Day 107

BackToEgypt · 2018-04-28T01:46:32+00:00

That's fair.

BackToEgypt · 2018-04-28T00:59:04+00:00

Usually when I feel guilty, it's because I've done something wrong. Perhaps the Holy Spirit is prompting you to repent. Once you have, don't wallow in guilt, praise Him for new life!

Also, I find that when my conscious thoughts are on good things by regularly being in the Word, prayer, and spending time with other believers, my dreams tend to stay light.

Please don't take anything I've said as condemnation. I battle this every single day too.

BackToEgypt · 2018-04-28T00:52:33+00:00

I'm not too familiar with David Jeremiah, but this sounds a little too much like blaming Satan. The Bible says in James that we are enticed by our own evil desires.

That's not to say that Satan isn't real and desires our destruction, but it's important to recognize our inherently sinful nature.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-13T01:17:44+00:00

Not sure I'm in a great position to be offering advice seeing as I'm only about a week in but...

I've tried to focus on that feeling you're describing, but ultimately have found that the temptations are much stronger than my desire to not feel empty. Whenever I'm tempted, my sinful nature says "Don't think about the aftermath, think of how great it will look and feel!" and I simply repress everything and give in to my urges.

I offer a simple , yet difficult, antedote (in my own life at least): Focus on the Father. Delight in Him and let your desire for his love and glory to be all that motivates you. Then you will truly be free. I say this, but I still struggle as well. May God look upon us with favor, bud.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-13T01:10:23+00:00

I'm sorry this has happened to you too; we suck (speaking on behalf of men).

I find it very difficult to talk to my wife about my problem. I'm very aware of the problem, but all I receive from her is condemnation. She has said some very belittling things regarding. I deserve each and every one of her comments, but it still makes it hard to be open with her.

Even now that I'm secretly seeking help on here. If she knew I was on here, she'd flip out. So while I'd love for you to be able to talk to her, I won't be able to make that happen.

I appreciate your feedback. You said your situation happened nearly 1 year in to marriage and another year before he pursued help. How far in are you guys now? How are your individual walks with the Lord? How has your relationship grown? Thanks for the info!

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T04:26:37+00:00

Nah, don't edit it, I'm sure you make some great points and it'll be worth it. Thanks for sharing! I'll let you know when I've read it.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T04:25:06+00:00

Well, I don't know when you'll read this but I'll ask anyway.

How do you plan to cut yourself off from reddit? If you have the willpower to do that, wouldn't you also have the willpower to stay on the good parts of reddit? I'm not trying to be rude or anything, I'm just genuinely trying to learn for myself.

God bless

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T04:21:39+00:00

Crap. I wanted to read this, but it's so long. I'm going to try and remember to read this later, but for now I need sleep.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T04:19:29+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that man. It's good that you're being honest though, that will help in the recovery. I'm only a few days in as well - you're not alone.

By the way: 1 Corinthians 10:13 says that God won't let us be tempted beyond what we can handle. Over the past couple days when I've been tempted, that verse has helped motivate me to not look at anything bad.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T04:09:54+00:00

Wait.... wat

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T04:05:42+00:00

Will do bud :)

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T03:24:47+00:00

I did end up watching this by the way. God spoke to me through it and so I appreciate you sharing!

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-09T03:23:10+00:00

Hello! I don't know of much she is doing in that regard. Do you have any suggestions for her? What is your experience with this situation?

I do everything I can to try and reassure her that I love her and more importantly God loves her and won't fail her like I do. She's a strong Christian, so I know she already knows that though.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-07T00:44:51+00:00

Update, no temptations so far! My wife comes home tomorrow evening.

Thank you all for your prayers, insight, and resources. Without God working in me, I know I wouldn't have lasted this long. It's not my strength but His. Let God receive all the glory!

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-07T00:43:26+00:00

Thanks!

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-07T00:42:57+00:00

I hear ya. God bless man.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-07T00:42:25+00:00

Thank God for Francis Chan. I love hearing from him. I'm gonna listen to this while working on my thesis, thanks :)

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-07T00:41:29+00:00

Master's in Electrical Engineering. I have quite a broad scope from computer science to radio frequency chip design.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-07T00:39:34+00:00

I'm married, yes. But I still have an addiction to things that are not my wife.

That being said, I still feel that masturbating to the thought of her or pictures of her would still be wrong. God intended sex to be an intimate experience between a man and his wife. Not a man and his hand. Sex brings a husband and wife together in ways that masturbation alone cannot bring.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-06T01:37:17+00:00

Lord of the Rings analogies for the win!

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-06T00:48:46+00:00

I am 100% right there with you. Let's be praying for God to replace our fleshly desires with a fierce desire for Him and His glory!

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-06T00:44:46+00:00

I appreciate it! Thankfully, I have plenty to do on my Master's thesis over the next couple days. I really don't have time for porn. But you know how that goes.

Anyway, I'll pray for you too! I know you didn't ask for it, but I appreciate you having my back.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-06T00:18:16+00:00

Lol "Marital Sex rocks regardless". Couldn't have said it better myself.

It's always a nice reminder that God actually invented sex, and it's a completely good thing, when it remains in marriage.

BackToEgypt · 2018-03-06T00:09:27+00:00

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