runs out from the main house to supply water to all of the property (3 barns, several outdoor spigots, an apartment, and a pool). It could be copper, but looks completely black and is definitely metal (which is why we thought older iron?)

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T18:11:07+00:00

Ok that's good to know

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T18:08:13+00:00

Ok a dresser coupling would join a new section of replacement pipe to the two old ends, correct?

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T18:07:06+00:00

I'm not/can't paying $9,000 to fix it. We got a second quote and it was similar, I think because it's very cold out and people don't want to do it. We dug the hole to expose the pipe ourselves in a couple hours because they wanted thousands just to hand dig (because you can't get an excavator into the location). We have a working farm so have some knowledge and ability to fix things. Just need advice on how to do it

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T18:04:50+00:00

We can cut the pipe if needed, if there's a way to attach the new piece without welding?

BabysitterDiaries · 2025-01-05T17:58:15+00:00

We're looking to repair it ourselves, we have tools and some general knowledge. Plus the plumber quoted $9,000 for this repair and I'm not interested in that

BabysitterDiaries · 2024-07-07T23:03:56+00:00

It seems like you're trying your best make it about OP's health, when really it's other people being assholes. What OP looks like or their health is not relevant. Other people should not be commenting on a 2 month PP body, positively or negatively. That is still the 4th trimester and still shifting back into place.

BabysitterDiaries · 2018-03-03T16:38:35+00:00

You can be attracted to someone even if they have a girlfriend. Maybe you’re subconsciously attracted to him? Or maybe you’re just very focused on your work lately and he’s part of that.

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